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Anyone Ever been Catfished?

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Ok, not exactly a topic people will be quick to raise their hand on, but what the hell. Has anyone here fallen for a BS online "pal" selling themselves as a hot chick?


I suspect I had me one a few years ago. The good news is that I wasn't really interested, otherwise I know I would have fallen for it. lol

What happened was that I stumbled onto this person in one of these here discussion forum deals. She claimed to be in her mid-twenties (maybe a little too loudly, now that I think of it), and the two of us often argued the same points together. Before long, we formed a bit of a tag team and kicked forum butt. That was fun. This led to PM's, which soon began flying by the dozens. Saying we messaged each other a couple hundred times a week would not be an exaggeration.

I was very much inclined to carry on this private conversation, and I have to admit, I very much enjoyed it (obviously). However, I soon began to become suspicious--say, maybe about a month into it--when "she" kept trying to draw me into sex talk. I wasn't having any of it because I was in a very solid and sexually gratifying R/L relationship. I even told the gf about the online buddy. So, around the time the sex talk requests came in, I basically spelled out the situation to my "friend." I told "her" that I was only interested in having a friend to talk to. That seemed to flip the switch, and she quickly moved on to bigger fish.

Looking back now, that whole experience has me wondering...especially now that we all know Cat-fishing is relatively common. Like I said, I'm glad I wasn't interested because I would have fallen for it. And, I am pretty sure this person was not real.
 
Not technically since I could fairly well see what was going on from the first contact. I played along for a few weeks because I thought it would be amusing and informative to see how this was being done first hand.
 
I thought you were talking about fishing!

But no, I never let my on line "life" touvh my meat space and I advise people to do the same. Top many nefarious characters out there. Join the Elks instead.
 
chuckiechan said:
I thought you were talking about fishing!

But no, I never let my on line "life" touvh my meat space and I advise people to do the same. Top many nefarious characters out there. Join the Elks instead.
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Hmm...I used to drink at the Moose. SOme of the women I met there...I'd probably prefer being catfished. :)
 
backpacker said:
Not technically since I could fairly well see what was going on from the first contact. I played along for a few weeks because I thought it would be amusing and informative to see how this was being done first hand.
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One of the first signs I picked up on was that "she" had an amazing grasp of late 60's and early 70's pop culture. Totally un-millennial like. Now, I knew younger women who were all into retro, but by younger I'm talking about women who were now all in their mid to late 30's ("now" being the time of the fishing, about 7-8 years ago).

So, when we are talking about someone supposedly born in 1985 or so who knew details from the film 2001 Space Odyssey and TV shows like "Man from Uncle" and "Gunsmoke," I'm not buying. She claimed to have seen these with her dad who had a giant DVD collection. Yeah, right.
 
calamity said:
One of the first signs I picked up on was that "she" had an amazing grasp of late 60's and early 70's pop culture. Totally un-millennial like. Now, I knew younger women who were all into retro, but by younger I'm talking about women who were now all in their mid to late 30's ("now" being the time of the fishing, about 7-8 years ago).

So, when we are talking about someone supposedly born in 1985 or so who knew details from the film 2001 Space Odyssey and TV shows like "Man from Uncle" and "Gunsmoke," I'm not buying. She claimed to have seen these with her dad who had a giant DVD collection. Yeah, right.
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A lot of it goes to stuff like that and semantics. There are ways to write that just project gender regardless of what they are saying.
 
backpacker said:
A lot of it goes to stuff like that and semantics. There are ways to write that just project gender regardless of what they are saying.
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I didn't pick up anything there. The writing came across very much like I would expect from a female. But, looking back, I'd say most of what she wrote about herself could not possibly be true. At the very least, it was very improbable...and, somewhat inconsistent.
 
calamity said:
I didn't pick up anything there. The writing came across very much like I would expect from a female. But, looking back, I'd say most of what she wrote about herself could not possibly be true. At the very least, it was very improbable...and, somewhat inconsistent.
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I was cold hard stalked by a woman 20 years older than me in real life once. It was creepy as F. She worked the same place I did. I quit because of it. Didn't tell my boss why because then he would have had to report it up the management ladder and it would've become a thing. I was 16 and that thing would have ended up involving my folks. I didn't want to be that guy who was claiming to be sexually harassed by a woman even though that is exactly what it was. Easier just to find another job.
 
calamity said:
Ok, not exactly a topic people will be quick to raise their hand on, but what the hell. Has anyone here fallen for a BS online "pal" selling themselves as a hot chick?


I suspect I had me one a few years ago. The good news is that I wasn't really interested, otherwise I know I would have fallen for it. lol

What happened was that I stumbled onto this person in one of these here discussion forum deals. She claimed to be in her mid-twenties (maybe a little too loudly, now that I think of it), and the two of us often argued the same points together. Before long, we formed a bit of a tag team and kicked forum butt. That was fun. This led to PM's, which soon began flying by the dozens. Saying we messaged each other a couple hundred times a week would not be an exaggeration.

I was very much inclined to carry on this private conversation, and I have to admit, I very much enjoyed it (obviously). However, I soon began to become suspicious--say, maybe about a month into it--when "she" kept trying to draw me into sex talk. I wasn't having any of it because I was in a very solid and sexually gratifying R/L relationship. I even told the gf about the online buddy. So, around the time the sex talk requests came in, I basically spelled out the situation to my "friend." I told "her" that I was only interested in having a friend to talk to. That seemed to flip the switch, and she quickly moved on to bigger fish.

Looking back now, that whole experience has me wondering...especially now that we all know Cat-fishing is relatively common. Like I said, I'm glad I wasn't interested because I would have fallen for it. And, I am pretty sure this person was not real.
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Don't know if this counts as a "cat fish," or not, but when I was in college someone online started sending me really weird, random, messages. These generally took the form of bits of poems, and other random gibberish. The person eventually claimed that there was a "code" hidden in all of this (though I certainly didn't have the slightest clue how to confirm that one way or the other), and that I should meet them at a local bar if I could figure it out. They provided an exact time and address, and specified what they would be wearing.

Needless to say, the fact that this person seemed to have a good idea of where I lived freaked me out (they might have even used my real name, though I can't remember for sure), so I didn't go. The messages stopped after that.

I have no idea who it could have been. A classmate playing a prank? A really esoteric attempt at a romantic come on? Some psycho with nefarious intent?

Who knows! I might have unwittingly blown my one opportunity to get recruited into the NSA/CIA/Men In Black/Human Resistance Against the Machines, for all it matters now.

That would be just my luck. Haha
 
calamity said:
Ok, not exactly a topic people will be quick to raise their hand on, but what the hell. Has anyone here fallen for a BS online "pal" selling themselves as a hot chick?


I suspect I had me one a few years ago. The good news is that I wasn't really interested, otherwise I know I would have fallen for it. lol

What happened was that I stumbled onto this person in one of these here discussion forum deals. She claimed to be in her mid-twenties (maybe a little too loudly, now that I think of it), and the two of us often argued the same points together. Before long, we formed a bit of a tag team and kicked forum butt. That was fun. This led to PM's, which soon began flying by the dozens. Saying we messaged each other a couple hundred times a week would not be an exaggeration.

I was very much inclined to carry on this private conversation, and I have to admit, I very much enjoyed it (obviously). However, I soon began to become suspicious--say, maybe about a month into it--when "she" kept trying to draw me into sex talk. I wasn't having any of it because I was in a very solid and sexually gratifying R/L relationship. I even told the gf about the online buddy. So, around the time the sex talk requests came in, I basically spelled out the situation to my "friend." I told "her" that I was only interested in having a friend to talk to. That seemed to flip the switch, and she quickly moved on to bigger fish.

Looking back now, that whole experience has me wondering...especially now that we all know Cat-fishing is relatively common. Like I said, I'm glad I wasn't interested because I would have fallen for it. And, I am pretty sure this person was not real.
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As a person who has done online dating before, bots are a way of life. They are also getting really smart with this new AI stuff that's coming out. They can automatically pinpoint your location. Begging you to meet up, of course way too eagerly and then before you know it you are getting scammed because they want you to sign up for some site to either A) "prove who you are" Get your credit card info, or B) sign up to a webcam sess.

I also tried to sell something on Craigslist and people in California kept bugging me about the product even though I said it was for pick-up only on the east coast.
 
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