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Is reading your wife’s e-mail a crime?

Should reading your wife's e-mail be a crime?

  • yes

    Votes: 5 25.0%

  • no

    Votes: 13 65.0%

  • other

    Votes: 2 10.0%
  • Total voters
    20
OscarB63 said:
My son's soon to be ex-wife, who is a cheating whore, left him and moved home to daddy about 6 weeks ago. In that time, since he no longer has to finance her partying, manicures, haircuts, tanning salons, etc, he has managed to put nearly 2K into a savings account. She is still living at home with daddy because she can't afford to get a place of her own.
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My brother's cheating ex-spouse is currently sleeping on a friend's couch in Chicago. He, on the other hand, is living in a gorgeous 3000 square foot house with his current wife, and seems quite happy.

Sometimes, people DO get what they deserve.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
My brother's cheating ex-spouse is currently sleeping on a friend's couch in Chicago. He, on the other hand, is living in a gorgeous 3000 square foot house with his current wife, and seems quite happy.

Sometimes, people DO get what they deserve.
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I love it when karma kicks a dirtbag in the ass.
 
OscarB63 said:
I love it when karma kicks a dirtbag in the ass.
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True. It's wonderful when you get to watch someone getting a comeuppance they've truly earned. Like when my cheating ex had to file for bankruptcy. It warmed the cockles of my soul.
 
Have you ever watched 'Intervention'

I use to. (lol) - on one episode a wife divorced her husband - she won the house, won the car, won a significant sum - and became a recluse drunk. . . her life is **** and she just drinks herself into a stooper every night.

Money doesn't solve everything
 
TacticalEvilDan said:
Marriage means all sorts of legal, financial and custodial entanglements. It is each spouse's responsibility to look out for the interests of their children and themselves, because nobody else is going to do it for them -- and sometimes that means hiring PIs, going through the trash, checking cell phones, reviewing browser history and looking at e-mail.

Are these the sorts of activities that are necessary in a healthy marriage built on love and trust? No. Are these the sorts of activities that are necessary when things begin to break down? Absolutely.
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Nothing sucks worse than to be legally entangled with someone you cannot trust. In most states, you are totally and completely financially vulnerable, and a cheating spouse can **** your entire world to kingdom come. They can destroy your credit, put you into bankruptcy, take half your assets, open credit cards that you are liable to pay for, and basically, topple your entire world.

I hate no-fault divorce laws.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
I hate no-fault divorce laws.
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I have to admit that I don't understand most of the ins and outs of divorce, but when New York recently enacted some form of no-fault it was a relief for one of my wife's in-laws -- they can now get out of a bad marriage that neither she nor her husband wants to be in without a protracted fight.

He's a deadbeat dad who decided it was more fun to move back in with his parents and play video games all day than it was to look after his wife and three girls. She's broke and if she took him to court, his family would help him drag it out for forever and a day. This way he signs a piece of paper and on the one hand it costs *him* nothing, but she gets free of him and can move on with her life.
 
TacticalEvilDan said:
He's a deadbeat dad who decided it was more fun to move back in with his parents and play video games all day than it was to look after his wife and three girls. She's broke and if she took him to court, his family would help him drag it out for forever and a day. This way he signs a piece of paper and on the one hand it costs *him* nothing, but she gets free of him and can move on with her life.
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Florida, where I live, is a shared property state. Regardless of the circumstances of the divorce, both parties are entitled to half the assets. I'd like to see that changed. The person who breaks the marriage (i.e., via abuse, cheating, substance addiction, etc.) should be financially penalized in the settlement, IMO.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
Says who?
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Says the lack of laws entitling you to that information. For you to be legally entitled to something, it would need to be a law.

I guess the courts will decide, won't they?
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They won't decide if he was legally entitled to the information. They might decide that he was justified in stealing the information in this instance, much like somone might be found to be justified in stealing bread when they are starving.


However, I don't believe that a spouse has a legal right to privacy from their spouse, particularly on the subject of infidelity.
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And you are entitled to that belief. However, if those beliefs do not conform to your local laws, you run the risk of violating th elaw if you act upon those beliefs.

I know if I held those beleifs, I would willingly violate the laws of my region in order to act upon them, and I would not be bothered by the consequences of my decision.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
Florida, where I live, is a shared property state. Regardless of the circumstances of the divorce, both parties are entitled to half the assets. I'd like to see that changed. The person who breaks the marriage (i.e., via abuse, cheating, substance addiction, etc.) should be financially penalized in the settlement, IMO.
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Normally I agree - but some situations I've been aware of are multi-tiered and pionting fingers at the one who inevitably cheated is ignoring the faults of the other.

Often times when a relationship falls apart it's so complex with years worht of 'you did . . . ' and 'you said . . . and so I . . . ' drama that an even split is often the most ideal.

Kids are ususally the ones who get the raw deal in the end - I'm far less distraught over adult-issues.
 
Tucker Case said:
Says the lack of laws entitling you to that information. For you to be legally entitled to something, it would need to be a law.
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Spouses are entitled to information on all sorts of things, including joint marital assets, health information, etc. There is a right to privacy, but it's very specific. If an email is left open on the computer, it's fair game. However, if you try to bypass a password or pin, that can be a violation of federal civil law.

They won't decide if he was legally entitled to the information. They might decide that he was justified in stealing the information in this instance, much like somone might be found to be justified in stealing bread when they are starving.
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It seems to me that a civil remedy might be more appropriate than a criminal remedy, in this instance.
 
If my wife was a cheating whore and was coming home and exposing me to god knows what diseases, I think I should have the legal right to know.
 
OscarB63 said:
If my wife was a cheating whore and was coming home and exposing me to god knows what diseases, I think I should have the legal right to know.
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I was researching this issue, and apparently, your spouse isn't even legally obligated to tell you if he/she has AIDS. Something is wrong with that picture.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
However, if you try to bypass a password or pin, that can be a violation of federal civil law.
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That's what I've been saying. I'm glad you agree with my previous statemnt that peopel are not legally entitled to the information.

I would even go as far as saying that if the woman's password was shared with her husband willfully, she essentially gave him permission to view that information.

If he "hacked" her account, he stole the information.

It seems to me that a civil remedy might be more appropriate than a criminal remedy, in this instance.
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If he was justified in his violation of the law, then there should be no civil remedy, IMO. If he wasn't justified, then he should receive th econsequences. If what he did was worth doing in his mind, then willingly accepting the consequences is honorable and just.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
I was researching this issue, and apparently, your spouse isn't even legally obligated to tell you if he/she has AIDS. Something is wrong with that picture.
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While there is no legal obligation to inform one's partenr, one can be charged with attempted murder or assault if they knowingly expose their spouse to HIV while they are witholding that information.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
I was researching this issue, and apparently, your spouse isn't even legally obligated to tell you if he/she has AIDS. Something is wrong with that picture.
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definitely.
 
My wife read my emails, can I sue her?
 
While I don't see any sort of implied right to the privacy of the spouse due to marriage, I think the answer entirely depends on the nature of the relationship. My wife and I know all of each other's passwords and neither of us really care of the other checks their mail. In fact, I have had several conversations where one of us goes "the information you are looking for is in my email" with the full expectation that our email will be accessed by the spouse.
 
If my boyfriend reads my emails, then he has committed a crime in my book... I'd kick his *** for snooping and not trusting me.
 
SheWolf said:
If my boyfriend reads my emails, then he has committed a crime in my book... I'd kick his *** for snooping and not trusting me.
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what do have to hide? I have no problem with my wife reading any of my emails.
 
OscarB63 said:
what do have to hide? I have no problem with my wife reading any of my emails.
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I have nothing to hide either, but it's a matter of trust.. If he has to snoop, then he doesn't trust me, and that can lead to all kinds of relationship problems. You have to trust each other. If he doesn't take my word and snoops through my emails without my knowledge, what's next?
 
SheWolf said:
I have nothing to hide either, but it's a matter of trust.. If he has to snoop, then he doesn't trust me, and that can lead to all kinds of relationship problems. You have to trust each other. If he doesn't take my word and snoops through my emails without my knowledge, what's next?
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What if you aren't trustworthy?
 
SheWolf said:
I have nothing to hide either, but it's a matter of trust.. If he has to snoop, then he doesn't trust me, and that can lead to all kinds of relationship problems. You have to trust each other. If he doesn't take my word and snoops through my emails without my knowledge, what's next?
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If he has to snoop then maybe you have given him a reason not to trust you? that or he is a cheating turd and assumes you must be also.

I have found that the people who are usually the most jealous/untrusting are themselves untrustworthy or cheaters
 
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