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I'm glad you used the word effusive. It's a great word. No, I'm not speaking of that effusive Mustache Pete public display of respect, but the respect that occurs in the private relationships between members of one's family. Well mostly, anyways.I get that whole Italian thing, being half Italian myself but I am not sure what you mean because you don't seem like the type that goes in for all the old greaseball formalities in old Palermo or Calabria, and besides, when IN Calabria, the ones who are the most effusive in their outward displays of respect MIGHT be the ones loading up to take a shot at you.
I'm sure you get my drift, what with being Calabrese and all.
You know, defer to each other, and hold each other in high regard. Keep your family business private. And go to the ends of the world for each other. Put each other first. And I'll also add showing respect for elders. We still defer to our matriarchs and patriarchs in family matters.
Oh, Italians are warm. Absolutely. And Poles are the same way. They're even less pretensions. But with all that warmness, there still is some of that undercurrent running where those outside the family and having business or other interactions with us, do have to approach us in the right way. It's hard to explain, though. But it gets noticed.The Italian half of my family turned out to be the warm ones, after my father passed away all our German-Jewish relatives sort of disappeared off the map, it is sad to say. I have an eldest brother who makes every effort to be a Messianic Jew and goes through all the motions of being Jewish but the Haas relatives sort of dropped off the map after my father was killed while the Amorosos stuck with our family and drew us even tighter into the fold. So I really identify as Italian more than anything else.
But we're really the sarcastic and half-crazy Italians. We love the family togetherness but half the time we're trash talking and making each other laugh and trying to one-up each other, so the whole serious formalities are lost on us.
For us, respect is sticking by each other when things get tough, and when others on the outside are doing us wrong.
Outside of that, we're just loud and obnoxious, and we love to cook up tasty things to eat and we're very touchy feely affectionate and musical.
After all, we are "Amorosos" which means "amorous".