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Anyone ever been in one? And how large of a gap does it have to be considered a substantial age gap?
 
Puigb said:
Anyone ever been in one? And how large of a gap does it have to be considered a substantial age gap?
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Anyone that ever had parents has been in such a relationship
 
Puigb said:
Anyone ever been in one? And how large of a gap does it have to be considered a substantial age gap?
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I've experimented all the way up to a 25 year gap, both directions. Dated a 45 year old when I was 20 and vice versa when I was 45. It never worked out. I found anything over 10 years to be unsustainable.
 
Typical rule of thumb - take your age, divide in half and add 7 years.

That kind of fits calamity's age range.

You probably have to throw age range out of the window when you are hitting 7 figures though.
 
calamity said:
I've experimented all the way up to a 25 year gap, both directions. Dated a 45 year old when I was 20 and vice versa when I was 45. It never worked out. I found anything over 10 years to be unsustainable.
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Interesting. Would you say anything above 10 years wouldn't work out because of generation gaps?
 
Puigb said:
Interesting. Would you say anything above 10 years wouldn't work out because of generation gaps?
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At some point several things come into play. Communication issues are probably minor compared to the physical differences. Why would a 50 year old want to be around a "lover" who is over 70?
 
A large age gap 20 - 25 years is fine when it is in middle years meaning someone is 30 and someone is 55.

It won't last though because the upper end is rapidly approaching old age and the younger one has a life to live and is not "winding down".

As someone else has said ten years tops, and the older individual must be mentally, and physically fit.

A fling is fine...a relationship - no.
 
calamity said:
At some point several things come into play. Communication issues are probably minor compared to the physical differences. Why would a 50 year old want to be around a "lover" who is over 70?
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I guess I can see the physical aspect being more of an issue when you are older. Regardless, it seems like the general agreement is anything above 10 years gap is too large for it to work out, though I'm sure there are exceptions (and I'm definitely not talking about Trump and his wife).
 
joG said:
Anyone that ever had parents has been in such a relationship
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I have a great uncle whose wife is thirty years younger than him and they been married for around 30 or 40 years. One of my best friends' have parents with at least a 20 year age gap. Of course in both of their situations they were previously married to other people.
 
Puigb said:
I guess I can see the physical aspect being more of an issue when you are older. Regardless, it seems like the general agreement is anything above 10 years gap is too large for it to work out, though I'm sure there are exceptions (and I'm definitely not talking about Trump and his wife).
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There are always exceptions. Sometimes, they even work out.
 
jamesrage said:
I have a great uncle whose wife is thirty years younger than him and they been married for around 30 or 40 years. One of my best friends' have parents with at least a 20 year age gap. Of course in both of their situations they were previously married to other people.
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I think you should only marry once. ;)
 
jamesrage said:
Sometimes it takes a couple of times to get something right.
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I chalk it up to maturity and realizing that time is running out. Dumping a spouse in your twenties and early thirties is no big deal. Lots of time to recover, find someone else and rebuild. Doing the same in your late 40's or early 50's less so. And, doing it past age of 60 is a disaster.
 
jamesrage said:
I have a great uncle whose wife is thirty years younger than him and they been married for around 30 or 40 years. One of my best friends' have parents with at least a 20 year age gap. Of course in both of their situations they were previously married to other people.
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My grandfather's uncle married a 40yo woman when he was 20, they were married for 55 years. That is the only major age difference in a marriage in my extended family and they got married in the 1930s.
 
jamesrage said:
Sometimes it takes a couple of times to get something right.
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That is why such decisions should be taken Cold and not in heat.
 
Dating a woman younger is fine except that she will probably want a baby at some point but I won't date a lady older than me unless forced to... plus she probably already has kids.
 
Bodhisattva said:
Dating a woman younger is fine except that she will probably want a baby at some point but I won't date a lady older than me unless forced to... plus she probably already has kids.
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Kids aren't a problem....as long as they're already out of college and gainfully employed.
 
Lutherf said:
Kids aren't a problem....as long as they're already out of college and gainfully employed.
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They are a problem for me...
 
Bodhisattva said:
Dating a woman younger is fine except that she will probably want a baby at some point but I won't date a lady older than me unless forced to... plus she probably already has kids.
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Who would force you to?
 
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