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Tinder Has Ruined Online Dating

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When Tinder first came out, the model was instantly popular with my millennial peers and it cemented itself into the subscription based window shopping economy. Swipe Right, if you like the pic. Swipe Left if you don't. Who cares if it's superficial? Now, I'm hard pressed to find any dating website that doesn't have similar features, and if they DON'T implement the Tinder model it's a site that's stuck in the 90s and a neglected userbase that's ripe for scammers, fake profiles and obviously spammy sex ads.

One of my cousins got married thanks to tinder, but then broke it off shortly after. I'm not entirely sure of Tinder's success rate, and/or why without this data other dating sites would go ahead and follow that model. The whole reason, I started w/online dating was because I (Naively) thought that it would be easier to meet people who were single and who weren't superficial. Boy was I wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I've had phenomenal success getting dates w/girls. I've dated more girls in the past year than at any other time in my life. Girls I would have never approached in real life. These girls were in no way whatsoever smoking hot models (That's not my type anyway) some of that is my eagerness to just accept any girl's invitation due to the fact that she ISN'T a superficial instagram whore, or a bot. I know I'm not smoking hot, or and don't have model looks, but it's my personality more than anything takes some warming up to. (as you all know about my weird political views) W/online dating especially in the tinder age. All of that is taken away. At least with the old model, there were carefully written out profiles about likes and dislikes. Not just emoji puzzles and links to an instagram account. Or worse empty descriptions.

Online dating is also really bad if you live near but NOT in a major city. I live 10 miles from NYC, and I ONLY ever get matched w/girls who live in NYC or farther away. I'm planning something w/someone who lives farther away in upstate NY. She can only meet up in a few weeks though.

So in conclusion, even though the old style dating sites are littered w/scammers, I miss the old style. I miss the way that we could all view profiles without paying, message anybody we want and see that she reads it hopes that she responds. If she doesn't no big deal, but it's waaaay better than just staring aimless at my phone hoping for a match. IDK if this post makes much sense but hopefully this girl works out and I never have to do online dating again. Because if she becomes my gf and then we break up, I won't go back to online dating.

YES I read the profiles.
 
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A friend told me recently that he has a buddy that makes money advertising on online dating sites. He says he would make fake profiles in order to somehow get an idea of how well his marketing was doing. He had fake female profiles as well, which he said got absolutely inundated with men interested in them, which is to say that you may be one in hundreds of guys contacting them. Imo, it's like most of social media, kind of a cheap and mostly insignificant way of socializing.

I know this is easier said than done, but go out into society and be charming and funny as hell to women you meet and I'll bet you'll do much better in the long run.
 
When Tinder first came out, the model was instantly popular with my millennial peers and it cemented itself into the subscription based window shopping economy. Swipe Right, if you like the pic. Swipe Left if you don't. Who cares if it's superficial? Now, I'm hard pressed to find any dating website that doesn't have similar features, and if they DON'T implement the Tinder model it's a site that's stuck in the 90s and a neglected userbase that's ripe for scammers, fake profiles and obviously spammy sex ads.

One of my cousins got married thanks to tinder, but then broke it off shortly after. I'm not entirely sure of Tinder's success rate, and/or why without this data other dating sites would go ahead and follow that model. The whole reason, I started w/online dating was because I (Naively) thought that it would be easier to meet people who were single and who weren't superficial. Boy was I wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I've had phenomenal success getting dates w/girls. I've dated more girls in the past year than at any other time in my life. Girls I would have never approached in real life. These girls were in no way whatsoever smoking hot models (That's not my type anyway) some of that is my eagerness to just accept any girl's invitation due to the fact that she ISN'T a superficial instagram whore, or a bot. I know I'm not smoking hot, or and don't have model looks, but it's my personality more than anything takes some warming up to. (as you all know about my weird political views) W/online dating especially in the tinder age. All of that is taken away. At least with the old model, there were carefully written out profiles about likes and dislikes. Not just emoji puzzles and links to an instagram account. Or worse empty descriptions.

Online dating is also really bad if you live near but NOT in a major city. I live 10 miles from NYC, and I ONLY ever get matched w/girls who live in NYC or farther away. I'm planning something w/someone who lives farther away in upstate NY. She can only meet up in a few weeks though.

So in conclusion, even though the old style dating sites are littered w/scammers, I miss the old style. I miss the way that we could all view profiles without paying, message anybody we want and see that she reads it hopes that she responds. If she doesn't no big deal, but it's waaaay better than just staring aimless at my phone hoping for a match. IDK if this post makes much sense but hopefully this girl works out and I never have to do online dating again. Because if she becomes my gf and then we break up, I won't go back to online dating.

YES I read the profiles.

Do the Tinder Women expect you to pay for everything too (I am not counting pretending like they are fine with going dutch, I mean really)?

I get that they expect you to do the traveling.
 
I'd argue differently. Old online dating sites like Match.Com and PlentyOfFish were just as superficial as Tinder. Online dating pre-Tinder had users fill out profiles that were just as skin-deep and meaningless as the 200+ words you get with a Tinder profile. A good majority of users would use broad, generic adjectives to describe themselves to appeal to as many different potential suitors as possible. The only real difference between Tinder and the "old style" is that due to the minimal formatting of Tinder, you're actually required to try and form a bond with someone by actually interacting with them.

Just like in real life, an attraction is always started by appearance. What made Tinder so wildly popular is that it dropped any pretense of being an app capable of finding your soul mate.
 
Tinder isn't for dating.

Nope, it's not...it's for booty calls, you're right :)
I mean, it IS POSSIBLE to meet someone on Tinder and for the two people to become so enamored of each other that they wind up in a relationship but that doesn't change the fact that Tinder is for horny people to get laid, first and foremost.

I'll never forget my first "pre-Tinder" experience when I was all of seventeen (this would be 1973)...I kept asking the girl where she would like to go, movie, out to eat, walk in the park, and she kept saying, "I don't WANT to go out on a date, don't you get it, just come over NOW!"

I finally figured it out LOL!!!! And it sure was good that I did but I gotta admit, I was pretty dense at first!
She didn't WANT a date, she wanted to get right down to business!!!
 
When Tinder first came out, the model was instantly popular with my millennial peers and it cemented itself into the subscription based window shopping economy. Swipe Right, if you like the pic. Swipe Left if you don't. Who cares if it's superficial? Now, I'm hard pressed to find any dating website that doesn't have similar features, and if they DON'T implement the Tinder model it's a site that's stuck in the 90s and a neglected userbase that's ripe for scammers, fake profiles and obviously spammy sex ads.

One of my cousins got married thanks to tinder, but then broke it off shortly after. I'm not entirely sure of Tinder's success rate, and/or why without this data other dating sites would go ahead and follow that model. The whole reason, I started w/online dating was because I (Naively) thought that it would be easier to meet people who were single and who weren't superficial. Boy was I wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I've had phenomenal success getting dates w/girls. I've dated more girls in the past year than at any other time in my life. Girls I would have never approached in real life. These girls were in no way whatsoever smoking hot models (That's not my type anyway) some of that is my eagerness to just accept any girl's invitation due to the fact that she ISN'T a superficial instagram whore, or a bot. I know I'm not smoking hot, or and don't have model looks, but it's my personality more than anything takes some warming up to. (as you all know about my weird political views) W/online dating especially in the tinder age. All of that is taken away. At least with the old model, there were carefully written out profiles about likes and dislikes. Not just emoji puzzles and links to an instagram account. Or worse empty descriptions.

Online dating is also really bad if you live near but NOT in a major city. I live 10 miles from NYC, and I ONLY ever get matched w/girls who live in NYC or farther away. I'm planning something w/someone who lives farther away in upstate NY. She can only meet up in a few weeks though.

So in conclusion, even though the old style dating sites are littered w/scammers, I miss the old style. I miss the way that we could all view profiles without paying, message anybody we want and see that she reads it hopes that she responds. If she doesn't no big deal, but it's waaaay better than just staring aimless at my phone hoping for a match. IDK if this post makes much sense but hopefully this girl works out and I never have to do online dating again. Because if she becomes my gf and then we break up, I won't go back to online dating.

YES I read the profiles.

Have you tried Match.com? I heard that is a good app, and it's not swipe right.

I am so happy I am married. I never liked dating.
 
A friend told me recently that he has a buddy that makes money advertising on online dating sites. He says he would make fake profiles in order to somehow get an idea of how well his marketing was doing. He had fake female profiles as well, which he said got absolutely inundated with men interested in them, which is to say that you may be one in hundreds of guys contacting them. Imo, it's like most of social media, kind of a cheap and mostly insignificant way of socializing.

I know this is easier said than done, but go out into society and be charming and funny as hell to women you meet and I'll bet you'll do much better in the long run.

How can you make money by doing that if you're not running the whole dating app?
 
Have you tried Match.com? I heard that is a good app, and it's not swipe right.

I am so happy I am married. I never liked dating.

Yeah, I am so relieved that I have a happy marriage with a terrific lady.
I admit I have no idea what I would do with the online dating thing, it seems like a hot mess and my wife's older sister, who IS in the online dating world, has some stories that have made both of us alternately laugh our butts off or gasp in utter shock and disbelief.
 
Yeah, I am so relieved that I have a happy marriage with a terrific lady.
I admit I have no idea what I would do with the online dating thing, it seems like a hot mess and my wife's older sister, who IS in the online dating world, has some stories that have made both of us alternately laugh our butts off or gasp in utter shock and disbelief.

Yeah, there are some weird guys out. After reading some of the comments in this thread, I would advise a girl to not post too sexy photos on a dating app unless she is just looking for a hook up. If you want something serious, present that in your profile.
 
Yeah, there are some weird guys out. After reading some of the comments in this thread, I would advise a girl to not post too sexy photos on a dating app unless she is just looking for a hook up. If you want something serious, present that in your profile.

But Tinder is all ABOUT sexy profiles, that's what a couple of people, including NeverTrump GOP, might not understand.

When Tinder first came out, the model was instantly popular with my millennial peers and it cemented itself into the subscription based window shopping economy. Swipe Right, if you like the pic. Swipe Left if you don't. Who cares if it's superficial? Now, I'm hard pressed to find any dating website that doesn't have similar features, and if they DON'T implement the Tinder model it's a site that's stuck in the 90s and a neglected userbase that's ripe for scammers, fake profiles and obviously spammy sex ads.

One of my cousins got married thanks to tinder, but then broke it off shortly after. I'm not entirely sure of Tinder's success rate, and/or why without this data other dating sites would go ahead and follow that model. The whole reason, I started w/online dating was because I (Naively) thought that it would be easier to meet people who were single and who weren't superficial. Boy was I wrong.

Tinder is all about GETTING LAID, first and foremost. If you put yourself on Tinder, people who want to GET LAID are going to contact you.
It's not like Tinder RULES OUT long term relationships, but they do not highlight it as their MAIN feature.
The main feature about Tinder is "swiping Right and GETTIN' YOU some".

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But Tinder is all ABOUT sexy profiles, that's what a couple of people, including NeverTrump GOP, might not understand.



Tinder is all about GETTING LAID, first and foremost. If you put yourself on Tinder, people who want to GET LAID are going to contact you.
It's not like Tinder RULES OUT long term relationships, but they do not highlight it as their MAIN feature.
The main feature about Tinder is "swiping Right and GETTIN' YOU some".

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That makes sense... I wouldn't like Tinder.
 
That makes sense... I wouldn't like Tinder.

I probably would love it, if I was maybe 24 years old!
But alas I am 61 so I am obviously not the Tinder demographic, except maybe in my dirty old man imagination hahaha.
 
I probably would love it, if I was maybe 24 years old!
But alas I am 61 so I am obviously not the Tinder demographic, except maybe in my dirty old man imagination hahaha.

lol... we probably wouldn't have much in common at 24
 
I'd argue differently. Old online dating sites like Match.Com and PlentyOfFish were just as superficial as Tinder. Online dating pre-Tinder had users fill out profiles that were just as skin-deep and meaningless as the 200+ words you get with a Tinder profile. A good majority of users would use broad, generic adjectives to describe themselves to appeal to as many different potential suitors as possible. The only real difference between Tinder and the "old style" is that due to the minimal formatting of Tinder, you're actually required to try and form a bond with someone by actually interacting with them.

Just like in real life, an attraction is always started by appearance. What made Tinder so wildly popular is that it dropped any pretense of being an app capable of finding your soul mate.

Oh definitely agree with you here. I guess I'm just used to the old style and have had way more success with it than on tinder. I've learned to filter out superficial profiles like a pro using the old method and the girls who I thought would reply and meet up with me did. With Tinder, though, matches are easily missed. As I suspect a lot of people don't keep notifications on. Women understandable though. And still others have time limits of when you can chat with each other. If you are not a frequent user of those apps. You are missed.

Sure the old way is similar then too, but at least you can send a message and know if in two months she hasn't read it or just signed up for a free week and never reads another message again. With Tinder there is no way to know. In fact, with tinder I have found a couple of profiles that have people's wedding photos on it. Because it's linked to your facebook, and nobody realizes how to totally delete the app.
 
Tinder isn't for dating.

Nope, it's not...it's for booty calls, you're right :)
I mean, it IS POSSIBLE to meet someone on Tinder and for the two people to become so enamored of each other that they wind up in a relationship but that doesn't change the fact that Tinder is for horny people to get laid, first and foremost.

I'll never forget my first "pre-Tinder" experience when I was all of seventeen (this would be 1973)...I kept asking the girl where she would like to go, movie, out to eat, walk in the park, and she kept saying, "I don't WANT to go out on a date, don't you get it, just come over NOW!"

I finally figured it out LOL!!!! And it sure was good that I did but I gotta admit, I was pretty dense at first!
She didn't WANT a date, she wanted to get right down to business!!!

I see lots of profiles that say No Hookups. In fact I'd say that I see that about half the time. I use other apps that have copied the tinder model though. Those are more what I'm complaining about rather than Tinder.
 
Have you tried Match.com? I heard that is a good app, and it's not swipe right.

I am so happy I am married. I never liked dating.

I had no luck on Match despite it being most of what I wanted in a dating website. It's a hefty price if you don't want to pay upfront for a year. $50 per month and the amount of matches I was getting just wasn't worth it to me. I used it a couple of years ago and as soon as my subscription ended I got a bunch of notifications saying, "She's interested, come back to match to find out who she is." Something about that struck me as shady and money grubbing.

Fun fact: Match owns most of the dating sites nowadays. Tinder included.
 
Yeah, I am so relieved that I have a happy marriage with a terrific lady.
I admit I have no idea what I would do with the online dating thing, it seems like a hot mess and my wife's older sister, who IS in the online dating world, has some stories that have made both of us alternately laugh our butts off or gasp in utter shock and disbelief.

I haven't had any bad stories. Never been catfished luckily. Just a ghost or two. I mostly hear horror stories from women.
 
How can you make money by doing that if you're not running the whole dating app?

Prostitution Services. And spam referral links. Also ID "Verification" for ID thieves. Girl chats you up. You say, we should meet. Then girls says I'm scared, go to this site and type in your ID info to prove to me you are real. Then I'll feel safe. I guess it's pretty lucrative and they still catch losers in their nets.

I don't know how the whole instagram thing got started, but I think if you get enough followers and are really attractive you'll get promotions and things. So I guess a some people are going for that. That happens more on defunct older style sites, although it seems to be a "reality check," for some before they meet IRL.
 
I have always been skeptical about online dating because I feel that people (men and women alike) will post a picture that makes them look the best when in real life, they are not much of a looker. They can also lie about all sorts of things. The latest guy I had a crush on was from a forum, and he lied about pretty much everything imaginable: his height, hair and eye colours, ancestry, where he lived and worked, how much wealth he had (not that this was important to me) and maybe more, I can't recall because I try to block it out.

Personally I think the best way to find a dating or potentially long-term partner is through the real-life friends you have. In theory they know the person reasonably well and there is less of a chance of her turning out to be a lunatic.
 
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I have always been skeptical about online dating because I feel that people (men and women alike) will post a picture that makes them look the best when in real life, they are not much of a looker. They can also lie about all sorts of things. The latest guy I had a crush on was from a forum, and he lied about pretty much everything imaginable: his height, hair and eye colours, ancestry, where he lived and worked, how much wealth he had (not that this was important to me) and maybe more, I can't recall because I try to block it out.

Personally I think the best way to find a dating or potentially long-term partner is through the real-life friends you have. In theory they know the person reasonably well and there is less of a chance of her turning out to be a lunatic.

Yeah I'm starting to seriously cut back. Its a shame though because I found my first gf on Plenty of Fish, but the site has since devolved into this:

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My daughter has told me a lot about this kind of dating scene. Seems the biggest problem is that people's attention spans are getting shorter and shorter. She said that she has been on dates where the guy is still receiving Tinder messages while he is with her. With such convenience and ease of access, it baffles me how young people form enduring monogamous relationships anymore. There is so much temptation to always be looking for the better deal.

Plus it's hard to really suss someone out online. In my day we picked up people in person. You had to build courage and just do it, or really give someone strong signs that you want them to ask you. Nowadays people don't do much in person.

I think everyone should experience being rejected at least once IN PERSON. It builds character :)
 
Have you tried Match.com? I heard that is a good app, and it's not swipe right.

I am so happy I am married. I never liked dating.

Dittos. I have zero idea how to advise my kids in an era where Tinder-style-interaction is assumed.
 
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