SmokeAndMirrors
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So there's this coworker at my workplace who has feelings for me but she already has a boyfriend? It's making me all confused and frustrated and I can't really be her friend since she knows I like her too.
This is all just so unnecessary. How many posts have you made about her now?
I guarantee you that you won't even remember this girl in 5 years. You don't even know her, dude. You certainly don't know she's "the one." You just met, and you guys haven't even spent any real time together. In all likelihood, the only thing you like about her is that she's cute and you can't have her. That's a powerful aphrodisiac when you don't know any better.
As a general rule, you don't want to be with anyone who would cheat on their partner to be with you. Because hey, guess what? If she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you.
And besides all that, even if she does have feelings for you (and personally, I think there's coin-toss odds that you're just projecting out of a want to believe), she has obviously decided her feelings for you are less important than her feelings for her boyfriend, as evidenced by her refusing you three times in a row. Leave her alone already.
Move on with your life, dude. This is just some little thing-that-never-was, and it won't even be a footnote in your life story by the time you turn 30. We've all had, like, 100 of these, by the time we're exiting our youth. Dime a dozen. Move on to something that actually matters.
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