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If your sexuality wasn't an intimate part of your relationship then there would be no conditions surrounding it. Do you have rules about who you can make a sandwich for? Which gyno you can see? Whether you can schedule a massage?
He's a jealous person in some ways, I respect that to the extent that I can.
If I was making sandwiches for some guy every day, I have a feeling it would bother him. If he was making dinner for some other woman every day, it would bother me. If he was cuddling on the couch with someone, it would bother me. If he was having intimate discussions with another woman on a regular basis, it would bother me. If he was holding hands with another woman, it would bother me.
If he had a one night stand with some stranger, I could deal with it. If we had a threesome with another woman, I'd be fine. If he wants to go to a strip club and stick dollar bills in some stripper's thong, I'm okay with that. If he gets a lapdance, I'm okay with that.
What I could not deal with is an actual intimate relationship with someone else.
The conditions involving sex have little to do with intimacy and everything to do with jealousy, possessiveness, and STD safety.