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That's rather excessive, don't you think?
Meant as a joke
If I was going to do it I would tell the person shortly after it was a joke
That's rather excessive, don't you think?
Jeezus. Awkward situations always seem to creep up on me at the worst times.
So there's this guy that lives in my dorm (It's co-ed FYI). And we just so happen to have a Psychology class together on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, so we sit together in that class, as he's the only one that I know in the giant lecture room. He's a pretty okay dude to have a conversation with. And last week he brought me along to hang out with his friends a few times when I was bored and had nothing to do. I thought we could be like good friends and study partners. But I must have been giving out the wrong signals, because today, out of ****ing nowhere, he kisses me. I've only known this guy for a little over a week, and he kisses me. I was caught completely off-guard. Did not expect him to do that to me at all. Of course, I shoved him away. I felt more surprised in that moment than angry, at least initially. But I was just like WTF are you doing, and I told him that I didn't like him that way, and that I already had a girlfriend. And he quickly tried to apologize, but I told him to **** off and stormed off. Anger probably wasn't the best tool to handle that situation, but I kinda lost it.
Now he's been texting me all afternoon still trying to apologize for what he did, but I've been avoiding talking to him. I'm not ready to forgive him; I'm still angry about it. This has pretty much ****ed up my whole day; I can't get it out of my head. I've been in situations before where guys have tried to ask me out, and I politely rejected them (although it still hurt me inside to do so). And I had one guy try to kiss me before in high school, but at least I had known the guy for a good while beforehand, and I saw it coming.
Has anyone else been in this kind of awkward situation? Where someone has tried to kiss them out-of-the-blue?
Meant as a joke
If I was going to do it I would tell the person shortly after it was a joke
What's awkward is NOT being turned down by a lesbian. Many years ago (I was in my 20's) I met a nice young lady and we went out a few times. Her parents were REALLY glad to meet me so I knew something was up and all her friends were lesbians so it wasn't a surprise. I got the conformation when we started making out and she slipped me more tongue than I'd ever experienced. I commented on it and that's when she said she had something to tell me. I guessed before she got it out of her mouth.
We actually dated for about another month and probably would have remained friends but some of her friends held more away than I did.
This wasn't a guy behaving badly. This was a young kid who was hanging out with a girl who seemed to like him and he had no clue that she was a lesbian. He's not a bad guy at all - just a guy who thought there was a spark when there wasn't at all.
Behaving badly and just being a flat-out bad person are two very different things. As I said, I am sure he will learn from this experience, given what Governess has said about his reaction.
But yes, making an unwanted sexual advance on someone is definitely bad behavior, and he very much earned the reaction he got. Hopefully what he will learn is to actually communicate rather than just assume any girl who's spending time with him is open to getting physical.
A guy kissed me
Behaving badly and just being a flat-out bad person are two very different things. As I said, I am sure he will learn from this experience, given what Governess has said about his reaction.
But yes, making an unwanted sexual advance on someone is definitely bad behavior, and he very much earned the reaction he got. Hopefully what he will learn is to actually communicate rather than just assume any girl who's spending time with him is open to getting physical.
From the OP the guy did not behave badly. He went for a kiss with a female he was attracted to. Nothing wrong with that. He wasn't trying to cop a feel. It was a damn kiss!
And even after the incident and learning the Governess was a lesbian, made a major effort to apologize. Sounds like a good kid to me.
He did not know! Why should he? The Governess was not wearing a tee shirt that said "Hello I am a Lesbian".
:lol:From the OP the guy did not behave badly. He went for a kiss with a female he was attracted to. Nothing wrong with that. He wasn't trying to cop a feel. It was a damn kiss!
And even after the incident and learning the Governess was a lesbian, made a major effort to apologize. Sounds like a good kid to me.
He did not know! Why should he? The Governess was not wearing a tee shirt that said "Hello I am a Lesbian".
Behaving badly and just being a flat-out bad person are two very different things. As I said, I am sure he will learn from this experience, given what Governess has said about his reaction.
But yes, making an unwanted sexual advance on someone is definitely bad behavior, and he very much earned the reaction he got. Hopefully what he will learn is to actually communicate rather than just assume any girl who's spending time with him is open to getting physical.
Jeezus. Awkward situations always seem to creep up on me at the worst times. Has anyone else been in this kind of awkward situation? Where someone has tried to kiss them out-of-the-blue?
Governess, he found you attractive. Get over it. And be nice to him.
Jeezus. Awkward situations always seem to creep up on me at the worst times.
So there's this guy that lives in my dorm (It's co-ed FYI). And we just so happen to have a Psychology class together on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, so we sit together in that class, as he's the only one that I know in the giant lecture room. He's a pretty okay dude to have a conversation with. And last week he brought me along to hang out with his friends a few times when I was bored and had nothing to do. I thought we could be like good friends and study partners. But I must have been giving out the wrong signals, because today, out of ****ing nowhere, he kisses me. I've only known this guy for a little over a week, and he kisses me. I was caught completely off-guard. Did not expect him to do that to me at all. Of course, I shoved him away. I felt more surprised in that moment than angry, at least initially. But I was just like WTF are you doing, and I told him that I didn't like him that way, and that I already had a girlfriend. And he quickly tried to apologize, but I told him to **** off and stormed off. Anger probably wasn't the best tool to handle that situation, but I kinda lost it.
Now he's been texting me all afternoon still trying to apologize for what he did, but I've been avoiding talking to him. I'm not ready to forgive him; I'm still angry about it. This has pretty much ****ed up my whole day; I can't get it out of my head. I've been in situations before where guys have tried to ask me out, and I politely rejected them (although it still hurt me inside to do so). And I had one guy try to kiss me before in high school, but at least I had known the guy for a good while beforehand, and I saw it coming.
Has anyone else been in this kind of awkward situation? Where someone has tried to kiss them out-of-the-blue?
It is not that simple if it happens to a gay and a hetero.
:lol:
Neither did I but lesbians attempted to kiss me :shock:
Governess, he found you attractive. Get over it. And be nice to him.
Sweetie Pie, I've been kissed by guys when I didn't even know their first names.
Big girl panties thingie. Birds and bees thingie. Don't make an enemy out of the guy just because he found you attractive. Don't be surprised that your orientation will be questioned again and again. And be happy someone found you attractive and interesting enough to want to have more than a friendship.
Graciously accept his apology. Remain friends if it's feasible. It never hurts to have a big brother watch your back.
Your reaction shows you have some growing to do. And what fun you'll have!
From the OP the guy did not behave badly. He went for a kiss with a female he was attracted to. Nothing wrong with that. He wasn't trying to cop a feel. It was a damn kiss!
And even after the incident and learning the Governess was a lesbian, made a major effort to apologize. Sounds like a good kid to me.
He did not know! Why should he? The Governess was not wearing a tee shirt that said "Hello I am a Lesbian".
It is not that simple if it happens to a gay and a hetero.
Jeezus. Awkward situations always seem to creep up on me at the worst times.
So there's this guy that lives in my dorm (It's co-ed FYI). And we just so happen to have a Psychology class together on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, so we sit together in that class, as he's the only one that I know in the giant lecture room. He's a pretty okay dude to have a conversation with. And last week he brought me along to hang out with his friends a few times when I was bored and had nothing to do. I thought we could be like good friends and study partners. But I must have been giving out the wrong signals, because today, out of ****ing nowhere, he kisses me. I've only known this guy for a little over a week, and he kisses me. I was caught completely off-guard. Did not expect him to do that to me at all. Of course, I shoved him away. I felt more surprised in that moment than angry, at least initially. But I was just like WTF are you doing, and I told him that I didn't like him that way, and that I already had a girlfriend. And he quickly tried to apologize, but I told him to **** off and stormed off. Anger probably wasn't the best tool to handle that situation, but I kinda lost it.
Now he's been texting me all afternoon still trying to apologize for what he did, but I've been avoiding talking to him. I'm not ready to forgive him; I'm still angry about it. This has pretty much ****ed up my whole day; I can't get it out of my head. I've been in situations before where guys have tried to ask me out, and I politely rejected them (although it still hurt me inside to do so). And I had one guy try to kiss me before in high school, but at least I had known the guy for a good while beforehand, and I saw it coming.
Has anyone else been in this kind of awkward situation? Where someone has tried to kiss them out-of-the-blue?