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Getting crushes on people on message boards.

Peppermint

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I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

Gosh yes. I and a lovely young woman had mutual crushes on each other so I drove 400 miles to visit her. We had a great and loving time.
 
Gosh yes. I and a lovely young woman had mutual crushes on each other so I drove 400 miles to visit her. We had a great and loving time.
Okay, what was it that first made you get a crush on her, seeing as you didn't know what she looked like and only had posts on a message board to go by? Was it her posting style, what she would post?
 
Okay, what was it that first made you get a crush on her, seeing as you didn't know what she looked like and only had posts on a message board to go by? Was it her posting style, what she would post?

Things she said to me using e mail. We did not want to seem involved on the message forum. She sent her photo to me first.
 
Things she said to me using e mail. We did not want to seem involved on the message forum. She sent her photo to me first.
Okay, but what was the catalyst for the initial attraction given you only knew her by her posts? Did you have things in common on the boards?
 
People get crushes on what they think other people are, rarely if ever reality.
 
Okay, but what was the catalyst for the initial attraction given you only knew her by her posts? Did you have things in common on the boards?

My former wife died tragically in 2011. She was living at the time of this event with the young woman. Frankly I do not recall all details. She was surprised and happy to see me when I got to her community. I called her and took her out to dinner. I mention my former wife who called me at the lodging I was at and she wanted to know why I was there.

Also my former divorced me when Clinton was president.
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

I met my wife on UOL www.uol.com.br which is a Brazilian webchat venue. That was 20 years ago. Interestingly enough, they are still up and running.

The original attraction for me that she had a cute immaturity about her, plus she was cute and only age 20. She liked how I had mastered her native language without ever having lived outside the USA plus she liked the idea that I was looking for someone who wanted to be taken care of.
 
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Gosh yes. I and a lovely young woman had mutual crushes on each other so I drove 400 miles to visit her. We had a great and loving time.

I love hearing about stuff like this. It is so much fun to enjoy the company of another person online.
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

Not to meet in real life necessary but to have interesting conversations after hours or in another "undisclosed online location". lol I love it and have had many enjoyable experiences with online crushes. I never met any of them though. Kind of scared I guess.
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

Yes. I've dated a woman I met on a message board and later married a woman I met online.

You can try Skype before actually meeting or exchanging phone numbers and addresses. I even gave the first woman a video tour of my home via Skype.
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?
So...in your opening statement you say...

"I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married."

In your next statement you ask...

"Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen?"

So...do you doubt yourself?
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

I know of two couples that have gotten married (and are currently very happy) based on message boards. I know another married couple that met on a MMORPG and are also currently very happy. They have been together for at least 8 years at the least and 15 at the most.

However, I don't have privy to their conversations.
 
I don't understand the "crush on person I don't interact with regularly" thing... ie, 'crush on celebrity', 'crush on person on internet board I never met'...
 
Long before I felt compelled to discuss politics, I was already a longtime member of a Leon Russell message board.
It was the very early days of the internet and AOL and dial up were the norm, so "video chatting" was virtually nonexistent.
In fact, multimedia of any kind was considered exotic...and time consuming to deal with for the most part due to dial up performance.

Along about 1998 or so, we got it in our heads to finally get together as a fan club in person, and we even decided to try to pool our money and hire Leon to play a special venue "just for us...the Leon Lifers".

And the funny part was, here we were, most of us middle aged, most of us family people with kids, and on quite a few occasions it was THE KIDS who stopped and turned and said, "Wait a second...you're always telling us about stranger danger and yet here you are, and you're all going to meet people that you don't even know, people you met on the internet, the very thing you keep telling US to NEVER do?"

And sure enough, one Leon Lifer gathering led to it becoming an annual thing in short order!
And the family of the guy who STARTED the online Leon fan club decided that they were OUR "Mom and Dad" so to speak and Miss Honey, a grand old lady in Oklahoma, opened her home to us for an annual get together and outdoor party and barbecue.

It finally became so big that we began to take over venues in both Muskogee and Tulsa, and STILL invading Miss Honey's home as well, and the Leon Lifer "shindigs" became four or five day happenings.

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And sure enough, eventually some of the single men and ladies began to fall in love, and as a result there have been something like seven or eight marriages resulting from the common bond of Leon Russell's music.

So sure, it does happen, if there is enough common ground and enough of a bonding experience.
Even though Leon has now left us for his spiritual journey, the Leon Lifer shindig continues and we continue to be a great big warm and slightly dysfunctional family, and there's even a few love connections happening even now, this time with the younger generation of Lifers, who are now discovering and rediscovering the music of the "Master of Space and Time"...and discovering that there are warm bonds between them.
 
I can't talk to women. They seem to dislike me. Time and time again I sit down and express my feelings and they usually say something like: "You sick perverted bas**rd..get the hell away from me!"
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

Not only that, you can fall in love through the written word...my parents did so many years ago through letter writing...he was stationed in Korea, she was writing to soldiers overseas, when his mother gave her his address...they wrote to one another over a period of time..when he came home, they met for the 1st time face to face, and married 12 days later...they were married for almost 45 years when my Mom died of cancer...that was 24 years ago, and even though my Dad has happily remarried, he still tears up when talking about my Mom...
 
I have seen this happen often on message boards. Some people have even met IRL and married.

Do you think it's possible to get a crush on someone on a message board whom you have never seen? If so, what do you think it is that attracts people when all they see of someone are their posts? Does a person's personality come through in their posting, and that's what someone might become attracted to?

I know of such a situation between two people I greatly liked on a message board like this. Sadly it failed. But, having said that, I don’t know how much actual fact to face they had beforehand.
 
I can't talk to women. They seem to dislike me. Time and time again I sit down and express my feelings and they usually say something like: "You sick perverted bas**rd..get the hell away from me!"

:lamo
 
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