maybe i have missed it, but i do not recall seeing any forum members advocating abused children suffering forever
one effective way of getting past it is to stand up and confront the person who abused you
maybe not the most civilized approach but it can be seen as an opportunity to release the accumulated rage that has been building within the victim against the pedophile
i applaud your ability to be able to shirk your own victimization off
i could not do it, but i admire your ability to either forget and/or forgive and move on
but there are some of us who were raised to stand up for what we believe is right and against that which is wrong. and there are instances when that translates to physical behavior ... as has been demonstrated in this case
I get what you're saying - but when you say "there are some of us who were raised to stand up for what we believe is right and against that which is wrong. and there are instances when that translates to physical behavior ... as has been demonstrated in this case," you imply that I wasn't brought up to stand up for what we believe is right and against that which is wrong.
And that's terribly insulting.
You imply that 35-years worth of rage, a good beat down of the perp, followed by massive legal fees and possible jail time is "right"; and seeking support and therapy and moving on with my life, landing my dream career and being married all before the age of 40 is "wrong".
That doesn't fit into my moral system. If I had a time machine, I'd travel back and if I could only get back to the moment my torment ended, the first thing I would've done was informed so the ahole would've gone to jail (likely juvie in his case - so honestly, don't know what really would've been done). Can't do that.
I feel bad for the guy - obviously. But 35 years of rage, depression, suicide attempts, and feeling like his life was ruined? HOW was there no one around him to get him help? Especially in light of him receiving payments of over $600,000 in reparations. It's irresponsible that if he was this tormented for this long that his loved ones didn't seek out help for him or have him committed if he refused (with two suicide attempts, it wouldn't be hard to do).
But his case is EXACTLY what I'm talking about. You're applauding the guy for doing these things instead of what would have been much better for himself. If you applaud the revenge beating, then you're essentially applauding the rage, depression, alcoholism, and suicide attempts. Because without those things, the beating doesn't happen. You can say, "Well, I'm glad he beat the guy down, but I don't with those other things on him..." - but someone who has moved on with their life wouldn't do it.
To applaud the vigilantism is to applaud all of the mental problems this man suffered up to its point.
If he'd tried to introduce a bill that lifts the statute of limitations for childhood sexual abuse or started a center to help kids who have been abused with the hundreds of thousands of dollars he received, then I'd applaud him.
Wouldn't
that have been much better revenge?