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Use statistics to find your spouse. It worked for me.

SDET

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A couple of decades ago when I was looking for a wife, I did a statistical analysis and made a checklist of characteristics that increase and decrease the probability of failure. I measured each woman I met against that list. One of the rejects sure confirmed my decision. I drove over 500 km over rough roads to Batalha, Piaui even though she was hesitant for us to do so. Her parents lived in what amounted to a shack. Her mother was somewhat ashamed. My reply was "I'm happy to learn how people live; this place is good enough for anybody." The deal killer was from her mother's answer how difficult, disrespectful and cranky she was before she left home. When I got back to the USA, she sent me angry emails and even a couple of phone call's. I believe that she would have put a hit out on me if she could have. She was really cute and lots of fun, but thinking long term is a must.
 
Mine just walked up and started eating my French fries.
 
That's a red flag. It means that she doesn't respect boundaries.

Mine just walked up and started eating my French fries.
 
I met mine at quarter beer night.
 
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That's a red flag. It means that she doesn't respect boundaries.

In my family it shows great bravery....taking food off a siblings plate was usually a prelude to a pit fight.
 
A couple of decades ago when I was looking for a wife, I did a statistical analysis and made a checklist of characteristics that increase and decrease the probability of failure. I measured each woman I met against that list. One of the rejects sure confirmed my decision. I drove over 500 km over rough roads to Batalha, Piaui even though she was hesitant for us to do so. Her parents lived in what amounted to a shack. Her mother was somewhat ashamed. My reply was "I'm happy to learn how people live; this place is good enough for anybody." The deal killer was from her mother's answer how difficult, disrespectful and cranky she was before she left home. When I got back to the USA, she sent me angry emails and even a couple of phone call's. I believe that she would have put a hit out on me if she could have. She was really cute and lots of fun, but thinking long term is a must.


Wait what? you rejected your own data.

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She failed the test: Poor relationship with parents, a smoker, lived off the good graces of her uncle, and several other things I don't remember. She even called a few months later and the one I married gave her an earful.

Wait what? you rejected your own data.

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Who's the Fool
 
She failed the test: Poor relationship with parents, a smoker, lived off the good graces of her uncle, and several other things I don't remember. She even called a few months later and the one I married gave her an earful.

A lot of red flags and still 500 miles later. Congratulations you made it.
 
A couple of decades ago when I was looking for a wife, I did a statistical analysis and made a checklist of characteristics that increase and decrease the probability of failure. I measured each woman I met against that list. One of the rejects sure confirmed my decision. I drove over 500 km over rough roads to Batalha, Piaui even though she was hesitant for us to do so. Her parents lived in what amounted to a shack. Her mother was somewhat ashamed. My reply was "I'm happy to learn how people live; this place is good enough for anybody." The deal killer was from her mother's answer how difficult, disrespectful and cranky she was before she left home. When I got back to the USA, she sent me angry emails and even a couple of phone call's. I believe that she would have put a hit out on me if she could have. She was really cute and lots of fun, but thinking long term is a must.

I was just curious. Did your wife have a similar list that she used to choose a mate?
 
I'm not good at marriage. I have only done it once and still have not got that one right.
 
Met my ex-wife at a college mixer. Maybe one day I will have another.
 
I would have to say, yes. She believes that it's beneath a desirable woman to have to seek employment. She also believes that a good wife and mother can go cradle to grave without seeking employment. Our lists matched nicely. It was understood at our marriage that I would never go unemployed for an extended period of time. I actually have to say, that I'm glad to have had that constant motivator. Professionally, I know how to be knocked down and get back up. Back in the early 2000s, I'm glad that at the time she considered $1500 per month from Ebay selling as "employed". She and I both got quite adept at jumping at garage sales when the doors opened to get resellable items. She practically developed a sixth sense at sniffing out expensive jewelry at garage sales even with limited English.

Now that she's pushing 40, she works out like a machine because she considers it her obligation to stay attractive. She has become so focused and fit, that she could probably kick my ass if she wanted to.

She surprised me regarding my "midlife crisis" behavior. She's willing to tolerate me going on dating vacations as long as I take her along, stay in somewhat upscale accommodations for the area and dine at upscale restaurants and get STD testing upon return.

One of her reasons for this is "There's no way I'm going to let some barely legal little brat steal my husband".

I was just curious. Did your wife have a similar list that she used to choose a mate?
 
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I would have to say, yes. She believes that it's beneath a desirable woman to have to seek employment. She also believes that a good wife and mother can go cradle to grave without seeking employment. Our lists matched nicely. It was understood at our marriage that I would never go unemployed for an extended period of time. I actually have to say, that I'm glad to have had that constant motivator. Professionally, I know how to be knocked down and get back up. Back in the early 2000s, I'm glad that at the time she considered $1500 per month from Ebay selling as "employed". She and I both got quite adept at jumping at garage sales when the doors opened to get resellable items. She practically developed a sixth sense at sniffing out expensive jewelry at garage sales even with limited English.

Now that she's pushing 40, she works out like a machine because she considers it her obligation to stay attractive. She has become so focused and fit, that she could probably kick my ass if she wanted to.

She surprised me regarding my "midlife crisis" behavior. She's willing to tolerate me going on dating vacations as long as I take her along, stay in somewhat upscale accommodations for the area and dine at upscale restaurants and get STD testing upon return.

One of her reasons for this is "There's no way I'm going to let some barely legal little brat steal my husband".

Ok thanks for answering. That's scary.
 
What's scary? We live on a huge planet. The different perspectives are more than anyone can wrap their mind around.

Ok thanks for answering. That's scary.
 
A couple of decades ago when I was looking for a wife, I did a statistical analysis and made a checklist of characteristics that increase and decrease the probability of failure. I measured each woman I met against that list. One of the rejects sure confirmed my decision. I drove over 500 km over rough roads to Batalha, Piaui even though she was hesitant for us to do so. Her parents lived in what amounted to a shack. Her mother was somewhat ashamed. My reply was "I'm happy to learn how people live; this place is good enough for anybody." The deal killer was from her mother's answer how difficult, disrespectful and cranky she was before she left home. When I got back to the USA, she sent me angry emails and even a couple of phone call's. I believe that she would have put a hit out on me if she could have. She was really cute and lots of fun, but thinking long term is a must.

It's fun to pretend that you actually know statistics.

And I LOVE fun!
 
Well, even is she didn't know it and maybe never will, looks like the girl from Ipanema............errrh............oops..........sorry........... Batalha, struck out lucky. :mrgreen:
 
A couple of decades ago when I was looking for a wife, I did a statistical analysis and made a checklist of characteristics that increase and decrease the probability of failure. I measured each woman I met against that list. One of the rejects sure confirmed my decision. I drove over 500 km over rough roads to Batalha, Piaui even though she was hesitant for us to do so. Her parents lived in what amounted to a shack. Her mother was somewhat ashamed. My reply was "I'm happy to learn how people live; this place is good enough for anybody." The deal killer was from her mother's answer how difficult, disrespectful and cranky she was before she left home. When I got back to the USA, she sent me angry emails and even a couple of phone call's. I believe that she would have put a hit out on me if she could have. She was really cute and lots of fun, but thinking long term is a must.

I think being opposites in some things is good for a marriage. My wife is the sociable one, I'm not an introvert, I just don't like very many people. So she gets me out and about and tamps down my judgementalness. I'm rather impulsive with money but she's good at handling money. She's the accounting type and I'm the academic type, so I always helped the kids with their homework. I'm agnostic while she's a strict Catholic; so we always have a church and priest available for weddings and funerals. However, we were always on the same page about how to raise the kids, and we both tolerated career changes. We tended to agree on vacations and whose house to go to on holidays. We also agreed on how to divide up the household duties. I got running the vacuum, picking up dog poo and taking out the trash.
 
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