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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Puigb View Post
    Yeah. We got a long very good, but had busy work schedules. But we found time.



    No, not sexual. Just hanging out and kissing.

    Another option is to start following her and find out exactly why she didn't want to see you... demand answers, take pictures from afar, go through her garbage... that is the best way to really understand what happened and who you need to get in order to force her back.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Shy men - too shy - fail. Few woman want a shy, regressive non-confident man. They don't want a bully, but they do want a confident man and if of romantic interest they'd like to know the man also wants her. Many women still want the man to make all the first moves, despite #MeToo.

    Hell, if you are worried and a good idea, just ask her. "I'd really like to touch you intimately. May I?" You'd be surprised how much women will be impressed by your asking - and if you are in week 6 and the answer is "no," you know where you stand - and that would likely never change and wouldn't be good if it did, because then she'd only accept you because she's desperate and when that desperation wears off that's the end of the road for you too.

    Why only kissing by week 6?

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bodhisattva View Post
    Another option is to start following her and find out exactly why she didn't want to see you... demand answers, take pictures from afar, go through her garbage... that is the best way to really understand what happened and who you need to get in order to force her back.


    Plus he could try text begging "why? why?! What's wrong with me?!"
    Last edited by joko104; 09-18-18 at 08:20 PM.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Dating totally sucks and I'm sorry that happened to you.

    I ended up marrying the quirky guy that I didn't like "in that way" but he kept hanging around and I started liking him more and more.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    I recall a woman telling me "I really do love you, but I'm not sure I'm IN love with you." Curious, since neither of us had ever used the L-word to each other.

    My response? "I know what you mean. I had a really good time with you. Thanks. I wish you the best in life." Hung up.

    Last time we ever spoke. I'm not sure what she was trying to tell me. I was only sure I wasn't willing to play along with it.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Amelia View Post
    Dating totally sucks and I'm sorry that happened to you.

    I ended up marrying the quirky guy that I didn't like "in that way" but he kept hanging around and I started liking him more and more.
    First marriage?

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Quote Originally Posted by joko104 View Post
    Shy men - too shy - fail. Few woman want a shy, regressive non-confident man. They don't want a bully, but they do want a confident man and if of romantic interest they'd like to know the man also wants her. Many women still want the man to make all the first moves, despite #MeToo.

    Hell, if you are worried and a good idea, just ask her. "I'd really like to touch you intimately. May I?" You'd be surprised how much women will be impressed by your asking - and if you are in week 6 and the answer is "no," you know where you stand - and that would likely never change and wouldn't be good if it did, because then she'd only accept you because she's desperate and when that desperation wears off that's the end of the road for you too.

    Why only kissing by week 6?
    So many jokes, so little time.
    If you want something bad enough, just take it.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    PS - NEVER ask "why didn't you return my call/text?" It is a declaration of desperation and a possessiveness demand. NEVER ever do that again.

    If the OPer has just given her space, it may have worked out. Instead, he forced a declaration out of her. That will never go well.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Quote Originally Posted by joko104 View Post
    PS - NEVER ask "why didn't you return my call/text?" It is a declaration of desperation and a possessiveness demand. NEVER ever do that again.

    If the OPer has just given her space, it may have worked out. Instead, he forced a declaration out of her. That will never go well.
    Creeped her out.
    If you want something bad enough, just take it.

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    Re: Why do girls sometimes do this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Winston View Post
    It's best to be straight up from the moment you meet her. Otherwise you get friend zoned and then eventually de-zoned completely.

    Nowadays, if I meet a girl that I would like to date, I ask if she's single almost immediately and make it clear that A. You're money and B. You like to party
    Maybe 1 in 20 times a relationship that starts in the friend zone ever goes beyond that. And the result is such as the OP message - "but we so much enjoyed talking to each other..."

    However, never take a woman starting with "I want to just be friends first" either as that is a pre-defensive statement. One woman told me that - before first date - and she came dressed in the most defensive cloths I've ever seen a woman wear. However, for date 2? She wanted to stop by her house first - and had all her relatives there because I was the perfect man to her mind and her and whole family had talked it over., She had it all worked out where we'd live, how many children we'd have and how I would become a member of the family business.

    My breakup talk was more direct and happened minutes after we left the house but before driving away. I apologized for not saying so sooner, but thought I should tell her in person. "I met someone else..." That wasn't true, but it leaves no room for argument or why? Why? Why?

    "I met someone else" is the best break up line (unless married of course). It leaves no room for argument. She can get angry but she knows its over unless she's pscyho (and some women and some men are).

    Over means over. No we'll stay friends or any of that.
    Last edited by joko104; 09-18-18 at 08:42 PM.

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