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Do you support, and stand by, your spouse, even if they are wrong?
My husband was a cop for 17 years, and is all about respect and authority. If he and I disagree on something, he gets butthurt and says that I don't respect him and that I should support him and stand by his decision.
I tell him that I am a grown-ass woman with my own grown-ass ideas and ways of looking at things, and that this isn't the 50s. I also tell him that just because I don't agree with him, doesn't mean I don't respect him. I just disagree with him.
Current argument? Our daughter's bedroom. She's 18, and doesn't keep a perfectly tidy room, but it's OK. Much better than a lot of teenagers' rooms. The floor is clean, the shelves are clean - it's just a little sloppy, but not bad at all. He wants to be able to go in there and bounce a quarter off the bed. We disagree on this, and he says that I don't support him or respect him.
I do respect him, but that doesn't mean that I have to agree with him on everything.
My husband was a cop for 17 years, and is all about respect and authority. If he and I disagree on something, he gets butthurt and says that I don't respect him and that I should support him and stand by his decision.
I tell him that I am a grown-ass woman with my own grown-ass ideas and ways of looking at things, and that this isn't the 50s. I also tell him that just because I don't agree with him, doesn't mean I don't respect him. I just disagree with him.
Current argument? Our daughter's bedroom. She's 18, and doesn't keep a perfectly tidy room, but it's OK. Much better than a lot of teenagers' rooms. The floor is clean, the shelves are clean - it's just a little sloppy, but not bad at all. He wants to be able to go in there and bounce a quarter off the bed. We disagree on this, and he says that I don't support him or respect him.
I do respect him, but that doesn't mean that I have to agree with him on everything.