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I'm terrified by this girl I used to like?[W:22]

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Kelfuma

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So she's a coworker at my place and I used to tell everyone how much I like her (I still do) but it's reached the point where the girl finds it very annoying. I was recently hospitalized for suicidal depression because she rejected me and now, I'm terrified every time I see her. My question is, what should I do? I see her about once or twice a week and even her voice just annoys me.

I told my manager I wanted to transfer to another department, and he said he'll work on it. In the meantime, what should I do? I don't want to talk to her or have anything to do with her.
 
Kelfuma said:
So she's a coworker at my place and I used to tell everyone how much I like her (I still do) but it's reached the point where the girl finds it very annoying. I was recently hospitalized for suicidal depression because she rejected me and now, I'm terrified every time I see her. My question is, what should I do? I see her about once or twice a week and even her voice just annoys me.

I told my manager I wanted to transfer to another department, and he said he'll work on it. In the meantime, what should I do? I don't want to talk to her or have anything to do with her.
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If you were recently hospitalized for suicidal tendencies, your problems are well above anyone's pay grade here. Contact one of the doctors you were working with and tell them how you feel.

I wish you all good things, Kelfuma. Hang in there. Things get better. They always do.
 
Ignore her?
 
It's something every male must face... rejection. It happens to all of us dude, some hundreds of times...it's a part of growing up.

like, we all have to come to terms with death at some point in our lives. And we all have to come to terms with rejection.
 
celticwar17 said:
It's something every male must face... rejection. It happens to all of us dude, some hundreds of times...it's a part of growing up.

like, we all have to come to terms with death at some point in our lives. And we all have to come to terms with rejection.
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It's not easy, but I'm slowly learning... I am just way too bipolar.
 
MaggieD said:
If you were recently hospitalized for suicidal tendencies, your problems are well above anyone's pay grade here. Contact one of the doctors you were working with and tell them how you feel.

I wish you all good things, Kelfuma. Hang in there. Things get better. They always do.
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Thank you, I appreciate it! :)
 
Kelfuma said:
So she's a coworker at my place and I used to tell everyone how much I like her (I still do) but it's reached the point where the girl finds it very annoying. I was recently hospitalized for suicidal depression because she rejected me and now, I'm terrified every time I see her. My question is, what should I do? I see her about once or twice a week and even her voice just annoys me.

I told my manager I wanted to transfer to another department, and he said he'll work on it. In the meantime, what should I do? I don't want to talk to her or have anything to do with her.
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MaggieD said:
If you were recently hospitalized for suicidal tendencies, your problems are well above anyone's pay grade here.
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Don't worry... I can handle this one Maggie.
 
celticwar17 said:
It's something every male must face... rejection. It happens to all of us dude, some hundreds of times...it's a part of growing up.
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Of you can just grab 'em by the pu...

just joking kelfuma. Don't do that. My advice is really bad... AND ILLEGAL.
 
Kelfuma said:
It's not easy, but I'm slowly learning... I am just way too bipolar.
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I don't think there are degrees of bi-polar... once you are over the cliff you just have to look up and hope.

My ex has BPD. It can make life very difficult.
 
ajn678 said:
Ignore her?
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It's just that I still have strong feelings towards her. Instead of love, it's fear now because she rejected my love (her right of course), but I am terrified and I don't want to be hospitalized again. I'm already seeing a counselor and taking some medication.
 
Bodhisattva said:
I don't think there are degrees of bi-polar... once you are over the cliff you just have to look up and hope.

My ex has BPD. It can make life very difficult.
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You serious bro? I was actually diagnosed with that a year ago.
 
Kelfuma said:
It's just that I still have strong feelings towards her. Instead of love, it's fear now because she rejected my love (her right of course), but I am terrified and I don't want to be hospitalized again. I'm already seeing a counselor and taking some medication.
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No person(especially a coworker) is worth ruining your life over. You're probably very young and will meet tons of other people that you feel the same way about. I know it might not feel like that now, but it will happen.
 
Kelfuma said:
You serious bro? I was actually diagnosed with that a year ago.
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BPD = Borderline Personality Disorder, in her case.

A bit different but very similar. And yes, I am a serious as a heart attack.

Suicide threats. Suicide attempts. Threat to abandon us. Threats to kill me. Threats to kill out children.

All out of stress, mis-remembering, semi-delusional. Marriage was ****ing hell.
 
Kelfuma said:
It's just that I still have strong feelings towards her. Instead of love, it's fear now because she rejected my love (her right of course), but I am terrified and I don't want to be hospitalized again. I'm already seeing a counselor and taking some medication.
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Do you exercise? Go out, sweat your ass off on some run, hike, game... you are too tired and self-fulfilled to feel fear.

Jesus... another ****ing earthquake. That is like three in 20 minutes.
 
Bodhisattva said:
Do you exercise? Go out, sweat your ass off on some run, hike, game... you are too tired and self-fulfilled to feel fear.

Jesus... another ****ing earthquake. That is like three in 20 minutes.
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I do jog outside every morning and go to the gym like 4 times a week. It's just really difficult to get my mind off of things once I've committed. That and I'm the sort of person who goes whining and praying and begging God for everything. Really.
 
Kelfuma said:
So she's a coworker at my place and I used to tell everyone how much I like her (I still do) but it's reached the point where the girl finds it very annoying. I was recently hospitalized for suicidal depression because she rejected me and now, I'm terrified every time I see her. My question is, what should I do? I see her about once or twice a week and even her voice just annoys me.

I told my manager I wanted to transfer to another department, and he said he'll work on it. In the meantime, what should I do? I don't want to talk to her or have anything to do with her.
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Stop talking to her. From the sounds of things, she's been trying to get you to leave her alone for weeks and you have refused to respect that.

Try just leaving her the hell alone, dude.
 
I've never seen someone worry so much about what other people think of them...
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SmokeAndMirrors said:
Stop talking to her. From the sounds of things, she's been trying to get you to leave her alone for weeks and you have refused to respect that.

Try just leaving her the hell alone, dude.
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Oh, I'll leave her alone alright. And I've only initiated friendly conversations with her unless you want me to stop being friendly too.
 
Kelfuma said:
Oh, I'll leave her alone alright. And I've only initiated friendly conversations with her unless you want me to stop being friendly too.
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Stop being friendly. you are on the verge of being called on the carpet for sexual harassment, IMO.
 
MaggieD said:
Stop being friendly. you are on the verge of being called on the carpet for sexual harassment, IMO.
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... Wait, you're actually right. So no talking, eye contact, or anywhere near her until I get transferred?
 
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