It is the way the GOP and individual posters on this site talk about black people and "black issues." Black issues is basically poverty, crime, and welfare, and black people have been taken by the liberals and reduced to living in generational cycles of poverty and government assistance via welfare. It's a major theme in how republicans talk about black voters and their loyalty to the Democratic Party. White people living in poverty and living on welfare and government assistance are largely dismissed. The GOP as a whole should recognize that welfare and poverty isn't about race. There are plenty of white people dependent on welfare and food stamps and voting for the GOP.
Your perceptions of how some people act is not wrong. The people you blame for acting that way, is wrong. As I said, there are racist people, but the Republican Party is not a racist party. Also, as I said, poverty knows no race. Poverty also knows no party.
Some people can't understand why anyone that is living in poverty would want to be a member of the GOP, or vote for any Republican. Some people think that if a poor person votes for a Republican then they are voting against their what's best for them. What it comes down to is one basic question - who do you think should be making your life choices for you - the government, or you? The Republicans believe that it should be you, not the government, as do even some Democrats as well (they are called 'Blue Dog' Democrats).
Both parties believe in the government taking the place of the old style barn raising. What do I mean by that? Back in the day, when a family fell on hard times when their barn burned to the ground, the people from the surrounding area would bring as many boards, nails, tools, etcetera that they could spare and bring them over to family that needed them and then they all as a group built a new barn for that family. The same happens today at funerals, when neighbors bring over food to help out, or cut the grass for you, or run errands for you while you grieve, morn your loss, and deal with the pain of managing a funeral. It's part of our American Culture. To help each other when one of us needs help.
In modern times, it's difficult for the neighbors, family, and your 'church family' to bring to bear the level of help that modern poverty requires. We no longer grow our own food and live a self sufficient and sustainable lifestyle. We need money, not boards or nails to build our barn, or seeds to plant.
For that, we have as a society chosen to allow our government to spread out the costs of helping our fellow citizens in the modern version of the barn raising. On a large scale, we do that through government agencies like FEMA and other agencies on the federal level as well as state and local agencies that rebuild our communities to mitigate hazards, protect life and property, and recover the local economy to the benefit of the community at large. On a smaller individual scale we do the same for individuals and families with food stamps, housing assistance, WIC, Medicaid, and dozens of other programs.
The problem, and the question, is not whether the government should be used by the people to step in when we need help as a community after a major disaster or as an individual when poverty, or disability, or a personal tragedy strikes. The problem, and the question, is how much, for what, and for how long. That's really the only place we differ.
The Republicans want to help. We do not believe that perpetuating poverty through dependence is helping. Within the GOP, we have our own major battles to fight as to how to accomplish the helping, without creating the dependency and without perpetuating harm by not helping the right way. The Democrats, from my personal observations, have the same problems and arguments going on within their own party as the GOP does. The difference, however, is that the Democrats leadership tends to err toward throwing more money at a problem rather than doing the hard part, which is fixing the problem without breaking the financial backs of the tax payers - with the exception of a few like Bill Clinton back when he was President. The Republicans, lately, tend to just complain about budgets, deficits, and debt, rather than coming up with plans or even ideas that might (not can, but at least might) work - with the exception of a few like Paul Ryan when he was on the House Budget Committee.
We're not really as far apart as parties or as people as you may think, and damned sure not as far apart as the media wants us to think we are.