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Thanks for not raping us, all you ‘good men.’ But it’s not enough.

Lutherf

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https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -
In the centuries of feminist movements that have washed up and away, good men have not once organized their own mass movement to change themselves and their sons or to attack the mean-spirited, teasing, punching thing that passes for male culture. Not once. Bastards. Don’t listen to me. Listen to each other. Talk to each other. Earn your power for once.

At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.
 
https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -


At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.

When you're ready to understand her point, it will be right there waiting for you.
 
If I were that womans husband I would be seriously thinking about separating. When someone, ANYONE, acts like she claims to have acted it is good to separate yourself from them as they have become unhinged. The moment that someone started yelling at me like that, blaming me for things beyond my control, I would have walked out the door.
 
If I were that womans husband I would be seriously thinking about separating. When someone, ANYONE, acts like she claims to have acted it is good to separate yourself from them as they have become unhinged. The moment that someone started yelling at me like that, blaming me for things beyond my control, I would have walked out the door.

"I am so mad at you... for what you did in my dream last night." - My Ex
 
https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -


At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.

Voluntary castration.
 
When you're ready to understand her point, it will be right there waiting for you.

By all means, ELIGHTEN US with your Great Wisdom....
 
This is what it means to weaponize identity politics... this gender war... and it will cause far more harm than good.

The writer of the opinion piece took out all her frustrations on her husband who by her own admittance did not really do anything wrong and all things considered is a "good man." Yet he ended up being the person to take all of that yelling that also by her own admittance was anger filled and toned as such.

That is borderline psychological abuse, and ironic coming from the argument that men can be abusive towards women.

This attitude will be the very reason that things do not change, the perception that men should organize and deal with other men misses the point... by miles.

As a society, eventually we remember time and time again that most of our issues in society are addressed through education. A "mass movement of change" by men for men, during a gender war, suggests set up to fail. And it ignores that if we agree society needs a change, we all go through it instead placating to a gender war with a gender specific set of changes demanded by the other.

What the hell is wrong with all of us? If evolution of our thinking is solved by intentional division, what are we expected to learn?

I was taught to be respectful of women by both men and women, and I am failing to understand why "men need to organize" to appease those willing to yell at men who did not do anything wrong.
 
If I were that womans husband I would be seriously thinking about separating. When someone, ANYONE, acts like she claims to have acted it is good to separate yourself from them as they have become unhinged. The moment that someone started yelling at me like that, blaming me for things beyond my control, I would have walked out the door.

If you were a caring, nurturing kind of guy, you'd neuter yourself and also your sons just to show women that you hear them and empathize. Down with masculinity--ummm, I mean toxic masculinity.
 
This is what it means to weaponize identity politics... this gender war... and it will cause far more harm than good.

The writer of the opinion piece took out all her frustrations on her husband who by her own admittance did not really do anything wrong and all things considered is a "good man." Yet he ended up being the person to take all of that yelling that also by her own admittance was anger filled and toned as such.

That is borderline psychological abuse, and ironic coming from the argument that men can be abusive towards women.

This attitude will be the very reason that things do not change, the perception that men should organize and deal with other men misses the point... by miles.

As a society, eventually we remember time and time again that most of our issues in society are addressed through education. A "mass movement of change" by men for men, during a gender war, suggests set up to fail. And it ignores that if we agree society needs a change, we all go through it instead placating to a gender war with a gender specific set of changes demanded by the other.

What the hell is wrong with all of us? If evolution of our thinking is solved by intentional division, what are we expected to learn?

I was taught to be respectful of women by both men and women, and I am failing to understand why "men need to organize" to appease those willing to yell at men who did not do anything wrong.

The author has serious mental/psychological issues if her account is factual, IMHO.
 
https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -


At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.

She sounds like she has issues, and has a lot of pent up, misplaced rage.
And I promise this opinion piece ranter, as a woman, I am not in denial.
Put the blame where it rightfully belongs, on men who commit crimes. The good, decent men of America, the wonderful parents who have done their jobs correctly do not have blood on their hands as the writer unfairly implied...
 
Looks like a similar post from other boards, same title, same woman, same conservative posting it.
 
If you were a caring, nurturing kind of guy, you'd neuter yourself and also your sons just to show women that you hear them and empathize. Down with masculinity--ummm, I mean toxic masculinity.

Now there's a really, really bad idea!
 
When you're ready to understand her point, it will be right there waiting for you.

What's to understand? She's an emotional abuser.
 
The truth is that a great many women expect men to know what they want and to supply it without being asked or told when they dont know themselves what they want generally and if they do know they often refuse to speak up about what they want as women curl back to "Well you should know what to do!" with their men.
 
The one thing no guy can get enough of in his life is a woman hollering at him about something he didn't do, has no intention of doing, and hadn't even thought about before the hollering started.
 
She sounds like she has issues, and has a lot of pent up, misplaced rage.

Why, yes. She writes [bolding mine]:

This was 30 minutes of from-the-gut yelling. Triggered by a small, thoughtless, dismissive, annoyed, patronizing comment. Really small. A micro-wave that triggered a hurricane. I blew. Hard and fast. And it terrified me. I’m still terrified by what I felt and what I said. I am almost 70 years old. I am a grandmother. Yet in that roiling moment, screaming at my husband as if he represented every clueless male on the planet (and I every angry woman of 2018), I announced that I hate all men and wish all men were dead. If one of my grandchildren yelled something that ridiculous, I’d have to stifle a laugh.
 
If you were a caring, nurturing kind of guy, you'd neuter yourself and also your sons just to show women that you hear them and empathize. Down with masculinity--ummm, I mean toxic masculinity.

Agreed Master. I will do just this very thing! I know that I have taught my son well and am sure that he also will do this willingly and without any hesitation! If however he has strayed I will be sure to hold him down myself to make sure that no woman will ever face his toxic masculinity!
 
https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -


At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.

She's just another venting leftist angry at women who don't want or don't have to go out and make careers, angry at stable families, who thinks marriage is an anachronism and that being male is a disease. The idea that men, in the main, abuse women, is quite doubtful but if they do, it would only be because of what the left has done to civility and rules of morality over the last 50-60 years.
 
I bet she's lousy at making sandwiches.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -


At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.
 
The truth is that a great many women expect men to know what they want and to supply it without being asked or told when they dont know themselves what they want generally and if they do know they often refuse to speak up about what they want as women curl back to "Well you should know what to do!" with their men.

When I dated, I always told the prospective Mrs. PirateMk1's that I dont read minds and dont pretend to. Just because I can occasionally anticipate their needs does not mean that I am good at it or even doing it intentionally. If they wanted me to understand or do something they need open their mouths and tell me or write it down in a note, preferably both, along with a treat or the at least the promise of one. So far the current and only Mrs PirateMk1 seems to keep giving me treats so I presume she is currently satisfied with my performance. Or she should could be staying around cause she likes the dogs, now that I think about it.
 
If I were that womans husband I would be seriously thinking about separating. When someone, ANYONE, acts like she claims to have acted it is good to separate yourself from them as they have become unhinged. The moment that someone started yelling at me like that, blaming me for things beyond my control, I would have walked out the door.

Did you read the whole article?
 
https://www.washingtonpost.com/outlook/2018/10/12/thanks-not-raping-us-all-you-good-men-its-not-enough/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.95cb224c2bc8

This seems to be what the author is pissed off about -


At the risk of being yelled at, if I'm a good guy and I don't assault women the odds are that I don't hang around with guys that do assault women. That being the case, I really don't have anyone to yell at. I suppose I could go around yelling at random people who look like they might be a sexual predator but if I did that then I would no longer be a good guy. I'd be a lunatic.

I'm not really sure what the author expects men to do. Heck, I'm not sure that the author knows what SHE expects men to do.

Please.excuse.my.broken.spacebar....

One.thing.that.comes.to.mind.that.they.could.do.is.not.excuse.blatant.celebration.of.sexual.assault.such.as.our.current.POTUS.on.tape......They.could.say.such.behavior.is.disqualifying.for.public.servants.
 
When I dated, I always told the prospective Mrs. PirateMk1's that I dont read minds and dont pretend to. Just because I can occasionally anticipate their needs does not mean that I am good at it or even doing it intentionally. If they wanted me to understand or do something they need open their mouths and tell me or write it down in a note, preferably both, along with a treat or the at least the promise of one. So far the current and only Mrs PirateMk1 seems to keep giving me treats so I presume she is currently satisfied with my performance. Or she should could be staying around cause she likes the dogs, now that I think about it.

It took me about 15 years to learn my lessons.... the day my wife filed divorce papers on me a light went off.
 
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