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Third-wheel.

Worst third wheel: Second date and last with some girl back in 1985 or so. She invites her girlfriend to join us. I get frozen out. Why she didn't just say she was busy and not go out that second time was a mystery to me. Anyway, I left after about an hour.

Weirdest third wheel: I met a couple while traveling after my divorce. We drink. He gets bombed and passes out. She starts climbing all over me. Yeah, I was a scumbag that night and hit it.

Best third wheel: 1980, me, my high school best guy buddy and his gf go to the Rush concert. Have a blast.
 
calamity said:
Worst third wheel: Second date and last with some girl back in 1985 or so. She invites her girlfriend to join us. I get frozen out. Why she didn't just say she was busy and not go out that second time was a mystery to me. Anyway, I left after about an hour.

Weirdest third wheel: I met a couple while traveling after my divorce. We drink. He gets bombed and passes out. She starts climbing all over me. Yeah, I was a scumbag that night and hit it.

Best third wheel: 1980, me, my high school best guy buddy and his gf go to the Rush concert. Have a blast.
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When you said Rush, Rush Limbaugh popped in my head for some reason. :2razz:
 
TheGoverness said:
When you said Rush, Rush Limbaugh popped in my head for some reason. :2razz:
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I bet they (the band) hate that their name is connected to that buffoon now. :)
 
I had a good friend of mine who slowly drifted away over the years because his girlfriend is really possessive and hates it when we talk to him.
 
I had a creepy experience with a third wheel a little over 35 years ago. My HS gf and I would go fishing out on a boat in Lake Huron owned by this older dude (let's call him Joe) that we befriended through a third party. Fun seemed to have been had by all whenever we went.

Well, one day, our mutual, third-party friend told my gf that she overheard Joe discussing a scheme to kill me, throw my corpse into the lake and then kidnap my gf as a sex slave. :shock:

Needless to say, we no longer went fishing out on lake Huron with Joe. :)
 
TheGoverness said:
I need to vent. So, yesterday, I had like the worst third-wheel experience ever. So my friend got herself a boyfriend pretty recently. Which is nice, I’m very happy for her. But they are both still in that stupid “lovey-dovey” phase, and oh my God is it annoying.

My friend invited me over to her house to hang out with her and watch a movie. Unfortunately, when I got there, her ****ing boyfriend was there. And I was strangling my friend's throat in my mind, because she didn't ****ing tell me beforehand. I tried to play it off, thinking to myself it wouldn't be so bad. But ooh, boy was I wrong. Unfortunately for me, my worst fears were confirmed. I was just sitting there awkwardly, trying to watch the movie and hating my life in the process, while they were too busy on her bed eating each other’s faces off. I wanted to tear all my hair out, and strangle them with it. It was so unbelievably uncomfortable just having to sit there. Pretty soon, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I walked out. I stormed home pissed off and very irritated; I’m pretty sure steam was coming out of my ****ing ears. When I bring someone else along with my girlfriend, I make sure not to make them feel like a third-wheel, because I know how ****ing uncomfortable being in that position is. Plus, I don’t really like doing that stuff in front of other people. She later apologized to me over text, and I reluctantly accepted it after giving her a piece of my mind. But I’m still pretty irritated at her. I get it; you wanna make out with your boyfriend. That’s great. But don’t ****ing involve me. And don’t ****ing invite me over if all you’re gonna do is neglect my presence.

Argh. Now that I got that all off my chest, what are some of you guys’ worst third-wheel experiences?
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My homie does this damn near everytime. But I never took offense to it, certainly not to a point where I was thinking of strangling them lol.

He/she probably didnt mean it in a bad way. I think your just overreacting.
 
JuiceJS said:
My homie does this damn near everytime. But I never took offense to it, certainly not to a point where I was thinking of strangling them lol.

He/she probably didnt mean it in a bad way. I think your just overreacting.
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Why the **** did you necro this old ass thread?
 
I think you swear too much.
 
TheGoverness said:
I need to vent. So, yesterday, I had like the worst third-wheel experience ever. So my friend got herself a boyfriend pretty recently. Which is nice, I’m very happy for her. But they are both still in that stupid “lovey-dovey” phase, and oh my God is it annoying.

My friend invited me over to her house to hang out with her and watch a movie. Unfortunately, when I got there, her ****ing boyfriend was there. And I was strangling my friend's throat in my mind, because she didn't ****ing tell me beforehand. I tried to play it off, thinking to myself it wouldn't be so bad. But ooh, boy was I wrong. Unfortunately for me, my worst fears were confirmed. I was just sitting there awkwardly, trying to watch the movie and hating my life in the process, while they were too busy on her bed eating each other’s faces off. I wanted to tear all my hair out, and strangle them with it. It was so unbelievably uncomfortable just having to sit there. Pretty soon, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I walked out. I stormed home pissed off and very irritated; I’m pretty sure steam was coming out of my ****ing ears. When I bring someone else along with my girlfriend, I make sure not to make them feel like a third-wheel, because I know how ****ing uncomfortable being in that position is. Plus, I don’t really like doing that stuff in front of other people. She later apologized to me over text, and I reluctantly accepted it after giving her a piece of my mind. But I’m still pretty irritated at her. I get it; you wanna make out with your boyfriend. That’s great. But don’t ****ing involve me. And don’t ****ing invite me over if all you’re gonna do is neglect my presence.

Argh. Now that I got that all off my chest, what are some of you guys’ worst third-wheel experiences?
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Lemme make sure I am clear on "friend"...because I don't want to make assumptions.
Is your female friend a friend with whom YOU also have intimate relations, or was this just a female buddy who was being obnoxious?
I don't even know for sure what your orientation is, is what I am getting at, or hers for that matter, and if it doesn't have any bearing on the post, I'm fine with that, too.
I'm even okay with "all of that is nunnaya damn bidnizz".
 
Lutherf said:
Yeah, that's pretty bad when she invites you over and they just make out. In such a situation I highly recommend that, while they are otherwise occupied, you eat all the good stuff in her refrigerator (make yourself a doggie bag if you cant get it all down) and raid her liquor cabinet a little.
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And bong up all her weed, too.
 
Crovax said:
Maybe she was trying to get y’all into a threesome :shrug:
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Could BE but in my past experience, when that's been on the menu, it gets rather obvious because the couple starts getting nakey nakey and making pointed comments.
Admittedly I came to the conclusion that, as arousing as the fantasy of two girls getting naked always was, I really am more oriented toward a one at a time arrangement, as the very few 3-somes I wound up in wound up BEING me mostly paying attention to one at a time after a couple of minutes of 3-sided fun.
And that was maybe a wee bit frustrating for the other party.

But still, I remember the nakey nakey and the not so subtle HINTS dropping like giant lead weights.
It was pretty clear what was on their minds!!

I've never found myself in a two guys on one girl situation, thankfully.
 
TheGoverness said:
Hey, I'm sure some people have felt like the third-wheel even in threesomes. :lol:
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I know a couple of folks who manage to handle it smoothly but I confess, it feels confusing to me.
Am I paying enough attention to "her #1" or should I switch over to "her #2" and now what's her #1 thinking?
Should I jump in the middle of her #1 and #2 going at each other or do I watch?
Okay now her #1 is doing something I really like and I want to take it all the way so should her #2 sit and watch or what?
Etc etc etc.

I'm no spring chicken anymore but once upon a time I'd taken care of way more than one in one night, in succession.
That I was okay with, and amazingly so were they, but it was the 70's and that's how it was back then.

Am I as good as I once was? No, more than likely I might be as good ONCE, as I once was, if I'm lucky, LOL.
 
calamity said:
I love watching those things before I go to bed. My wife thinks that's nuts.
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Wifey sometimes gets into watching stuff like that.
I am compelled to tease the crap out of her but she's a terrifically good sport about it and turns it around.
Ay carumba, I've stumbled in on her watching "Snapped"....yeesh.
More than a few of those started out as third wheel stories!!
 
beefheart said:
Oh, I know what its like to be 3rd wheel....for a long time....

The good part? When my gf and I go out with friends, we are both pretty cognizant about how much being the 3rd wheel sucks, so we minimize the suckage.
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Wife and I might give each other a smooch, but that's about it as far as PDA's...I feel weird making out in front of someone, unless we want to annoy our kids, but that's more like "stupid looking pretend making out" for the express purpose OF annoying them, which is funny as Hell.

I mean, around regular folks, no...we're sort of mellow. I love telling her I love her and giving her a hug and a peck and that's about it and vice versa.
We can be obnoxious but only to be funny.
 
Christ, I just noticed the date...I didn't know!! (SORRY!!)
 
TheGoverness said:
I need to vent. So, yesterday, I had like the worst third-wheel experience ever. So my friend got herself a boyfriend pretty recently. Which is nice, I’m very happy for her. But they are both still in that stupid “lovey-dovey” phase, and oh my God is it annoying.

My friend invited me over to her house to hang out with her and watch a movie. Unfortunately, when I got there, her ****ing boyfriend was there. And I was strangling my friend's throat in my mind, because she didn't ****ing tell me beforehand. I tried to play it off, thinking to myself it wouldn't be so bad. But ooh, boy was I wrong. Unfortunately for me, my worst fears were confirmed. I was just sitting there awkwardly, trying to watch the movie and hating my life in the process, while they were too busy on her bed eating each other’s faces off. I wanted to tear all my hair out, and strangle them with it. It was so unbelievably uncomfortable just having to sit there. Pretty soon, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I walked out. I stormed home pissed off and very irritated; I’m pretty sure steam was coming out of my ****ing ears. When I bring someone else along with my girlfriend, I make sure not to make them feel like a third-wheel, because I know how ****ing uncomfortable being in that position is. Plus, I don’t really like doing that stuff in front of other people. She later apologized to me over text, and I reluctantly accepted it after giving her a piece of my mind. But I’m still pretty irritated at her. I get it; you wanna make out with your boyfriend. That’s great. But don’t ****ing involve me. And don’t ****ing invite me over if all you’re gonna do is neglect my presence.

Argh. Now that I got that all off my chest, what are some of you guys’ worst third-wheel experiences?
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You have to decide what is acceptable to you and if you will accept being disrespected that way.

I don't know if the expense of all that emotion of getting angry is worth it though.

Has she done things like this before, or did she at one time value your friendship?
 
JuiceJS said:
My homie does this damn near everytime. But I never took offense to it, certainly not to a point where I was thinking of strangling them lol.

He/she probably didnt mean it in a bad way. I think your just overreacting.
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There is never a good way to take disrespect.
 
TheGoverness said:
I need to vent. So, yesterday, I had like the worst third-wheel experience ever. So my friend got herself a boyfriend pretty recently. Which is nice, I’m very happy for her. But they are both still in that stupid “lovey-dovey” phase, and oh my God is it annoying.

My friend invited me over to her house to hang out with her and watch a movie. Unfortunately, when I got there, her ****ing boyfriend was there. And I was strangling my friend's throat in my mind, because she didn't ****ing tell me beforehand. I tried to play it off, thinking to myself it wouldn't be so bad. But ooh, boy was I wrong. Unfortunately for me, my worst fears were confirmed. I was just sitting there awkwardly, trying to watch the movie and hating my life in the process, while they were too busy on her bed eating each other’s faces off. I wanted to tear all my hair out, and strangle them with it. It was so unbelievably uncomfortable just having to sit there. Pretty soon, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I walked out. I stormed home pissed off and very irritated; I’m pretty sure steam was coming out of my ****ing ears. When I bring someone else along with my girlfriend, I make sure not to make them feel like a third-wheel, because I know how ****ing uncomfortable being in that position is. Plus, I don’t really like doing that stuff in front of other people. She later apologized to me over text, and I reluctantly accepted it after giving her a piece of my mind. But I’m still pretty irritated at her. I get it; you wanna make out with your boyfriend. That’s great. But don’t ****ing involve me. And don’t ****ing invite me over if all you’re gonna do is neglect my presence.

Argh. Now that I got that all off my chest, what are some of you guys’ worst third-wheel experiences?
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I"m 67, and that kind of thing rarely happens at my age in my age group, older people are far more mindful of manners.

But, in my youth, yeah, it happens, and it's a drag, for sure. You did the right thing. Im sure your friend won't make that mistake again.
 
TheGoverness said:
I need to vent. So, yesterday, I had like the worst third-wheel experience ever. So my friend got herself a boyfriend pretty recently. Which is nice, I’m very happy for her. But they are both still in that stupid “lovey-dovey” phase, and oh my God is it annoying.

My friend invited me over to her house to hang out with her and watch a movie. Unfortunately, when I got there, her ****ing boyfriend was there. And I was strangling my friend's throat in my mind, because she didn't ****ing tell me beforehand. I tried to play it off, thinking to myself it wouldn't be so bad. But ooh, boy was I wrong. Unfortunately for me, my worst fears were confirmed. I was just sitting there awkwardly, trying to watch the movie and hating my life in the process, while they were too busy on her bed eating each other’s faces off. I wanted to tear all my hair out, and strangle them with it. It was so unbelievably uncomfortable just having to sit there. Pretty soon, I just couldn't take it anymore, and I walked out. I stormed home pissed off and very irritated; I’m pretty sure steam was coming out of my ****ing ears. When I bring someone else along with my girlfriend, I make sure not to make them feel like a third-wheel, because I know how ****ing uncomfortable being in that position is. Plus, I don’t really like doing that stuff in front of other people. She later apologized to me over text, and I reluctantly accepted it after giving her a piece of my mind. But I’m still pretty irritated at her. I get it; you wanna make out with your boyfriend. That’s great. But don’t ****ing involve me. And don’t ****ing invite me over if all you’re gonna do is neglect my presence.

Argh. Now that I got that all off my chest, what are some of you guys’ worst third-wheel experiences?
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Sorry your friend was so rude. Though not quite the same, I have had several first dates were the young man would spend the majority of the time texting others. Obviously in these cases the young man does not get a second date. Now, as I almost always date younger guys this could be a generation thing, but I cant excuse such behaviour on a first date.

You were correct in letting your friend know she was being inconsiderate. Especially if she is a friend you value.

I had a first date with a guy years ago who proceeded to log into Grinder during the date, needless to say I excused myself, and walked away lol

some people you cant help

Give your friend some slack, and another shot
 
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