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One of my children actually approached us with a question regarding gay people when he was in the third grade.
Our response was limited to an age appropriate answer:
"Yes, Mr. So-and-so is 'gay'. He has a relationship which is a lot like other people's but it's a little bit different."
"How is it different?"
"It's different because Mr. So-and-so married a man, and while most people don't do that, a very few do and it's complicated, so we will explain it to you a little bit more when you're older and you can understand."
He seemed satisfied with that for the time being, and next time the subject came up several years later, he was matter of fact about it all...yes he understood that sometimes men married men and women married women ho hum yawn who cares, etc.
And then something very funny happened about 2011, when he was fifteen. We were watching some music videos and one by Queen came on, and he turned to me and asked if the band Queen were all gay and was that why they used that name.
Of course, Freddie Mercury was gay, and I said that being that Freddie was the front man and because all of their music was written with him in mind, the name Queen seemed appropriate even though everyone else was straight.
He looked thoughtful, and then just said, "Oh okay..." and that was the end of it.
I've had similar conversations with my daughter when she was younger and asked questions about the same sex couples we know. I went with the "less is more" approach and gave only the answers that made sense to her based on her age. When she was 5 and first asked, I just told her that some people want to be with people of their own gender because its who they love. That was enough. Now that she's 13 she gets it and there's no awkwardness with the topic at all; she thinks nothing of it.