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Mom defends her 3-year-old child’s right to wear tutus

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[h=1]Mom defends her 3-year-old child’s right to wear tutus — ‘The world may not love my son for who he is, but I do’ [/h][FONT=&quot]
“My three-and-a-half-year-old son likes to play trucks. He likes to do jigsaw puzzles. He likes to eat plums. And he likes to wear sparkly tutus,” Jen Anderson Shattuck wrote on Facebook. “If asked, he will say the tutus make him feel beautiful and brave. If asked, he will say there are no rules about what boys can wear or what girls can wear.”
[FONT=&quot]Earlier in the week, Shattuck wrote, a stranger had confronted her at the park and asked why she “keep(s) doing this to (her) son.”

My 5-year-old niece likes to wear her daddy's work boots. She kept falling over so my brother bought her a pair of her own. Is there any difference between that and this little boy who loves tutus?

And even if you believe that kids should wear 'gender-appropriate' clothing, whatever that is, is it okay for someone to confront parent and child and forcefully express disapproval?

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[h=1]Mom defends her 3-year-old child’s right to wear tutus — ‘The world may not love my son for who he is, but I do’ [/h][FONT="]
My 5-year-old niece likes to wear her daddy's work boots. She kept falling over so my brother bought her a pair of her own. Is there any difference between that and this little boy who loves tutus?

And even if you believe that kids should wear 'gender-appropriate' clothing, whatever that is, is it okay for someone to confront parent and child and forcefully express disapproval?

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I have pictures of my daughters wearing camo clothing when they were toddlers. And many different motorcycle t-shirts.

Double standard for sure. It's okay and cute to dress girls in what's always been more traditionally boys clothing, but don't you dare dress a boy in girls clothing.

If this mother is telling the truth, and it really is the boy's choice to wear sparkly tutus, let him. He'll grow out of it. Or maybe he won't.

As a parent, I'd NEVER confront another parent about what their child is wearing. hell, if I did that I'd be confronting all kinds of parents over what they let their teenage daughters wear. :shock:

The boy in the tutu might suffer some bullying at some later point, but at 3 years old, if that's what makes him happy, why should it bother anyone else?
 
I have pictures of my daughters wearing camo clothing when they were toddlers. And many different motorcycle t-shirts.

Double standard for sure. It's okay and cute to dress girls in what's always been more traditionally boys clothing, but don't you dare dress a boy in girls clothing.

If this mother is telling the truth, and it really is the boy's choice to wear sparkly tutus, let him. He'll grow out of it. Or maybe he won't.

As a parent, I'd NEVER confront another parent about what their child is wearing. hell, if I did that I'd be confronting all kinds of parents over what they let their teenage daughters wear. :shock:

The boy in the tutu might suffer some bullying at some later point, but at 3 years old, if that's what makes him happy, why should it bother anyone else?

Good point. Sometimes I just cringe when I see a pre teen wearing a crop top with some booty shorts. Then I remember the crop top and booty shorts I'd always try and sneek at that age.

I think it's alittle much though to claim a three year old feels brave wearing it or that he says there's no rules on what a boy or girls can wear, that sounds a little like the mother talking to me. I'm sure the little boy does like it though and will probably just grow out of it and if not who cares? There's so much more to worry about it the world.
 
The boy in the tutu might suffer some bullying at some later point, but at 3 years old, if that's what makes him happy, why should it bother anyone else?

Quite. I have a great photo of another of my nephews at about 6 years old playing rugby wearing a bride's veil that is flapping in the wind as he takes a penalty kick. He's now 23 years old, rampantly heterosexual and a newly-qualified teacher. No doubt some busybodies, such as the guy in the story, would argue he's irreparably damaged. Pfft!
 
so what if he wants to wear a tutu? that's his business, being a queer is fashionable these days so maybe it's the style in pre-school who knows.
 
Good point. Sometimes I just cringe when I see a pre teen wearing a crop top with some booty shorts. Then I remember the crop top and booty shorts I'd always try and sneek at that age.

I think it's alittle much though to claim a three year old feels brave wearing it or that he says there's no rules on what a boy or girls can wear, that sounds a little like the mother talking to me. I'm sure the little boy does like it though and will probably just grow out of it and if not who cares? There's so much more to worry about it the world.

For some reason I can't like your post... but I do. Ditto on the quote... it didn't ring true, but then, I don't know the kid.
 
Being an asshole's quite popular too I believe, but I defend anyone's right to assholedom.

being a queer is fashionable, leftie, you're not 'born that way' LOL.


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again, it's fashionable to be queer these days, that's why he's wearing the tutu. that's his choice, and i defend anyone's right to be fashionably pink.
 
being a queer is fashionable, leftie, you're not 'born that way' LOL.


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again, it's fashionable to be queer these days, that's why he's wearing the tutu. that's his choice, and i defend anyone's right to be fashionably pink.

I see, so boys (not girls) wearing 'non-gender appropriate' clothing is a sign the kid's 'queer'. Got it. Thanks for your input.
 
[h=1]Mom defends her 3-year-old child’s right to wear tutus — ‘The world may not love my son for who he is, but I do’ [/h][FONT="]
My 5-year-old niece likes to wear her daddy's work boots. She kept falling over so my brother bought her a pair of her own. Is there any difference between that and this little boy who loves tutus?

And even if you believe that kids should wear 'gender-appropriate' clothing, whatever that is, is it okay for someone to confront parent and child and forcefully express disapproval?

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I cannot for the life of me figure out why this drives some people to distraction so much. How fragile must someone be to get seriously upset over others wearing pieces of cotton in the "wrong" colors or cuts?

Why do people care so much that people signal their genitals by wearing the "correct" clothing, in mainstream fashions only, I'm sure? Good lord, it's like the Borg, but whinier.

I give zero ****s about this. A friend of mine has a 5-ish-year-old whose make-believe chest includes a princess costume. He wasn't born knowing shiny things are "only for girls," and his parents didn't find it necessary to pound that into him.

On the other end of spectrum I've watched a dad grab a bow away from his 18-month-old that the kid had stuck to his head, saying it's "girlie" and not to do that. He then put a toy hammer in his hand and directed him to start hitting stuff. Fabulous. Another nice boy being taught to be mean instead of himself.
 
I see, so boys (not girls) wearing 'non-gender appropriate' clothing is a sign the kid's 'queer'. Got it. Thanks for your input.

if it was a woman in men's clothing i would call it queer behavior as well, lesbians are typically associated with 'butch' looks, i think baggy camo on a female would apply. i'll exit the thread with a final reiteration of my points

1) it's fashionable to be queer in 2016
2) that applies to both men and women
3) what qualifies as 'queer' is clearly different relative to the observer
4) 'appropriate' is relative to the observer
5) 'queer' is defined as 'strange or odd', a young boy in a tutu, or a young girl in typically boy's clothing, qualify.
6) homosexuality is often a lifestyle choice
7) it's his business if he wants to wear the tutu
 
Good point. Sometimes I just cringe when I see a pre teen wearing a crop top with some booty shorts. Then I remember the crop top and booty shorts I'd always try and sneek at that age.

I think it's alittle much though to claim a three year old feels brave wearing it or that he says there's no rules on what a boy or girls can wear, that sounds a little like the mother talking to me. I'm sure the little boy does like it though and will probably just grow out of it and if not who cares? There's so much more to worry about it the world.

There's a big difference between you trying to sneak it and your parents condoning it
 
if it was a woman in men's clothing i would call it queer behavior as well, lesbians are typically associated with 'butch' looks, i think baggy camo on a female would apply. i'll exit the thread with a final reiteration of my points

1) it's fashionable to be queer in 2016
2) that applies to both men and women
3) what qualifies as 'queer' is clearly different relative to the observer
4) 'appropriate' is relative to the observer
5) 'queer' is defined as 'strange or odd', a young boy in a tutu, or a young girl in typically boy's clothing, qualify.
6) homosexuality is often a lifestyle choice
7) it's his business if he wants to wear the tutu

When you're deep in a bigot-hole of ignorance, best to stop digging.
 
I have a cousin whose mother thought she was perfect as a small child. Her mother was set on her staying a small child. When she went off to school she carried her baby bottle with her. When she came home and all the kids had made fun of her, my aunt was furious. She was going to defend her daughter's right to stay a baby. The baby left the bottle at home. But, the aunt won in most respects. The family now has a 67-year old baby on their hands. She's helpless to do things that most adults do. She's been asking my sister who will take care of her when he husband dies. She mentioned she would be happy to move in with my sister and her husband. My cousin had a shot at a normal life but a nutty mother fixed it for her.

I also recall sitting in a barber's shop when I was about 11. Back then women didn't enter barber shops. The door opened and a mother pushed her daughter in the door. The little girl had lovely blonde curls down to her waist. "His daddy says he has to get a haircut before he starts school." It was a little boy. No one laughed. The little boy looked terrified and maybe embarrassed. The barber put the booster seat on the chair and gave the little boy a haircut. Then they had him sit next to me to wait for his mother. I told him he looked good with the short hair and he said, "Really? Momma's not going to like it." When momma saw her darling she screamed and burst into tears.

I seriously question whether the tutus are the child's choice or the mother's.
 
When you're deep in a bigot-hole of ignorance, best to stop digging.

reality is 'bigoted' these days, i'm here to make sure you ostriches don't forget that reality still exists regardless of if you acknowledge it or not.
 
I seriously question whether the tutus are the child's choice or the mother's.

I really don't. I know dozens of kids who will choose supposedly 'gender-inappropriate' clothing from any dress-up box going. It's so common it's not even a thing.
 
There's a big difference between you trying to sneak it and your parents condoning it

Very true. My parents never condoned anything I wanted to wear. Now that I'm a parent I can understand. I think one of the hardest things is letting your child be who they are yet still wear what's appropriate. Atleast that's my challenge with a headstrong daughter.
 
if it was a woman in men's clothing i would call it queer behavior as well, lesbians are typically associated with 'butch' looks, i think baggy camo on a female would apply. i'll exit the thread with a final reiteration of my points

1) it's fashionable to be queer in 2016
2) that applies to both men and women
3) what qualifies as 'queer' is clearly different relative to the observer
4) 'appropriate' is relative to the observer
5) 'queer' is defined as 'strange or odd', a young boy in a tutu, or a young girl in typically boy's clothing, qualify.
6) homosexuality is often a lifestyle choice
7) it's his business if he wants to wear the tutu

If you're defining queer as "strange or odd", why are you mentioning homosexuality?

Also, why are you sexualising a 3 year old's clothing choice? At that age they still **** themselves and eat bugs.
 
I have pictures of my daughters wearing camo clothing when they were toddlers. And many different motorcycle t-shirts.

Double standard for sure. It's okay and cute to dress girls in what's always been more traditionally boys clothing, but don't you dare dress a boy in girls clothing.

If this mother is telling the truth, and it really is the boy's choice to wear sparkly tutus, let him. He'll grow out of it. Or maybe he won't.

As a parent, I'd NEVER confront another parent about what their child is wearing. hell, if I did that I'd be confronting all kinds of parents over what they let their teenage daughters wear. :shock:

The boy in the tutu might suffer some bullying at some later point, but at 3 years old, if that's what makes him happy, why should it bother anyone else?

Tutus are usually associated with ballerinas. The male equivalent wouldn't wear a tutu.

And kids have a long memory and can be cruel.
 
I really don't. I know dozens of kids who will choose supposedly 'gender-inappropriate' clothing from any dress-up box going. It's so common it's not even a thing.

What do you do?
 
I really don't. I know dozens of kids who will choose supposedly 'gender-inappropriate' clothing from any dress-up box going. It's so common it's not even a thing.

This. Kids like **** that's colourful and sparkly. As a culture, we associate colourful and sparkly with feminine clothing. Notice camo gets mentioned as the go to "boys" clothing. From the perspective of a child, unless they have previous associations (military cartoons etc.), camo is ****ing boring.
 
Tutus are usually associated with ballerinas. The male equivalent wouldn't wear a tutu.

And kids have a long memory and can be cruel.

Yep. So?

There's a ga-zillion different ways kids can be cruel and bullies towards somebody else.

3 year old's don't tend to do that though.

If it's the kid's choice, and not the mother's overbearing influence, why should it matter to anyone else but the kid and his parents?
 
I have a cousin whose mother thought she was perfect as a small child. Her mother was set on her staying a small child. When she went off to school she carried her baby bottle with her. When she came home and all the kids had made fun of her, my aunt was furious. She was going to defend her daughter's right to stay a baby. The baby left the bottle at home. But, the aunt won in most respects. The family now has a 67-year old baby on their hands. She's helpless to do things that most adults do. She's been asking my sister who will take care of her when he husband dies. She mentioned she would be happy to move in with my sister and her husband. My cousin had a shot at a normal life but a nutty mother fixed it for her.

I also recall sitting in a barber's shop when I was about 11. Back then women didn't enter barber shops. The door opened and a mother pushed her daughter in the door. The little girl had lovely blonde curls down to her waist. "His daddy says he has to get a haircut before he starts school." It was a little boy. No one laughed. The little boy looked terrified and maybe embarrassed. The barber put the booster seat on the chair and gave the little boy a haircut. Then they had him sit next to me to wait for his mother. I told him he looked good with the short hair and he said, "Really? Momma's not going to like it." When momma saw her darling she screamed and burst into tears.

I seriously question whether the tutus are the child's choice or the mother's.

Few families get to escape from the mental deficiency of one or more members.

I had a great aunt who apparently was institutionalize at a young age [before I met her] Everyone in the family questioned their own sanity because of her.
 
[h=1]Mom defends her 3-year-old child’s right to wear tutus — ‘The world may not love my son for who he is, but I do’ [/h][FONT="]
My 5-year-old niece likes to wear her daddy's work boots. She kept falling over so my brother bought her a pair of her own. Is there any difference between that and this little boy who loves tutus?

And even if you believe that kids should wear 'gender-appropriate' clothing, whatever that is, is it okay for someone to confront parent and child and forcefully express disapproval?

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Yes it is OK, on both fronts. If the kid wants to wear a tutu and the parents are fine with that...then whatever. It's also OK for someone to "confront" the parent with disapproving tones. So long as that's the end of it, the other person cannot exert any sort of force, but can express their opinion.

It's a free country.
 
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