Let's all avoid microaggressions

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


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1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


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Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

Just treat people the way you would want to be treated and you should be just fine.
Common courtesy goes a long way.

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


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1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


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Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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I watched a snowflake liberal in a democrat mob tell conservatives, "Don't come here, you promoters of discrimination, you are not welcome here. This is our town and we welcome everyone here."

I don't think she realized what she was saying. You cannot keep from offending leftist loonies if you are a conservative because conservatives to leftist loonies are "damned if they do or damned if they don't say whatever loonies vicariously claim they should be or not be saying at the time.

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


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~snipped the examples because I think people who get offended by this stuff need to not be so sensitive~

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Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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On the other hand...

Social interaction has a way of teaching people where the line is. For example, if you have a "good friend" and you say something they find offensive, you might lose a friend. Now you know where the line is. If you say something offensive to someone who is not a good friend, you might get knocked on your ass. Now you know where the line is. If you are a public person and you say something to offend your viewers, you might find yourself out of a job. Now you know where the line is.

Common Sense 1 said:

Just treat people the way you would want to be treated and you should be just fine.
Common courtesy goes a long way.

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Agreed. No need for this Political Correct BS, nor it's one-eyes step child micro-aggression.
Political Correctness doesn't seem to be very popular with the electorate, which doesn't surprise me, in that Political Correctness came from the liberal elite echo chamber in the blue fringes of the country, yet again trying to dictate their idiocy onto the rest of the nation.

I've insulted some of my best friends the most and vice versa. We don't take it as a personal affront though, we realize that we're close enough to tweak one another and get away with it. The insults are almost like forms of affection between us.

On the other hand, I think it's wise to be sensitive and respectful to anyone who may take offense, like those we don't know very well.

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).

*****

1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


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Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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Ummm…. :think:


NO! :naughty

I do not support the ideology of "microaggression," that is just an inane viewpoint designed to force people to conform to limits on their freedom of expression.

I've said time and again that words alone only have that power which YOU grant to harm you. It is YOUR choice to be angered, frightened, upset, or offended. Otherwise they are merely sounds you can ignore, laugh at, or attempt to verbally refute as you so choose.

People should never feel the need to watch what they say for fear of accidentally offending someone. It should NEVER cause people to limit their political free speech expression.

I was actually watching a video clip on YouTube on this type of topic:

"Carolla and Prager ask: What if we all stopped apologizing?"





Why are we pushing for a need to preface any remarks by apologizing that you are not whatever "-ist" or "-phobe" someone might accuse you of simply because they might choose to be offended by what you say?

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


*****


1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


*****

Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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Awwwwwww. Maybe we should just have people grow up, not be insensitive but also not be soooOOOOOooo sensitive to something not at all meant to be anything but conversation. We used to teaching coping, now we teaching crying and whinning.

Btw, I am offended you would even suggest such a thing... so will you take it back, erase the thread? :lamoeace

Captain Adverse said:

Ummm…. :think:


NO! :naughty

I do not support the ideology of "microaggression," that is just an inane viewpoint designed to force people to conform to limits on their freedom of expression.

I've said time and again that words alone only have that power which YOU grant to harm you. It is YOUR choice to be angered, frightened, upset, or offended. Otherwise they are merely sounds you can ignore, laugh at, or attempt to verbally refute as you so choose.

People should never feel the need to watch what they say for fear of accidentally offending someone. It should NEVER cause people to limit their political free speech expression.

I was actually watching a video clip on YouTube on this type of topic:

"Carolla and Prager ask: What if we all stopped apologizing?"





Why are we pushing for a need to preface any remarks by apologizing that you are not whatever "-ist" or "-phobe" someone might accuse you of simply because they might choose to be offended by what you say?

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Preach on bro,

Captain Adverse said:

Ummm…. :think:


NO! :naughty

I do not support the ideology of "microaggression," that is just an inane viewpoint designed to force people to conform to limits on their freedom of expression.

I've said time and again that words alone only have that power which YOU grant to harm you. It is YOUR choice to be angered, frightened, upset, or offended. Otherwise they are merely sounds you can ignore, laugh at, or attempt to verbally refute as you so choose.

People should never feel the need to watch what they say for fear of accidentally offending someone. It should NEVER cause people to limit their political free speech expression.

I was actually watching a video clip on YouTube on this type of topic:

"Carolla and Prager ask: What if we all stopped apologizing?"





Why are we pushing for a need to preface any remarks by apologizing that you are not whatever "-ist" or "-phobe" someone might accuse you of simply because they might choose to be offended by what you say?

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Preach on bro,

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


*****


1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


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Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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I do think we should stop microaggressions it’s time to move on to macroaggressions

Common Sense 1 said:

Just treat people the way you would want to be treated and you should be just fine.
Common courtesy goes a long way.

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The part often ignored is that people don't see things the same. "I don't use my triggers but I can use his because I see it different" is not treating someone as you'd be treated.

Nothing wrong with being offended.
Sticks and stones man.......

Offence is one of those rare things that can be taken, even when not given.


Life's a bitch. Grab a helmet, and suck it up, butter cup. Or get used to your moms basement.

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


*****


1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


*****

Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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I take exception to the very word "microaggressions" precisely because it IS the language of the delicate little snowflake who cannot deal with the outside world. The entire concept of "microaggressions" is the very thing that irritates ordinary liberals the most, in my humble opinion.
Who are these people who obsess over "safe spaces" in an environment where safe space is the very last thing you want to look for?
Who are these idiots who screech and cry over "micro-bullcrap" and who demand censorship of thoughts and ideas that make them uncomfortable?



They are not the liberals I know, or grew up with, or worked with.

I can tell you what will become of these scared little twits: Most if not all of them will become ultra-conservatives by the time they hit 30 years of age, or sooner. How can I tell? What do I base this prediction on?
I base it on the fact that they cannot be open to anything but their own little circle, and their own little safe space!
That's the very kind of bubble fascist ultra-conservatives live in.
The truth is, these screaming little snowflakes are INDEED a carbon copy of the fascists liberals cannot stomach, it's just that they don't know it yet.
They failed as liberals, and they have given license to the inner fascist that existed in them all along.
And at around age 30 or even before, that inner fascist is going to take over completely.
It will become their identity from head to toe.

So take all these "micro-aggressions"...and the very word itself, and shove them straight up where the Sun doesn't shine.
No, I am not addressing you (TheParser) personally...this is just my statement - - AS A LIBERAL - - about how I feel about the whole concept.

I AM LIBERAL, that means that I AM OPEN.
It also means that I am STRONG.

On a personal level, I just subscribe to "Don't be an asshole"*...that's good enough.

*(unless the other person is begging for it)

TheParser said:

I know that many people snicker at university students as snowflakes for having hurt feelings over what someone says to them.

But I do think that in our daily interactions with people, we should be careful NOT to commit a microaggression (i.e., an unintended insult).


*****


1. If you have a very good Asian friend who speaks English even better than you, it would NOT be wise to greet him/her with "Long time no see, dude!"


2. If your best friend is an African American and you two have a heated argument, it would be wise NOT to say in anger: "Well, thanks for finally showing your true colors."


3. A school in Texas has just gotten into hot water because Halloween participants dressed up as undocumented immigrants. Really stupid to do something like that at any time.


4. A former FOX commentator once said quite innocently something like: "I have just eaten at a restaurant that is patronized mostly by [name of an ethnicity]. I was impressed that the patrons were eating and talking in an orderly manner."


a. Of course, he got some flak, but he was able to keep his job. (What brought him down was the MeToo movement.)


*****

Although I think that President Trump is doing a great job, I do agree that he should watch some of his words, for he is committing microaggressions that do really hurt people's feelings.

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It's stuff like #1 and 2 that are over the top PC. I don't get #1 at all. What's wrong with that?

JC Callender said:

I've insulted some of my best friends the most and vice versa. We don't take it as a personal affront though, we realize that we're close enough to tweak one another and get away with it. The insults are almost like forms of affection between us.

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As would be the case for most normal people.

On the other hand, I think it's wise to be sensitive and respectful to anyone who may take offense, like those we don't know very well.

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Fair. Still doesn't support the Politically Correct idiocy though, but don't think that's what you were doing anyway.

holbritter said:

I don't get #1 at all. What's wrong with that?

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Well, some people might think that you are either making fun of his/her English or you are trying to poke fun at Asian languages.


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This is supposedly a true story.

In the 1940s, the Chinese ambassador to the States was a very distinguished gentleman.

At a dinner, he was seated with a Caucasian gentleman who did not know who he was. So the gentleman very kindly said to the ambassador: "You likee food?" The ambassador did not answer. Eventually, the ambassador walked up to the dais where he delivered a speech in flawless English. Upon returning to the table, he asked the Caucasian gentleman: "You likee speech?"


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The bottom line: We really should not say/do anything that will UNintentionally hurt the feelings of another human being. There's simply no point to it. I admit it: I get a big chuckle when President Trump uses funny nicknames to refer to certain individuals. But it isn't really nice. And let's face it: This is 2018. The nation is changing to an extent that no one could have imagined in the 1960s. I think that younger generations are right to request more sensitivity in our speech and actions.

TheParser said:

Well, some people might think that you are either making fun of his/her English or you are trying to poke fun at Asian languages.


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This is supposedly a true story.

In the 1940s, the Chinese ambassador to the States was a very distinguished gentleman.

At a dinner, he was seated with a Caucasian gentleman who did not know who he was. So the gentleman very kindly said to the ambassador: "You likee food?" The ambassador did not answer. Eventually, the ambassador walked up to the dais where he delivered a speech in flawless English. Upon returning to the table, he asked the Caucasian gentleman: "You likee speech?"


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The bottom line: We really should not say/do anything that will UNintentionally hurt the feelings of another human being. There's simply no point to it. I admit it: I get a big chuckle when President Trump uses funny nicknames to refer to certain individuals. But it isn't really nice. And let's face it: This is 2018. The nation is changing to an extent that no one could have imagined in the 1960s. I think that younger generations are right to request more sensitivity in our speech and actions.

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You see, here's the difference as I see it. I would have never thought a phrase like "Hey, long time no see dude!" would in any way insult Asian people, and I bet none of Asians I know would either. Simply because we don't always think of the differences between us.

So, uhm, you shouldn't treat a smart Asian friend the same way you treat your Caucasian & African American friends, in that you should speak 'differently' to them? So when white and black friends walk in, you give them a handshake or high five, and say either "hey man, what's up", or "what's up dudes". But when your Asian friend walks in behind them, you are supposed to suddenly change up your happy go lucky greeting, and get all serious, and address him like, "greetings Yuan. I sincerely hope your travel was pleasant. I welcome you to my humble homestead". That's a bit of an exaggeration, but if I was asian, and my non Asian friends addressed each other in a more casual, friendly, personalized manner, but greeted me in a more serious and less personable way, I'd feel singled out.... I'd feel patronized.

This is only a very minor example of this ideologically motivated hyper-politically correct plague that's being pushed onto our society. There's a reason why some people are referred to as 'snowflakes'. Its because they have been indoctrinated and conditioned to see offense and oppression EVERYWHERE.... They take offense at inoffensive comments. Once they are offended, they demand that their 'oppressor' be silenced, or fired or thrown out of school etc. These days you never know what harmless comment will offend them. It becomes a serious problem when people of that mindset become managers and supervisors, who have the power to end people's careers on a whim!

These 'snowflakes' don't simply adopt their mindset in a vacuum. They were/are conditioned to adopt this irrational, knee-jerk behavior, by political activists who know that the 'snowflakes' can ALWAYS be counted on to show up and vote, and all it takes, is to fill their heads with fearful propaganda, like, "Nazis at the gates", "fascists filling the streets", "alt-right judges upending Roe v Wade", or just "republicans don't say nice things".

Of course people should be polite with one another. But you shouldn't go around treating people of different races differently. Race doesn't define people. People are individuals with different personalities, not mindless, stereotypical androids who are entirely defined by which group they belong to. So treat people like individuals.....

You remember how our government used to be overly concerned about subversive communists, who sought to weaken us, destroy our institutions, undermine our laws, erode our civil liberties and eventually destroy our country as a successful democracy? Many of those 'anti-communists ' were democrats! But now the Democratic party, steered along by the globalist elites, have become the subversive enemy that those old democrats tried to expose. They are rolling over in their graves, as insidiously corrupt, unaccountable 'democrats' seek to turn our sovereign democracy into a global, socialist autocracy.

marke said:

I watched a snowflake liberal in a democrat mob tell conservatives, "Don't come here, you promoters of discrimination, you are not welcome here. This is our town and we welcome everyone here."

I don't think she realized what she was saying. You cannot keep from offending leftist loonies if you are a conservative because conservatives to leftist loonies are "damned if they do or damned if they don't say whatever loonies vicariously claim they should be or not be saying at the time.

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I'm sorry you went through that horrible experience. Are you going to be okay? I'm here if you need someone to talk to.

It appears a Texas school has fine tuned the stereotype for the illegal immigrant and further recognize a microaggression involved when a student masquerades for the purpose of celebrating an American cultural event, Halloween.

Please provide any available information regarding this stereotype.

The post indicates that identifying "stupid", is not a microaggression.

First time I have heard of “long time no see” being a micro aggression against Asians, and I have an Asian wife and two Asian kids. I asked my wife wife if she found it offensive and she said, “No, that’s retarded”. I told her “retarded” is also politically incorrect. She asked what “politically incorrect” means. I replied, “ it isn’t important”.

Skeptic Bob said:

First time I have heard of “long time no see” being a micro aggression against Asians, and I have an Asian wife and two Asian kids. I asked my wife wife if she found it offensive and she said, “No, that’s retarded”. I told her “retarded” is also politically incorrect. She asked what “politically incorrect” means. I replied, “ it isn’t important”.

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You nor she is expected to know everything. But if you don't know the next thing, you might be fined.