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Glowpun

Glowpun

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Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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No, you have to deal with this.

Text him that you are busy on those dates, not this time, and recommend a motel....."The Motel 6 on LEX has remodeled rooms".
 
Hawkeye10 said:
No, you have to deal with this.

Text him that you are busy on those dates, not this time, and recommend a motel....."The Motel 6 on LEX has remodeled rooms".
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Thanks for the input. One can't always be sure if he is joking or not.
And if I have told him twice I have told him a thousand time...
 
Hawkeye10 said:
No, you have to deal with this.

Text him that you are busy on those dates, not this time, and recommend a motel....."The Motel 6 on LEX has remodeled rooms".
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I'd have to agree. Has to be laid down in no uncertain terms that there's no room at your place.

You don't want him showing up at your door step with no place to go. You'll end up giving in, and that's wrong. So you'd turn him away? Well, that's wrong too.

You both need to avoid that predicament. Facing it head on is the only way.
 
Glowpun said:
Thanks for the input. One can't always be sure if he is joking or not.
And if I have told him twice I have told him a thousand time...
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Do yourself a favor, next time he visits, borrow a big gassy dog. Tell him the dog is now yours. He'll never visit again. I'd lend you mine, but he delivers matches to visitors. My wife taught him that when she first started visiting. There's no hope, it's a conspiracy.
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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Listen I don’t know the nature of your relationship, but if a friend of mine were truly attending a funeral I would cut him some slack. Now if he’s just jerking you around, and has a history of jerking you around that might be different. But if it were my friend and he was truly Attending a funeral because someone close to him had died, I’d allow it
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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I would say that funerals are special considerations. Airlines will cut their fares for family members of the deceased who are flying to a funeral, and I think that's a good way to look at it. It's not like he's coming just for a visit. I think I'd go along this time, but, in the future, if he does this for no good reason -- lock him out.
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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I would say that funerals are special considerations. Airlines will cut their fares for family members of the deceased who are flying to a funeral, and I think that's a good way to look at it. It's not like he's coming just for a visit. I think I'd go along this time, but, in the future, if he does this for no good reason -- lock him out.
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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Rather presumptuous, isn't he?

My family will not even "come on by" without calling and checking first.....its a matter of respect and common courtesy.
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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Most folks cant give a weeks notice for a funeral, its not like he chose the dates. Cut him some slack
 
Glowpun said:
Hey folks,

Here's something.

I have a friend "Esteban" who lives out of state. He said he is coming to the area to attend a funeral and expects me to drive to an airport out of town to pick him up. Here is the problem. I have told him more than once that if he wants to stay over at my place he must give me a week's notice. He is not doing that. Note that he does not bother to ask me if he can stay at my place. He just says he's coming over.

My reaction: Ignore his texts since he has been informed. Agreed?
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You are doing the right thing, you will be doing him a favor in the long run.
 
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