Disagree. While young women certainly have to learn the lessons of professionalism in the workplace, in American culture girls are thoroughly socially punished for crudeness and lewdness. t.
Bwaahh… that's hilarious. Maybe in the 50's that was the case. but not today. "ladylike behavior"? Crap.. there are music in cultures that downgrade and berate the idea of girls having to be "ladies". Look up "it ain;t my mommas broken heart". as a music. The truth is.. women especially when they are around other women.. are way more lewd.. have sex talk..and juvenile behavior.. then men are. And Aggressive. Its a different type of aggression than men have (physical aggression)… but women are aggressive as well.
YOU are socialized to believe that women are such professional,, nice..ladylike beings... when in reality..they really are no different than men when it comes to their professionalism.
Men are still socially freer to be crude and sexual than women are outside of the workplace.
No they are not. Women are allowed to be sexual.. in fact MORE sexual outside the workplace etc. and in the workplace. Its just that with men.. that behavior is considered "lewd and crude"...and women its considered acceptable.
Tell me.. If a man is a "hugger".. and goes along hugging women.. is he viewed favorably? Hes a creep and he is likely to get accused of being harassment. What about the woman who does the same behavior.. wearing WAY more revealing clothing than a man? She is just a nice person.
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he solution lies in holding American boys to a higher standard than we used to and no longer tolerating the 'boys will be boys' excuse.
Boys are already held to a higher standard than girls are in this regard. And the punishment is severe for us. We are convicted simply through accusation.
"Boys will be boys".. went away in the early 1990's.
Yes.. there are some older men in positions of power that are holdovers from that age. And yep..creeps.
BUT.. a lot of
men have a tougher time adapting to professionalism in the workplace than women do when it comes to sexual harassment.
Is because the men have a tougher time dealing with the double standard in professionalism in the workplace when it comes to women. Women can be free to be sexual.. to wear revealing clothing.. to touch men, to flirt.. etc.. in the workplace.. and there are no repercussions. For men.. its confusing.. because the rules they have a much different.
Let me illustrate this.. because I got into an argument with my wife. She said "well.. you don't get it because you were never sexually harassed"... well.. I told her "yes I was".. I was a contracting provider into a facility. The regional manager was a woman. A very pretty woman.. and technically my "supervisor" (she controlled the contract.. one word from her and I and my business were OUT)..
She was very friendly..and not knowing anyone in the area.. I went and did things with her. She showed me mountainbiking paths.. we skied together.. rode motorcycles together. I would say we had a friendship in and out of the workplace. Then on a business trip. She made it very clear that she wanted more than friendship. In fact..she ended up removing my clothing while I protested. It completely freaked me out. FIRST.. I was definitely attracted to her... BUT SHE WAS MY SUPERIOR.. she held my contract in her hands and possible career. I mean.. if things ended up going south between us.. it could definitely hurt my business.. and if she got really pissed for some reason... she could claim I HARASSED HER.. and there would be no defense for me. I would immediately be a pariah and my company would become a pariah.
My wife heard this and was thoroughly PISSED!... WHO WAS THIS WOMAN " she said!
I replied "Well it was YOU Honey"!
And it was. I eventually went on to marry her. BUT.. if it had gone south? I could be claiming sexual harassment (or more likely being accused of it). She was technically my superior.. she was the aggressor...
It was interesting because she paused and then said "well... you liked it".
And I said "funny.. that's what some of these men say"...
I have to get a more comfortable couch.
But the point is.. that your supposition on how things are in the workplace.. well they are not based on fact.. they are based on sexism.. that believes that woman are not capable of aggression.. sexual crudeness.. or the willingness to use power in the workplace.