Sounds to me what you're saying is, "Hate the sin, not the sinner". Here's how I equate your above comments with this common Christian refrain...
(Disclaimer: The following is not intended to go off tangent and rehash the issue of gay marriage or homosexuality in general. It's only an attempt to expand on quoted commentary as expressed above.)
If I don't like what someone is doing (i.e., homosexuals) but I believe firmly in equal rights, then I'll certainly condemn the behavior (i.e., homosexuality) but fight to protect their rights to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" alongside their right to "equal protection under the law". I don't necessarily have to like what gays and lesbians do publicly or privately, but I do have to respect their rights to choose a life (and a lifestyle) that makes them happy and to share in that happiness with whomever they so please (as long as such is a consenting adult). The same thing could be said of the President's attempts to invoke changes in social and/or economic policies that have proven to exclude some while lifting up others. That said, I can love the ideals of capitalism that have helped make America one of, if not THE, greatest country on Earth, but I can hate the greed and underhandedness such dangerous and/or misguided economic policies have wroth unto the massive where so few have so much and so many have so little.
There is this pervasive inequity and unfairness that has taken root in this country where so many are left behind and so few have a chance to succeed. And while there are some people who are lazy and do want handouts and believe that they are deserving of such, there are also so many more who have come to realize that "the system of things" just hasn't worked for them despite their honorable intentions and willingness to play by the rules and do good work. These are the folks who are being squeezed in the middle - the people who see the "Robin Hood Affect" in full effect - but it's their labor that makes this possible and yet it is those at the very top and the very bottom who are reaping the benefits of their efforts.
The system needs to be changed.
