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Did you ever divorce ?

Did you ever divorce ?

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My wife actually filed once, but I kept to my promise made before I married her to talk her out of it.

I generally do not believe in divorce, and think that divorce should be difficult to do.
 
I'm an asshole and she should probably divorce me. But the woman's stuck with me for going on 32 years of marriage and 5 years of dating. She's got stamina.
 
My foster daughter did.. she got married too young, and for the wrong reasons.
 
No, and I think that is good given my family history. My dad has been divorced 4 times.
 
starter marriage

i never asked her to marry me
but i was unable to say 'no', even tho i knew i should
 
Gaius46 said:
I'm an asshole and she should probably divorce me. But the woman's stuck with me for going on 32 years of marriage and 5 years of dating. She's got stamina.
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Or low expectations of men... that's what mine says...30 years in the books... :peace
 
Hawkeye10 said:
My wife actually filed once, but I kept to my promise made before I married her to talk her out of it.

I generally do not believe in divorce, and think that divorce should be difficult to do.
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Wouldn't it make far more sense to make GETTING married more difficult?

There's plenty of reasons why divorce is the BEST option for some, and plenty of reasons why it should be damn easy.
 
Dragonfly said:
Wouldn't it make far more sense to make GETTING married more difficult?

There's plenty of reasons why divorce is the BEST option for some, and plenty of reasons why it should be damn easy.
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Yeah pretty sure if I had married any of the GFs I had before my wife I would be divorced by now. You had best be sure you are marrying the right one.
 
Quag said:
Yeah pretty sure if I had married any of the GFs I had before my wife I would be divorced by now. You had best be sure you are marrying the right one.
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This June I'll be married for 27 years. Prior to getting married we lived with each other for two years. Before that we dated for 2 years.

Prior to that I'd never been in a relationship with anyone longer than 6 months.

So yeah...some people you should never get married to.
 
Dragonfly said:
This June I'll be married for 27 years. Prior to getting married we lived with each other for two years. Before that we dated for 2 years.

Prior to that I'd never been in a relationship with anyone longer than 6 months.

So yeah...some people you should never get married to.
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Actually my shortest relationship was 6 months. But then I am still friends with almost all my exes, kinda strange that way. Even went to some of their weddings and vice versa.
On the other had I had a work friend in a terrible relationship and one day he comes over and says he's engaged. Me and another guy just blurt out WHY?. He shrugs and says it was either get engaged or break up. In unison we both said wrong choice. His marriage lasted 3 months. Had another work friend who was dating the same girl for over a decade when I first met him. We both moved around a bit then 4-5 years later we were working together. On a break he casually mentioned his wife. Looked at him and said "Wife? you finally got married?" He said yeah about a month ago, he hadn't told anyone at work. A month later on break again he mentioned his ex. I'm shocked and asked what you're divorced now? He says yeah it didn't work out. 15 years together and their marriage didn't last 2 months.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
My wife actually filed once, but I kept to my promise made before I married her to talk her out of it.

I generally do not believe in divorce, and think that divorce should be difficult to do.
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So, what do you think the requirements should be to obtain a divorce? How bad does it have to get to qualify under your standards?

I've been divorced once, a long time ago. About to celebrate anniversary 25 with my spouse. A couple of rough patches, but we've made it this far.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
My wife actually filed once, but I kept to my promise made before I married her to talk her out of it.

I generally do not believe in divorce, and think that divorce should be difficult to do.
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IDK, people should be free to enter or end relationships whenever it suits them. The decision shouldn't rely on some 3rd party arbitrator's blessing.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
~ I generally do not believe in divorce, and think that divorce should be difficult to do.
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Damn right I divorced.

Took me 7 years in court and at least £8,000 in legal fees to make sure I could still see my kids. The only good thing was it cost her twice as much to try and stop me seeing them.

All turned out bad for her because the two kids got fed up with her lazy ass and constant lying that they came to live with me 4 years ago. I made sure they still see her - no way was I going to do what she tried to do to me.
 
In 1988, I began an intimate relationship with my first wife. The following year, in spite of intense tension... and, in part due to pregnancy, we married. I married a Reformed Jew. She married an Avowed Free Spirit. We got down to the brass tacks and agreed to a few basic ground rules. We made and raised two beautiful daughters together. We had many, many blessings... and maybe almost as many heartbreaks.

When the youngest of the two daughters approached young adulthood our marriage became untenable. I acknowledge myself as the greater sinner of the two of us. I own the substantial damage I caused my family. When a restraining order forced me out of the house we had lived in for nearly 20 years, I filed for divorce. This contentious process took nearly a year to settle. Both of us have remarried.

I now have a far greater grasp of why most healthy relationships require an earnest commitment of monogamy. For any of you Mormon wives fed up with polygamy, if and when you decide you have had enough, I side with you. What's good for the Goose, is good for the Gander.
 
No, and (though, no doubt, everyone says this) we don't intend to. Our marriage has fought through quite a lot at this point - it would take something pretty serious (unrepentant adultery, perhaps) to end it.

Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime bond, you are supposed to become a single entity in the eyes of God and (to a slightly lesser extent) the eyes of the law. It ought to be more difficult to break up than a lease or a mortgage. For couples with minor children, I would support ending No-Fault.
 
I'm not sure... Oh, all right. Maybe a couple of times. They were inadvertent, sooo no big deal at all.
 
Hawkeye10 said:
My wife actually filed once, but I kept to my promise made before I married her to talk her out of it.

I generally do not believe in divorce, and think that divorce should be difficult to do.
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It seems to me that making it harder to get out of a realtionship only increases suffering.
 
I married my neighbor back in the 80s when I was 5 or 6. Never got divorced, though....
 
Dragonfly said:
Care to add why you started this thread?
What were you looking for, or hoping for with it?
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I wonder whether this is a good thing to do or not but I decided to divorce my husband
 
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Medusa said:
I wonder whether this is a good thing to do or not but I decided to divorce my husband
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If he isn't a good mate, toss him. Life is too short to live with people who suck all of the happy out of you.
 
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