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Question for people in relationships

Winston said:
Hey,

I have a question for people in relationships. If you're married it may apply but, it seems childish for a marriage.

How does it make you feel when your significant other checks other people out in front of you?

Do they do it?

Do they not do it out of respect for you? If they did how would you handle it? Would you get jealous? Would you hold it in? One variable to consider would be their history of fidelity. Do you value an open enough relationship to allow for such minor flirtations?
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It's pretty simple.

Be where you are and with who you are with.
 
Surrealistik said:
In an open relationship with multiple people; not an issue.
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Not necessarily. Your statement assume that the open poly is healthy. Even in open poly relationships, people can get jealous of one of their SO's checking someone out. Maybe until then their relationship has consisted of an added person they were both attracted to, so if one is checking out an outside person the other isn't attracted to, it could bother them.
 
maquiscat said:
Not necessarily. Your statement assume that the open poly is healthy. Even in open poly relationships, people can get jealous of one of their SO's checking someone out. Maybe until then their relationship has consisted of an added person they were both attracted to, so if one is checking out an outside person the other isn't attracted to, it could bother them.
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I'm speaking of my own personal experience, mileage may vary; maybe there's jealousy rankling deep beneath the surface with respect to one or more of my partners, but if so I'm unaware. That said, I like to think I'm not oblivious to this sort of thing.

But yes, an open relationship doesn't necessarily feature an absence of jealousy for sure; it does however tend to mean it's a lot less likely however if everyone involved has been properly vetted and all participants are transparent and open with each other (based upon my purely anecdotal experience).
 
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Surrealistik said:
I'm speaking of my own personal experience, mileage may vary; maybe there's jealousy rankling deep beneath the surface with respect to one or more of my partners, but if so I'm unaware. That said, I like to think I'm not oblivious to this sort of thing.

But yes, an open relationship doesn't necessarily feature an absence of jealousy for sure; it does however tend to mean it's a lot less likely however if everyone involved has been properly vetted and all participants are transparent and open with each other (based upon my purely anecdotal experience).
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This second part is the point I had wanted to bring up, and I must also. Point out that the "if" portion is a key factor. As one in a poly marriage myself, I do understand where you are coming from. From my personal experience as well, those in poly relationships tend to communicate more, thus reducing incidences of jealousy and misunderstanding.
 
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