If I'm wrong, then I'd like to see that, but IIRC, the way you are using the stat takes both claims that were demonstrated to be true, and claims that were contested and neither side could demonstrate who was correct, and lumping that all under "true claims".
:shrug: money, embarrassment, the kids in a divorce, shame and trouble for the guy... revenge isn't limited to "he does jail time", nor is it always
terribly well thought out.
Nor does it have to be revenge. People have lied about sexual assault to
protect their reputations, or garner attention for themselves. :shrug: it happens.
I don't non-concur at all that backlash is a serious issue, but I think you are underselling a small issue by arguing it is not an issue.
Upon some (agreeably brief) research, I also think your 1% number is incorrect. The range for Sexual Assault seems to be
2-8%. If you look at rape cases that the police later find to be Unfounded, the number is about
8-10% of reported cases. However...
My response would go somewhere along the lines of: "So long as people are not mind readers and come into contact with each other, the fact that different people wish to interact differently will guarantee screwups, and the proper response is for all of us to show respect and grace in equal portions."
Like I said earlier, yes, there are about 10% that lack evidence. Usually this is due to delay. When I give false report statistics, I am giving statistics for those with evidence they are false. In the same way, 90% is the number that have evidence they are true. Somewhere in that gray area are things where we just don't know for sure.
Even if we take the lowest ball estimate, the odds are still massively in favor of an allegation being true.
And like I've said in the past, yes, in a country of 320 million people, it does happen. It even happens routinely. That does not mean it's not rare. It means there's a lot of people in this country.
That is not, nor should it be, what we go on in a court of law. But when I have someone in front of me who said they were abused? Yes, I treat that as true when dealing with THEM. Because delay in offering support increases the odds of long-term psychological damage. Swift support is vital.
It also increases the odds they will REPORT the incident, while there is still evidence it happened or not, so that the courts can make a FAIR ruling.
Where it goes once it's in court is for an impartial jury to decide. But as a person working with victims in triage, I have every good reason to always, always,
always offer swift support. It is not only better for them, but also better for the accused, if they are truly innocent.
Screw-ups are guaranteed, yes, but my point is they happen a lot more than they have to due to a weak understanding of what consent IS.
Consent is not lack of resistance. It is either enthusiastic participation, or real communicated agreement (either-or, or both, depending on the circumstance).
I mean, here's something I like to ask people.
Is there not something inherently sexy about someone asking to kiss you for the first time?
Not feminist, not progressive, just, is that not
in and of itself, sexy?
I've had that happen a few times. It IS.
And I'm not saying it's always necessary, or that it's "wrong" not to ask. Obviously you can often tell when someone wants to be in contact with you, without words.
But
when you're in doubt, if
making sure is ****ing hot anyway, and could totally be passed off as just doing something hot... why wouldn't you?