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If he isn't a good mate, toss him. Life is too short to live with people who suck all of the happy out of you.
I agree
If he isn't a good mate, toss him. Life is too short to live with people who suck all of the happy out of you.
I wonder whether this is a good thing to do or not but I decided to divorce my husband
it is unhealthy to be in a dysfunctional relationship. Nobody profits.
That being said, i'd hope there has been some extra hard work put into trying to save the marriage before it reaches that stage. Counseling?
You guys don't seem to have been married that long. Year or two?
What changed from ecstatic about getting married to looking at divorce in such a short time?
(only answer if you're comfortable doing so - if you aren't that's fine too)
I wonder whether this is a good thing to do or not but I decided to divorce my husband
If someone doesn't respect you as a person, it's better to seperate than to try to change them. One big thing many people do as a mistake is think that, for example, having a child together will 'fix' things. It doesn't.
Do you think I should?
I married my neighbor back in the 80s when I was 5 or 6. Never got divorced, though....
You got married when you were 5 or 6??
Why ask strangers who have no idea who you are??????
No, and (though, no doubt, everyone says this) we don't intend to. Our marriage has fought through quite a lot at this point - it would take something pretty serious (unrepentant adultery, perhaps) to end it.
Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime bond, you are supposed to become a single entity in the eyes of God and (to a slightly lesser extent) the eyes of the law. It ought to be more difficult to break up than a lease or a mortgage. For couples with minor children, I would support ending No-Fault.
Starter marriage. We weren't happy. I certainly wasn't. Divorced and 7 years later I got married to my current and permanent wife. Things are completely different in this marriage. I can't imagine still being married to my first wife. She was a nice person but we were never meant to be married. I can't imagine not being married to my present wife. It works.
Life is too short to lie in bed every night next to someone you don't love. Or as David Allen Coe sang "Even though we're lying here together in this bed, I believe we're lying here alone."
If you aren't happy you have the power to set yourself free. It will be a lot of work but it can be well worth it.
My mother was a very devout Catholic. She stood by my dad for over 50 years being treated like dirt, cheated on and verbally abused. In a nutshell, she played martyr by allowing someone to treat her like garbage. Many times we begged her to leave him and be happy. She laughed and stated that a person should only be married once in the eyes of God.
Last summer, my mom passed away. She was watching TV and fell off her chair. My dad--being the loving and caring compassionate person that he is--let her lay there for about 4 hours before dialling 911. My brother and I didn't find out to the very next day. She was on life support after suffering a stroke. She died a day later. She was heavily involved in the church and befriended many priests who all came to her wake and funeral. All but one told me they encouraged my mother to leave my dad. I was stunned. I wish she would have listened.
That grand old Puritan Milton argued persuasively for divorce. When they think of him, most people think of Paradise Lost, but he was famed and also infamous in his day for his divorce tracts.
My mother was a very devout Catholic. She stood by my dad for over 50 years being treated like dirt, cheated on and verbally abused. In a nutshell, she played martyr by allowing someone to treat her like garbage. Many times we begged her to leave him and be happy. She laughed and stated that a person should only be married once in the eyes of God.
Last summer, my mom passed away. She was watching TV and fell off her chair. My dad--being the loving and caring compassionate person that he is--let her lay there for about 4 hours before dialling 911. My brother and I didn't find out to the very next day. She was on life support after suffering a stroke. She died a day later. She was heavily involved in the church and befriended many priests who all came to her wake and funeral. All but one told me they encouraged my mother to leave my dad. I was stunned. I wish she would have listened.
If you aren't happy you have the power to set yourself free. It will be a lot of work but it can be well worth it.
You got married when you were 5 or 6??
When I think of Milton I think of Areopagitic, but I'm weird and it suits me. Milton was brave (or at least outspoken) and brilliant. I had forgotten about his divorce tracts. Thank you for mentioning them. It should be interesting to go back and read them.
And Happy Easter to you, by the way.
I have. I am not proud of it and regret that I did not exercise better judgement in mate selection ~
And to you too, my friend.
Yes, do revisit Milton's argument. I believe you will appreciate it.