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Age Gap relationships

A large age gap 20 - 25 years is fine when it is in middle years meaning someone is 30 and someone is 55.

It won't last though because the upper end is rapidly approaching old age and the younger one has a life to live and is not "winding down".

As someone else has said ten years tops, and the older individual must be mentally, and physically fit.

A fling is fine...a relationship - no.

A friend o my wife married a man of 55 when she was 30. I met them at his 100th birthday party; he was pretty spry and she was a very frail 75 year old. So exceptions are possible.

Emmanuel Macron who will be elected Pres of France next Sunday has a wife 24 years older than himself. She's the same age as Frau Merkel - so if Macron can be tempted into an extra-marital fling ......................
 
A friend o my wife married a man of 55 when she was 30. I met them at his 100th birthday party; he was pretty spry and she was a very frail 75 year old. So exceptions are possible.
I agree there are exceptions. Long after I finished school I dated one of my profs. There is a 25 year difference between us. His current wife is 15 years his junior but in very poor health and very frail. He is still going strong.

Emmanuel Macron who will be elected Pres of France next Sunday has a wife 24 years older than himself. She's the same age as Frau Merkel - so if Macron can be tempted into an extra-marital fling ......................
lol
 
Anyone ever been in one? And how large of a gap does it have to be considered a substantial age gap?

I was 38yrs old and had a 19yr old girl friend. It did NOT work, mostly because of age, because she was smoking hot in bed.
 
That is why such decisions should be taken Cold and not in heat.

A lot of people think long and hard before deciding to get married.Sometimes certain events happen to cause the relationship to go sour.
 
I've experimented all the way up to a 25 year gap, both directions. Dated a 45 year old when I was 20 and vice versa when I was 45. It never worked out. I found anything over 10 years to be unsustainable.
Well, I am 36, my wife of 7 years is 66. We get on fine, had 1 fight.

I guess it works different for some.

I should add, we are not legally married, but for all intents, may as well say so.
 
Well, I am 36, my wife of 7 years is 66. We get on fine, had 1 fight.

I guess it works different for some.

I should add, we are not legally married, but for all intents, may as well say so.

well, that's certainly different.
 
A lot of people think long and hard before deciding to get married.Sometimes certain events happen to cause the relationship to go sour.

That's the moment to make the decision. When ot goes soir, I mean. If you marry, when it's gone that cold and you marty, it'll be a sensible marriage.
 
I was 38yrs old and had a 19yr old girl friend. It did NOT work, mostly because of age, because she was smoking hot in bed.

Yeah, that's a pretty big gap, made even larger because she was only 19. Perhaps if she was 29 and you 48 maybe it could have worked.
 
My grandfather's uncle married a 40yo woman when he was 20, they were married for 55 years. That is the only major age difference in a marriage in my extended family and they got married in the 1930s.

My great grandma married a man in his 40's when she was 18. When he died, she married a man 8 years her junior a few years later. Go grannie! :)
 
I don't think we can use a calculator to determine whether we fall in love with somebody. When it happens, it happens. When there is attraction there is attraction. And yes, if one spouse is significantly older than the other, there is the probability that the younger will still be relatively young when the older passes on. But those I know who have been in that situation wouldn't have changed a thing. And some prefer to live out their days as a single and some will remarry. I do believe that when two emotionally mature people marry for love, it can be a beautiful thing regardless of age differences. If one is emotionally mature and the other is not, it isn't going to work out at any age.
 
I'm gonna let my wife read your post in the morning, I am 36, she is 66, I likes the cougars!:kitty:

Tell her, "You go girl!". :)

My great granny was one tough woman. She was left a widow with 4 kids, a couple thousand miles from her people. She made it back home on her own (at the beginning of the previous century) and found her a new hubby. A good man from all accounts. She rocked!
 
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She talks about a 20yo marrying a 45yo towards the end, but the whole thing is great.
 
My great grandma married a man in his 40's when she was 18. When he died, she married a man 8 years her junior a few years later. Go grannie! :)

What's interesting to me is, when men and even women get older, they always seem to prefer someone younger.
 
What's interesting to me is, when men and even women get older, they always seem to prefer someone younger.

I have no answer for that kind of preference. Emotional maturity? That's the only thing I can figure. It's not been my preference.

After my granny's first marriage and being stranded with so many kids, far from her family, I could see her accepting a younger man's proposal. ;)
 
I don't think we can use a calculator to determine whether we fall in love with somebody. When it happens, it happens. When there is attraction there is attraction. And yes, if one spouse is significantly older than the other, there is the probability that the younger will still be relatively young when the older passes on. But those I know who have been in that situation wouldn't have changed a thing. And some prefer to live out their days as a single and some will remarry. I do believe that when two emotionally mature people marry for love, it can be a beautiful thing regardless of age differences. If one is emotionally mature and the other is not, it isn't going to work out at any age.

I agree on not using a calculator, it's better for a guy to do the math in his head.
 
I agree on not using a calculator, it's better for a guy to do the math in his head.

And some folks just ignore the math and follow their hearts. And based on some very successful marriages with 10-20-30 years difference in ages that I have witnessed, I just think there isn't any hard and fast rule.
 
I have no answer for that kind of preference. Emotional maturity? That's the only thing I can figure. It's not been my preference.

After my granny's first marriage and being stranded with so many kids, far from her family, I could see her accepting a younger man's proposal. ;)

It's just something I noticed. Actually, I sort of take that back when it comes to men. Men, of all ages, seem to prefer women younger than them. Women when they are in their 20's or 30's seem to prefer a guy their age, or a little older. As they get older, they seem to prefer younger.
 
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