I'm not saying masculinity is bad. Not at all. As a matter of fact, I would want to see women go out with masculine men. I wasn't clear of where I was going with that, so here it is: a lot of younger women don't understand that part of being masculine IS caring for others and understanding. It's about standing strong on who you are and not being feminine.
However, many younger women only see masculine men as ONLY caring about what they think. In other words, they really don't care if their man is a jerk and rude to everyone else, so long as he's nice to her. That's not masculine at all. Those are the signs of what a spoiled child does, not a full grown adult. As I was growing up, I was taught to respect everyone around me and treat them with dignity. There are men (and women) who don't do either.
As an example, and to give full context, a few years ago, there was a woman I liked. I only asked her out once, but we never dated. Which was fine because she, at the time, had been talking to someone else. Found out later, she was actually in a relationship with another man, and a few years later, they got married. Every now and then, I'll see her and her husband at the place I like to get drinks at. Over the course of that time, I have seen the guy several times with this woman. Now, the woman would say something to me every time we see each other, but every time I would greet the guy, the only thing he'd give me is a look and turns away. Every once in a while, he'd give me a grunt while he's drunk.
I'm not demanding he'd greet me nor am I saying I have a right to be greeted, but if you greet someone, you would hope to be greeted back, at least, with a simple 'hey.' I get none of that from this man. I pretty much given up trying to say ANYTHING to him because he just seems like a horse's @$$, at least to me. He must have found out I had a thing for his wife a few years ago and he's holding some sort of grudge or whatever against me.
Of course, this is the guy's second marriage (first wife only lasted about 10 years, then they got divorced), while it being this woman's first, and he doesn't want to lose this one. Nearly a 20 year difference between the two and probably doesn't want a younger guy, like me (who's her age), to come along and snatch her away from him. Even then, he can still show respect without me asking nor demanding it. It should just come naturally. But I don't receive it from him and that's fine. It shows me where this woman's mind is at, too, so I lost interest in her a few years ago and haven't pursued her since, especially after she got married.
Bottom line is this, there's a fine line between being masculine and being a jerk. If being masculine involves being rude to everyone else around you, except what you would perceive as being your property, then it's not masculinity. It's what we call being intolerant and disrespectful. But there are women that like that, even though they say they want a man who's kind and considerate, and these bad boys, like the man I gave in the example, are anything but masculine. That's what I was trying to get at.