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What do retired men do for interests, activities, make friends?

justabubba said:
what i emphasized is the point
nothing indicates this fellow is other than happy with his lot in life
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...except that he's making everybody else around him unhappy. Truth be told, they're not as concerned for his happiness as they are for their own sanity.

And I'm not saying that as a slam to the family members. Other people are important, too. It's not all about just this one guy.
 
radcen said:
...except that he's making everybody else around him unhappy. Truth be told, they're not as concerned for his happiness as they are for their own sanity.

And I'm not saying that as a slam to the family members. Other people are important, too. It's not all about just this one guy.
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Everyone loves him, which is why no one has said anything to him. Everyone knows what's going on, I think. Another sister, now deceased, also recognized it, and she was bed-bound in an institution! She talked to him and tried to get him to join a dancing group, since he likes to dance. It did no good. But she recognized that he didn't seem to have a life, anymore, outside of the grandson, and seemed unhappy or lost, however you want to put it.
 
JumpinJack said:
Everyone loves him, which is why no one has said anything to him. Everyone knows what's going on, I think. Another sister, now deceased, also recognized it, and she was bed-bound in an institution! She talked to him and tried to get him to join a dancing group, since he likes to dance. It did no good. But she recognized that he didn't seem to have a life, anymore, outside of the grandson, and seemed unhappy or lost, however you want to put it.
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Have you thought about a pet for him? If he's close to the grandson would his parents get a pet so grandfather could help him learn how to look after it?
 
Infinite Chaos said:
Have you thought about a pet for him? If he's close to the grandson would his parents get a pet so grandfather could help him learn how to look after it?
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We've discussed this a bit, since I have dogs. I think that the responsibility of a dog may impinge on his freedom. He likes to come and go as he pleases (he eats out for every meal, goes visiting, etc.), and dogs require care, love, attention, a structure, exercise. But I'm still mulling that over. It's possible that ONE dog, an older one, who would easily go with him to places might be something to consider. He likes dogs. It might keep him home more, and provide unconditional love and companionship. I love my dogs! But it is like having kids.
 
JumpinJack said:
We've discussed this a bit, since I have dogs. I think that the responsibility of a dog may impinge on his freedom. He likes to come and go as he pleases (he eats out for every meal, goes visiting, etc.), and dogs require care, love, attention, a structure, exercise. But I'm still mulling that over. It's possible that ONE dog, an older one, who would easily go with him to places might be something to consider. He likes dogs. It might keep him home more, and provide unconditional love and companionship. I love my dogs! But it is like having kids.
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Could he "borrow" one occasionally to see how it goes?
 
Infinite Chaos said:
Could he "borrow" one occasionally to see how it goes?
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Well, I guess he could borrow one of mine occasionally. I have one that is super friendly and easy to care for and loves to go for rides. My brother loves that one. I'm so protective, though. I would worry he wouldn't be careful enough. I'll think about it, though. I actually could use a "babysitter" occasionally.
 
RetiredNSmilin said:
It does not sound like he would like being a Sugar Daddy to some gold digger.

It is easier and more fun to just pay $40 a throw.

Now, THAT, I can tell him how to arrange, no matter where he lives.

I have a tried and proven formula.

Gold diggers and Sugar Babies want ALL your money.
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^^^This sounds like an old salt who went upstairs a few times at the Black Angus in San Juan. :shock:
 
JumpinJack said:
I have a retired, divorced brother who doesn't have any interests outside of his grandson and visiting family members, even extended ones. And eating out (he eats out for every meal....and talks to strangers for social interaction).

I and others in the family have told him that he needs to find some things that interest him, and make some adult friends (outside of kids in the family and adult family member). He says he has no interests.

What do men do to bring some passion and contentedness to their lives, and meet other men to hang with? He doesn't drink, so bars are out (and I don't think that would be a good idea, anyway).
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Travel. See the world and take his time doing it. There's so much out there to see and do. It really doesn't take much money as long as he doesn't require expensive hotel rooms. He'll he could even work in hostels for free lodging while having the benefit of liberal free time.
 
Risky Thicket said:
Travel. See the world and take his time doing it. There's so much out there to see and do. It really doesn't take much money as long as he doesn't require expensive hotel rooms. He'll he could even work in hostels for free lodging while having the benefit of liberal free time.
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Yes, he likes to travel. He won't fly, though. And he doesn't want to go alone. Maybe I can suggest some sort of travel group, but I think those are mainly for partying young guys. The older groups are probably mainly couples. But I'll see what I can find out.

Thanks.
 
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One thing I never did but now really enjoy are crossword puzzles. I simply had no time for them when working and now I do at least three a day - sometimes more. I came back from a five day vacation yesterday and now have five days of paper to go through with at least three in each.

I also spend a great deal of time building complex dioramas. Designing, building, painting ..... it can take months on just a single one. In fact, I have one I have been working on for at least three years.

At least once a month I get together with former teachers and we always have a three hour lunch and shoot the breeze.

And I do like to read although I always did that and now spend no more time than before on it.
 
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