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Love and Life...then Murder

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One of my many distractions while working is watching/listening to these 20/20, Dateline and 48 Hours type real crime murder mysteries. Creepy. I know.

Anyway, 90% of these episodes are stories describing how spouse A killed B, almost got away with it, but then, of course, got nabbed in the end. Usually the motive is money, like an insurance policy or an attempt to avoid splitting the wealth which would come with a legal divorce. Other times it's just rage, or something a bit more complicated than that. One that sticks out was the husband who killed his wife because she knew too much.

About half of these murders include another lover. Another woman or man is in the picture. But, in the end, the murder is still almost always motivated by the damned money. Cheating spouse want to keep the house, the bank accounts, the business, etc. Sometimes it's about keeping the kids---but not too often.

Here's what gets me. How can you fall in love with someone and then flip a switch and suddenly want them dead? I mean sure, I can see wanting to get out of a bad marriage or leave a spouse for a brighter, hotter sex object. But, murder....is money that important to people?
 
Here's what gets me. How can you fall in love with someone and then flip a switch and suddenly want them dead?
Because it wasn't really love to begin with or they fell out of love.
 
One of my many distractions while working is watching/listening to these 20/20, Dateline and 48 Hours type real crime murder mysteries. Creepy. I know.

Anyway, 90% of these episodes are stories describing how spouse A killed B, almost got away with it, but then, of course, got nabbed in the end. Usually the motive is money, like an insurance policy or an attempt to avoid splitting the wealth which would come with a legal divorce. Other times it's just rage, or something a bit more complicated than that. One that sticks out was the husband who killed his wife because she knew too much.

About half of these murders include another lover. Another woman or man is in the picture. But, in the end, the murder is still almost always motivated by the damned money. Cheating spouse want to keep the house, the bank accounts, the business, etc. Sometimes it's about keeping the kids---but not too often.

Here's what gets me. How can you fall in love with someone and then flip a switch and suddenly want them dead? I mean sure, I can see wanting to get out of a bad marriage or leave a spouse for a brighter, hotter sex object. But, murder....is money that important to people?

The old saying is, "The person you divorce is very very different from the person you marry." Another old saying is "Follow the money." Old sayings are old sayings for a reason.

And, yes. Money is VERY important to some people... especially when either party has a mental picture of their spouse banging somebody else. Drew Peterson, a cop from Chicago, divorced his first wife when they were quite young. Was convicted 10 or so years later of killing his second wife because divorce was imminent and he didn't want to split assets nor his cop pension. And probably killed his third wife for the same reason. Her body was never found. Just a horrendous example...

So, if one is a sociopath by nature or turned into one by the emotional turmoil of divorce, cops always looking to the spouse after a spouse murder is well founded.
 
While murders sometimes happen for no obvious reason, there's usually a solid motive: something to be gained, or not-lost, by someone's death; or emotional reasons like revenge, for wrongs real or imagined.


Typically your spouse is the person you're most involved with personally, emotionally, financially, and the person who can most easily ruin your life if they choose, so that's why police so often look at the spouse first when someone is murdered.

Often people marry without really knowing their mate as well as they think. Then "once they have papers on you", and think you're locked in, the "real person" emerges and sometimes it is ugly. Sometimes there's abuse or mistreatment to a level that drives the other literally out of their mind.

Other times one turns out to be a sociopath, or near-sociopath.


Love can easily turn to hate when abused.

Then there's the sociopaths, who typically don't really feel love in the first place, who don't see other people as real, just as tools. When their chosen tool ceases to be useful, they can discard it or destroy it with little more regret than you'd toss out a broken appliance.
 
While murders sometimes happen for no obvious reason, there's usually a solid motive: something to be gained, or not-lost, by someone's death; or emotional reasons like revenge, for wrongs real or imagined.


Typically your spouse is the person you're most involved with personally, emotionally, financially, and the person who can most easily ruin your life if they choose, so that's why police so often look at the spouse first when someone is murdered.

Often people marry without really knowing their mate as well as they think. Then "once they have papers on you", and think you're locked in, the "real person" emerges and sometimes it is ugly. Sometimes there's abuse or mistreatment to a level that drives the other literally out of their mind.

Other times one turns out to be a sociopath, or near-sociopath.


Love can easily turn to hate when abused.

Then there's the sociopaths, who typically don't really feel love in the first place, who don't see other people as real, just as tools. When their chosen tool ceases to be useful, they can discard it or destroy it with little more regret than you'd toss out a broken appliance.

Your last paragraph? I believe that describes Drew Peterson to a T.
 
One of my many distractions while working is watching/listening to these 20/20, Dateline and 48 Hours type real crime murder mysteries. Creepy. I know.

Anyway, 90% of these episodes are stories describing how spouse A killed B, almost got away with it, but then, of course, got nabbed in the end. Usually the motive is money, like an insurance policy or an attempt to avoid splitting the wealth which would come with a legal divorce. Other times it's just rage, or something a bit more complicated than that. One that sticks out was the husband who killed his wife because she knew too much.

About half of these murders include another lover. Another woman or man is in the picture. But, in the end, the murder is still almost always motivated by the damned money. Cheating spouse want to keep the house, the bank accounts, the business, etc. Sometimes it's about keeping the kids---but not too often.

Here's what gets me. How can you fall in love with someone and then flip a switch and suddenly want them dead? I mean sure, I can see wanting to get out of a bad marriage or leave a spouse for a brighter, hotter sex object. But, murder....is money that important to people?

I fell in love with a girl who wound me up so much I wanted her dead(well almost) and loved her at the same time. Bloody extreme emotional rollercoaster. Glad it ended quickly.
 
I fell in love with a girl who wound me up so much I wanted her dead(well almost) and loved her at the same time. Bloody extreme emotional rollercoaster. Glad it ended quickly.

Scary...especially if some booze gets into the picture lowing inhibitions.
 
While murders sometimes happen for no obvious reason, there's usually a solid motive: something to be gained, or not-lost, by someone's death; or emotional reasons like revenge, for wrongs real or imagined.


Typically your spouse is the person you're most involved with personally, emotionally, financially, and the person who can most easily ruin your life if they choose, so that's why police so often look at the spouse first when someone is murdered.

Often people marry without really knowing their mate as well as they think. Then "once they have papers on you", and think you're locked in, the "real person" emerges and sometimes it is ugly. Sometimes there's abuse or mistreatment to a level that drives the other literally out of their mind.

Other times one turns out to be a sociopath, or near-sociopath.


Love can easily turn to hate when abused.

Then there's the sociopaths, who typically don't really feel love in the first place, who don't see other people as real, just as tools. When their chosen tool ceases to be useful, they can discard it or destroy it with little more regret than you'd toss out a broken appliance.

Yeah. I guess if subject A is incapable of love, victim B is simply an object getting in the way of X, Y or Z. That's messed up, but I think that explains a lot of what I am seeing in these shows.
 
Scary...especially if some booze gets into the picture lowing inhibitions.

Yes the odd position of being so in love that you would cheerfully die rather than see her hurt and wanting to ring her neck at the same time.... not really....
 
That dude sure was (is) a scum bucket.

And he LOOKS like a scumbag, if youve ever seen his photo... so arrogant. He ruined his son's life without a second thought. Son was an officer with the Oak Brook IL police dept. I cannot tell you what a fine community that is. Because he gave his son his guns to hold, and the son was too loyal to his dad, he lost his job and ruined his career. Dad knew better than that, but he didn't give a tinker's dam.
 
And he LOOKS like a scumbag, if youve ever seen his photo... so arrogant. He ruined his son's life without a second thought. Son was an officer with the Oak Brook IL police dept. I cannot tell you what a fine community that is. Because he gave his son his guns to hold, and the son was too loyal to his dad, he lost his job and ruined his career. Dad knew better than that, but he didn't give a tinker's dam.

One of the guys I went to grade school with back in the late 60's and early 70's is assistant Police Chief in Oak Brook. But, I think he's in OB Terrace.
 
One of the guys I went to grade school with back in the late 60's and early 70's is assistant Police Chief in Oak Brook. But, I think he's in OB Terrace.

Right next door. Great community.
 
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