So this video here is pushing the idea that having certain preferences for the people that you date is 'bigoted' (Ex: someone doesn't want to date a trans person because they don't find trans people attractive).
I find this logic to be extremely flawed. First of all, people just can't help what you are attracted to. There's no way you can change that. People can't just go and suddenly change their sexual orientation(which is funny, because the reasoning behind this video is actually quite similar to the logic behind "Gay Conversion Therapy").
Going by her own standard, I would be bigoted because I'm not attracted to guys.
But what are your thoughts on the matter? Do you consider dating preferences to be bigoted or nah?
Haha,
I actually don't think this person is necessarily wrong. We actively and consciously discriminate, and that is not necessarily always a bad thing. I think there are adequate reasons too discriminate.
Why would I actively discriminate against a Trans girl to be my lover, even though they may be sexually attractive?
1. Because strangely, there are some that you literally cannot tell the difference xD but most, you can... and masculine features are unattractive to most men and that is evolutionary... because feminine traits helped us survive our evolutionary past, we are geared to desire those traits.
2. We cannot reproduce. It's the whole point of sexual attraction. If you don't have the parts to reproduce with me, the libido goes waaaay down... I guess you can try to fake it... but our subconscious knows, the instinct to reproduce is strong, it will actively reject a relationship in which it is not fooled.
These are two good reasons to actively discriminate against a trans potential mate. Now, if they don't bother you, all power to you.
Why would I actively discriminate against a person of a certain race to be my lover?
-I wouldn't, being a certain race in and of itself is not a deal breaker. And I do think it is slightly bigoted if it is a deal breaker for people. If you have not yet found a person of a certain race that is attractive to you, there is no problem with that, but you still treat each person from then on as a individual, instead of race being a category of automatic disqualification.
I for one have noticed that statistically I find black woman less attractive than most other people of a different race. Does this mean I find all black woman unattractive or that being black is an automatic disqualification? No, there is some mighty fine black woman out there in which I without hesitation if I were single would be first in line for a date. But statistically, I have the least in common, have opposing values/character traits and have the least automatic attraction to than most demographics.
Then this goes to, Why would I discriminate against an ugly or unattractive person?
1. Because we are sexually driven to be attracted to people with healthy bodies/symmetrical faces/nice skin that have qualities to make healthy and successful children.
But, we do have to fight against our caveman sex brains, because in practice, what actually makes the biggest difference in successful children is having a intelligent spouse that cares for your family, with good character. So if you are serious about making a family, a spouse with high character is mighty sexy.
It all comes down to, We discriminate because we want what's best for us... and what's best for us may not be whats best for everyone else. It also makes us all want to be better, because we are all in sexual competition xD We all want to make ourselves desirable and in turn that drives a lot of the advancements in our society.
