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A guy kissed me.

I think the best way to handle it is just to come right out and say, "Hey, you wanna **** or just be friends? Maybe go get a Coke or something. I dunno. Wadda ya think?"

Maybe that's why I never got laid. Maybe I should of offered a Pepsi instead. I dunno. :3oops:
 
Captain America said:
I think the best way to handle it is just to come right out and say, "Hey, you wanna **** or just be friends? Maybe go get a Coke or something. I dunno. Wadda ya think?"

Maybe that's why I never got laid. I dunno.
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IT's why I always got laid. ;)
 
Captain America said:
I think the best way to handle it is just to come right out and say, "Hey, you wanna **** or just be friends? Maybe go get a Coke or something. I dunno. Wadda ya think?"

Maybe that's why I never got laid. Maybe I should of offered a Pepsi instead. I dunno. :3oops:
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You wanna **** or be friends?" :lol:
 
Mr Person said:
I just want to note, none of my female friends have ever had to do anything like this to me: "ALWAYS state up front, before you continue your friendship, that you positively do not see this guy in any romantic or sexual way, and tell him that you never want him, ever, under any circumstances, to make an advance towards you".



I guess the better advice is to pick one's friends carefully....
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Well, he's a pretty cool guy. I still hang out with him all the time.
 
OscarLevant said:
Okay, I'm a guy, and I have some advice for you, and this is really true if you are young:

If you are becoming friends with a guy and don't want him to make an advance towards you, ALWAYS state up front, before you continue your friendship, that you positively do not see this guy in any romantic or sexual way, and tell him that you never want him, ever, under any circumstances, to make an advance towards you, and if he can be okay with that, then and only then can the friendship can continue, just friends, study partners, platonic, that sort of thing, because....

if you don't, a lot of guys will take your friendliness as a signal that it's okay to make a sexual advance, and gentlemen will ask for a date before they make an advance, but not a lot of guys are gentlemen, if you haven't already noticed.

Now, if he does it anyway after all that, then you must end your friendship with him, he's one of those guys that doesn't understand "NO".

I'm pretty shy, and I would never do that, I would ask for a date, (even if I weren't shy, I would still ask for a date and continue to day at least two or three before making an advance, like a kiss ) but a lot of guys are more aggressive than I am.

Good luck.

OL
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Just to make this clear to anyone else that might see this thread, this situation has been resolved months ago.
 
TheGoverness said:
Well, he's a pretty cool guy. I still hang out with him all the time.
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This thread coming back to life just reminded me of my good friend Carmen from 1984. I had just been dumped by my first live-in, and Carm was someone I met shortly after through a mutual friend. We hung out together for several months, listening to David Bowie, Alan Parsons, The Little River Band and Yes while smoking copious amounts of weed and discussing philosophical things.

We remained tight until I finally moved out of state to go back to college. She was instrumental in helping me make that decision. I just realized that I never did try anything with her. Pecks on the cheek and a few hugs was about the extent of our physical relationship.
 
calamity said:
This thread coming back to life just reminded me of my good friend Carmen from 1984. I had just been dumped by my first live-in, and Carm was someone I met shortly after through a mutual friend. We hung out together for several months, listening to David Bowie, Alan Parsons, The Little River Band and Yes while smoking copious amounts of weed and discussing philosophical things.

We remained tight until I finally moved out of state to go back to college. She was instrumental in helping me make that decision. I just realized that I never did try anything with her. Pecks on the cheek and a few hugs was about the extent of our physical relationship.
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Weed and philosophy are the best combination. :lol:
 
Mr Person said:
Except if you write down your brilliant tripping philosophy, it's just about complete gibberish the next morning...
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William James describes a man who got the experience from laughing-gas; whenever he was under its influence, he knew the secret of the universe, but when he came to, he had forgotten it. At last, with immense effort, he wrote down the secret before the vision had faded. When completely recovered, he rushed to see what he had written. It was: "A smell of petroleum prevails throughout.”
 
Just to show how far we've all come in my lifetime as far as elimination of ignorance and naivety - I grew up in the 70's I was a party to gay jokes back then, but I honestly thought homosexuality was a myth.

When I was 17 I was a bus person at a restaurant in an affluent suburb of Seattle. I was a wrestler in high school and had the body-type.

One of the waiters - the guy must've been in his 50's was always making positive comments about my body and appearance. I thought the guy was just being friendly. In the back of my mind, I knew these type of comments from another dude were unusual, but I guess I was in denial. One day, he asked me over to his house "for some drinks", he said. "We would have a good time", he said. I was pretty shocked at that point but I was able to hold it together and fell back on my parents that they wouldn't let me go over to someone's house they didn't know.

I never told my friends about this until years later because I didn't want them to haze me about it. For years after that I was quite the homophobe, until I obtained enough knowledge to know that it's extremely rare for anyone in their 50's, gay or straight to come on to teenagers.

I know this is off topic to The Gov's thread - but it feels good to share my life experience - especially when it's a happy ending (no pun intended).
 
lurchadams said:
Just to show how far we've all come in my lifetime as far as elimination of ignorance and naivety - I grew up in the 70's I was a party to gay jokes back then, but I honestly thought homosexuality was a myth.

When I was 17 I was a bus person at a restaurant in an affluent suburb of Seattle. I was a wrestler in high school and had the body-type.

One of the waiters - the guy must've been in his 50's was always making positive comments about my body and appearance. I thought the guy was just being friendly. In the back of my mind, I knew these type of comments from another dude were unusual, but I guess I was in denial. One day, he asked me over to his house "for some drinks", he said. "We would have a good time", he said. I was pretty shocked at that point but I was able to hold it together and fell back on my parents that they wouldn't let me go over to someone's house they didn't know.

I never told my friends about this until years later because I didn't want them to haze me about it. For years after that I was quite the homophobe, until I obtained enough knowledge to know that it's extremely rare for anyone in their 50's, gay or straight to come on to teenagers.

I know this is off topic to The Gov's thread - but it feels good to share my life experience - especially when it's a happy ending (no pun intended).
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No, no, I don't have a problem with you sharing your life experiences. Besides, this is thread is really old news. :)

I've run into my fair share of "weird" comments from older people when I was younger. Thankfully nothing happened.
 
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