2. I said what I did about Trump because of having had an actual narcissist working for me for a couple years in the Navy - watching Trump is so much like watching that particular individual. Everything was about him - he was never, ever wrong (no matter how obvious it was), and the quickest way to anger him was to tell him "no" (we had more than a few shouting matches). The guy was very smart and good-looking and normally very personable...and he knew it. But if someone was in his way (like I was), then, well, in my case he actually tried to (wrongly) end my Navy career. It didn't work, but what really got my attention, what really helped me to grasp his mindset, was on the day he left. He was getting kicked out for repeatedly lying to the command, and his lies - like Trump's - were painfully obvious, but he continually claimed he never lied, that they were all out to get him. On that day he left, I reached out to shake his hand and wish him well (which was the professional thing for me to do and say), he wished me well, too...and I'm very sure he meant it. It was as if he had never tried to end my career.
And that's just it - I realized that when he tried to end my career, he wasn't doing it because he hated me, but simply because I was in his way...and when he wished me well, I realized that in his eyes, I should not have been offended that he tried to end my career, because I should have understood that I was in his way, and in his eyes that was all the justification he needed...and in his eyes, I should have understood that. To him, it was all "nothing personal"...because I was not him, and he was the only one that mattered, that ever mattered.
The only difference I see between him and Trump is that the one who worked for me didn't evince much in the way of malice...but Trump certainly does.
I hope you never, ever have to work around a real narcissist...because if you do, if you tell him things that will build up his ego, he'll treat you like gold (as long as he thinks you're of value to him), but if you ever tell him 'no' or tell him he's wrong, watch out - he will see you as a threat to himself and/or his future plans, and he will do what he feels necessary to get you out of the way. Personally, I just got lucky that the guy didn't tend more strongly towards the malicious. That's not the case with Trump.