Thread: How many families have stayed together when they shouldn't have?

Originally Posted by Superfly

I'm torn on this. My former husband and I split up and it really hurt my daughter, who was 10 at the time. She cried, of course, but it also hurt her because she found out later that he wasn't much of a father. Rarely came to visit her, etc. He won't talk to her at all now, and he and I have been apart for 23 years. I always told myself that no matter how unhappy I was, I'd never break up a family again. I hated how it affected my daughter. I wouldn't want what happened to her, to happen to my other kids. Fortunately, my husband and I get along great, and in all the years we've been together, divorce has never been an issue that we raised. But even if it had been, I wouldn't have willingly ventured in to it, for my kids' sake.

My kids' biological father is one of those crappy dads who isn't good for much more than a check on Christmas and a couple of phone calls. Outside of that, he's about worthless. He's very good when it comes to blaming Karen for Daryl's congenital heart defects, because of course he is only capable of making perfect babies, I suppose.
He's also excellent at cheating, and becoming belligerent when things don't go his way.

When his first child was born (Bri - his daughter) she was the apple of his eye but the moment his son came along two years later she was dropped like a hot potato because: "A BOY!!!"

When it turned out Daryl Jr. was as sick as he was, off he went, bye-bye...leaving Karen to save the boy's life all while she was losing the ability to walk.

I don't think Bri will ever forgive him. Daryl Jr. tries from time to time, but right now he's in the hospital.
Bio-Dad called once, for about a minute.
Jerk.

I was lucky enough to pick up what he threw away...best twenty years of my entire life.
I just want my boy to get better.

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Originally Posted by Mr Person

Indeed. There are lots of reasons.

My wife and usually start out in the same bed, but not always (if I want to go to bed early). Most nights, somewhere in the early AM I escape to my room/office, which has a spare bed. She starts turning over, sometimes exhaling/sighing as she settles into place. The vibration tends to wake me up and keep me awake if she keeps turning over. Annoying as hell and I need my sleep.

It was always separate beds until her father insisted on giving us a massive gift for our wedding (king size tempur-pedic, whatever the standard base model is; I haven't done the wine trick from the commercials, but you can feel it if someone sits up and then flops over on the other side of the bed).

We always look for rooms with two twins or two doubles when on vacation.

We have a California King, but in reality it's two different adjustable mattresses wedged together.
They go up, down, zero-G, vibrate, massage, you name it, all separately, but they're together, so either one of us can move around all we want with no effects. Plus we're both deep sleepers anyway and even if I am not, I go back to sleep pretty quickly if I am tired anyway so it doesn't matter.

We used to sleep all cuddled together but as Karen's MS has progressed, that is too difficult.
Occasionally I bug her by trying to smooch and cuddle anyway. She pretends it bugs her but I know she secretly likes it, as long as it doesn't go on for very long, and if I drift off, she's pretty good at shoving me back over to the side without waking me.

Our biggest problem is the dog. Boopers is the truly unsettled sleeper of the whole bunch, and as much as Karen loves Betty Boop, she can be a bit annoying sometimes at night. Up, down, up, down, spinning around, getting settled, up again, down again, etc etc.

Fiona Kitty on the other hand, is a purring hot water bottle.

Originally Posted by Checkerboard Strangler

My kids' biological father is one of those crappy dads who isn't good for much more than a check on Christmas and a couple of phone calls. Outside of that, he's about worthless. He's very good when it comes to blaming Karen for Daryl's congenital heart defects, because of course he is only capable of making perfect babies, I suppose.
He's also excellent at cheating, and becoming belligerent when things don't go his way.

When his first child was born (Bri - his daughter) she was the apple of his eye but the moment his son came along two years later she was dropped like a hot potato because: "A BOY!!!"

When it turned out Daryl Jr. was as sick as he was, off he went, bye-bye...leaving Karen to save the boy's life all while she was losing the ability to walk.

I don't think Bri will ever forgive him. Daryl Jr. tries from time to time, but right now he's in the hospital.
Bio-Dad called once, for about a minute.
Jerk.

I was lucky enough to pick up what he threw away...best twenty years of my entire life.
I just want my boy to get better.

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Best of luck, my friend. My son isn't my biological son, either - he's my stepson, but I've been in the picture for 23 years, since he was 12, so I was blessed with a life with him.