The gay and lesbian lifestyle is not an "alternative".
It is an understandable consequence of the birth defect of homosexuality:
http://www.debatepolitics.com/sex-and-sexuality/160480-homosexuality-birth-defect.html#post1061800678
Yes, coping like every imperfect person we all are does: the best we can.
No more than those suffering cleft palate, transsexuality, spina bifida, etc. are freaks.
Sadly, however, there are bullies who demean and belittle birth defect sufferers, an egregious behavior.
Actually true for the most part, though with one huge exception: homosexual-specific behavior -- that behavior is, most certainly, abnormal with respect to the general population, though not abnormal for homosexuals.
This is because the area of the birth defect of homosexuality is located in the brain, located mostly in the part of the brain responsible for "gender attracted-to" and a little in the part of the brain resposible for "gender identity".
The truth of the matter is that most states don't
have domestic partner civil unions other than marriage, and it takes a lot of effort to encourage and realize the legislative effort to enact such a specifically appropriately named ("homarriage") civil union domestic partnership in each state. That is the
real problem.
So the short-cut of hijacking the word "marriage" to oxymoronically attempt a redefinement is being attempted, which accounts for the understandable opposition.
That can't be done in the literal sense, as homosexuals are merely roughly 2% of the population (with bisexuals about 6%).
If what you mean by "normalize" is "make the straight public aware and accepting and use to homosexuals", yes that can be done ..
.. But
not by attempting to hijack and oxymoronically redefine the word "marriage".
That will only garner you understandable animosity, and
never acceptance.
Yes, this is true, marginalized due to ignorance.
But now that we know that homosexuality is a birth defect, that will go a long way to changing atttitudes toward homosexuals for the better, providing, of course, that homosexuals don't try to steal from heterosexuals what doesn't belong to them.
Weird is a pretty strong word ..
.. But you're easily observationally different and in a significant and homosexual-like way.
It is the collective difference that causes straight people to notice and withdraw to a degree, especially when straight people are unaware of the birth defect etiology of homosexuality.
Yes, absolutely.
But, you don't deserve that to which you are not rightly definitive proprietarily entitled, such as "marriage", as marriage is and always has been since the agricultural revolution more than 12,000 years ago "between a man and a woman as husband and wife", isolated or exceptional violations notwithstanding but powerless to redefine what marriage
is.
"
Homarriage" and the like is an acceptable name for homosexual domestic partner civil unions, but "marriage", obviously, is not .. no matter what the SCOTUS decides.
It is difficult to argue that a behavior endemic to someone predisposed to that behavior is "wrong", though religions have tried through the ages.
And, a person can have a defect, and, of course, not be a "defective person".
Some people do see birth defects as "wrong", and are actively pursuing preventions to make things "right", so that people no longer have to suffer those birth defects.
Good for you!
You are doing all who suffer a birth defect a great service thereby, to eliminate the unjustified shame of suffering a birth defect that is simply not your fault.