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    What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    I have been to support groups where there are those who expend considerable money and effort to be "people pleasers". They generally stay unemployed and alone, basically having their lunch eaten at every turn. Then there are those of us that say "screw it", this trying to attune to people feelings and social concerns has a poor return on investment. The law demands certain things of us, but it also enables us to demand things of others. I tell these disadvantaged people (people who make social demands call them "losers" or even "incels") to just worry about what the law expects of them, but otherwise don't consider other people when pursuing your desires. When push comes to shove, they will walk all over you if it serves their interests.

    The thing to keep in mind is to never be a sucker.

    There are YouTube videos that talk about "simps" who think that there's an unwritten social contract that says others will take care of you if you just be a people pleaser. I say it's a scam. What say you?

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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by SDET View Post
    I have been to support groups where there are those who expend considerable money and effort to be "people pleasers". They generally stay unemployed and alone, basically having their lunch eaten at every turn. Then there are those of us that say "screw it", this trying to attune to people feelings and social concerns has a poor return on investment. The law demands certain things of us, but it also enables us to demand things of others. I tell these disadvantaged people (people who make social demands call them "losers" or even "incels") to just worry about what the law expects of them, but otherwise don't consider other people when pursuing your desires. When push comes to shove, they will walk all over you if it serves their interests.

    The thing to keep in mind is to never be a sucker.

    There are YouTube videos that talk about "simps" who think that there's an unwritten social contract that says others will take care of you if you just be a people pleaser. I say it's a scam. What say you?
    What in the actual hell?
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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by SDET View Post
    I have been to support groups where there are those who expend considerable money and effort to be "people pleasers". They generally stay unemployed and alone, basically having their lunch eaten at every turn. Then there are those of us that say "screw it", this trying to attune to people feelings and social concerns has a poor return on investment. The law demands certain things of us, but it also enables us to demand things of others. I tell these disadvantaged people (people who make social demands call them "losers" or even "incels") to just worry about what the law expects of them, but otherwise don't consider other people when pursuing your desires. When push comes to shove, they will walk all over you if it serves their interests.

    The thing to keep in mind is to never be a sucker.

    There are YouTube videos that talk about "simps" who think that there's an unwritten social contract that says others will take care of you if you just be a people pleaser. I say it's a scam. What say you?
    What did I just read?

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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by TrueScotsman View Post
    What did I just read?
    I'm talking about people that spend big bucks and years of effort on "rehabilitation" only to wind up unemployed and alone. I have seen others endure this and it makes my blood boil. It's often at the hands of relatives that want to "help". The best rehabilitation school is the school of hard knocks.

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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by Josie View Post
    What in the actual hell?
    Angry aspergers.

    I have aspergers. Aspergers people are kinda dangerous. We don't understand you.

    I got a big dose of the genes for compassion so I'm OK.

    But the rest mostly find somewhere to hide where their knack for complex systems afford them a decent life.

    A few become amoral.

    Mercer the rich Guy who bailed out trump after the pussy grabbing bit is obviously aa aspergers person who read too much conservative porn while developing the algorithm that made him rich AF.

    Explains a lot of this poster's posts.
    Anyone wondering what I'm talking about start here:
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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by SDET View Post
    I have been to support groups where there are those who expend considerable money and effort to be "people pleasers". They generally stay unemployed and alone, basically having their lunch eaten at every turn. Then there are those of us that say "screw it", this trying to attune to people feelings and social concerns has a poor return on investment. The law demands certain things of us, but it also enables us to demand things of others. I tell these disadvantaged people (people who make social demands call them "losers" or even "incels") to just worry about what the law expects of them, but otherwise don't consider other people when pursuing your desires. When push comes to shove, they will walk all over you if it serves their interests.

    The thing to keep in mind is to never be a sucker.

    There are YouTube videos that talk about "simps" who think that there's an unwritten social contract that says others will take care of you if you just be a people pleaser. I say it's a scam. What say you?
    Sounds like sour grapes to me.

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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by What if...? View Post
    Angry aspergers.

    I have aspergers. Aspergers people are kinda dangerous. We don't understand you.

    I got a big dose of the genes for compassion so I'm OK.

    But the rest mostly find somewhere to hide where their knack for complex systems afford them a decent life.

    A few become amoral.

    Mercer the rich Guy who bailed out trump after the pussy grabbing bit is obviously aa aspergers person who read too much conservative porn while developing the algorithm that made him rich AF.

    Explains a lot of this poster's posts.
    Hello fellow traveler.
    I broke out of my windowless room with the help of pyschedelics as a teen.
    That is not a recommendation, just a recounting of my own personal experience.

    I never really knew much about the autism spectrum but I knew I had grown up as a kid who was vastly different from others, but I wasn't officially diagnosed as an Aspie until age 46, which had the effect of making everything fall into place.
    It was a strange feeling, but also a relief.
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    My great grandfather was in the KKK. Can't say he was a white supremacist cause I didn't know him well but, I know what real racism is.

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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by TrueScotsman View Post
    What did I just read?
    I'm an Aspie and even I don't know.
    Quote Originally Posted by WCH View Post
    My great grandfather was in the KKK. Can't say he was a white supremacist cause I didn't know him well but, I know what real racism is.

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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by SDET View Post
    I have been to support groups where there are those who expend considerable money and effort to be "people pleasers". They generally stay unemployed and alone, basically having their lunch eaten at every turn. Then there are those of us that say "screw it", this trying to attune to people feelings and social concerns has a poor return on investment. The law demands certain things of us, but it also enables us to demand things of others. I tell these disadvantaged people (people who make social demands call them "losers" or even "incels") to just worry about what the law expects of them, but otherwise don't consider other people when pursuing your desires. When push comes to shove, they will walk all over you if it serves their interests.

    The thing to keep in mind is to never be a sucker.

    There are YouTube videos that talk about "simps" who think that there's an unwritten social contract that says others will take care of you if you just be a people pleaser. I say it's a scam. What say you?
    Psychotherapy is a scam. An excessive desire to please others is bad in general. But unless we're talking about people who are severely autistic, it's really not that unreasonable to expect people to understand basic social cues by the time they reach adulthood.
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    Re: What level of effort does the Autistic community owe others?

    Quote Originally Posted by AmNat View Post
    Psychotherapy is a scam.
    Uh oh.

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