Women and money - Page 2

stalin_was_a_nice_being · 02-04-08, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by talloulou

I admire ambition and I like fine things. I'm not overly materialistic but enjoy the freedom of not living month to month in some survival mode. My husband and I didn't start out with much but we've built up to the point where we are and we continue to build, dream, and plan for more. I wanted to go places, see things, and play in ways that you just can't without money. I'm not a gold digger by any means and I wouldn't leave my man if he suddenly went broke. But if he lost his ambition and drive and "settled" for less I'd be disappointed. Poor people often have less freedom, they have to work twice as hard, and they're stuck in the rat race. Our goal is to leave the rat race behind. Make enough money that the money starts making money for you and you have to work less and less as time rolls on. Once you get to the point where your money is working for you instead of you working for your money then you've exited the rat race. I'm a big believer in investing.

So no I'm not a gold digger. But on the other hand if I suddenly became single tomorrow and met a man my age who looked like Brad Pitt but worked at pizza hut I'd pass. Not 'cause he's broke but because he has no drive.

LOL.
Investors can lose a lot of money too and most do.
You just defended yourself for being a superficial biatch like 85% of women.

Panache · 02-04-08, 07:24 PM

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Money shouldn't come into it. You love someone for who they are - not their bank balance.

You are making an assumtion that one's bank balance has nothing to do with who they are.

I think people see women's attraction to money in the wrong way. It is assumed that if money factors into a woman's attraction, that she would be just as happy to have the money to herself, and doesn't really care about the man.

I think women are attracted to the alpha males. We as males use money as a means to determine our heirarchy in the pack, and so women use it that way as well.

Earning money is a mating ritual, much like a peacock fanning its feathers. Its says "Look at me! I am a desirable mate!"

talloulou · 02-04-08, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by stalin_was_a_nice_being

LOL.
Investors can lose a lot of money too and most do.
You just defended yourself for being a superficial biatch like 85% of women.

There's nothing shameful about making a dollar.

1069 · 02-04-08, 08:17 PM

I just don't like people, in general, who stress about money.
It shouldn't really be that big an issue.
I mean, we live in America. It's not like any of us are going to starve, or go homeless unless by choice.
I find desperate scrabbling for money under such circumstances distasteful.
To me it's an obvious manifestation of a very aggressive, domineering, and competitive nature, which is not a quality that I value.

talloulou · 02-04-08, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by 1069

I mean, we live in America. It's not like any of us are going to starve, or go homeless unless by choice.

Way to dream big.

talloulou · 02-04-08, 09:21 PM

It's not about constantly stressing and scrambling for money. It's the complete opposite. It's about paying yourself first. The Richest Man in Babylon should be required reading for all high school students, in my opinion.

stalin_was_a_nice_being · 02-05-08, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by talloulou

There's nothing shameful about making a dollar.

There is something shameful when it matters most to you as a quality for partner. And dont use words like "ambition" or anything else. You are greedy and you will always be in the rat race.

stalin_was_a_nice_being · 02-05-08, 08:46 AM

It is extremely sad that women put false security over anything else. Really sad.
To the OP: Women will always judge you for who you are on the surface first. If you pretend to have money they will like you. If you pretened to have confidence they will like you. If you treat them like dirt they will like you. The trick is to find the girl who will not like you for any of these things mentioned.

rivrrat · 02-05-08, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by 1069

I just don't like people, in general, who stress about money.
It shouldn't really be that big an issue.
I mean, we live in America. It's not like any of us are going to starve, or go homeless unless by choice.
I find desperate scrabbling for money under such circumstances distasteful.
To me it's an obvious manifestation of a very aggressive, domineering, and competitive nature, which is not a quality that I value.

It's about NOT stressing about money. If you can pay your bills comfortably, there's no stress. If you have to scrimp and scramble in order to buy milk, there's some god-damned stress.

Just recently with the new job I was offered, I queried people who lived or had lived in the San Diego area. I told them the salary I was offered and asked point blank... "Can I live comfortably on this in San Diego?" Because if I was going to have to struggle, the new job wouldn't be worth it to me. I've struggled enough in my life, I'm fricken tired of it. Not to mention that I help keep the rest of my family afloat. Money IS important to me because I have myself to take care of as well as parents, a sister, a nephew, and two nieces to help support. I don't want to stress over money, and I don't want THEM to. So it's important to me that I make "enough", and I've busted my *** to do just that.

You can call it agreessive, domineering, and competitive if you want, I don't care. I call it surviving, being responsible, and being happy.

As for the OP, no I don't look for a man with money. And if a man has money, it really plays no part in whether or not I fall for him. I refuse to rely on any man for income, so his money is quite irrelevant.

I do, however, admire some drive and ambition. Some guy who drinks beer all day and is content with delivering pizzas the rest of his life probably isn't going to get far with me. Has nothing to do with money, that's just not the type of man I'd want to be with. I'm an adventurous woman who wants to have fun, a woman who works hard and strives to do more, a woman who realizes that she's not always going to be able to do that and must prepare for the inevitable retirement. Someone who is content to live a life of mediocrity isn't someone I want to be with. I want someone willing to jump off those cliffs with me.

WI Crippler · 02-05-08, 10:28 AM

Speaking of women and money, what is up with you ladies and diamonds?

Seriously.

I am someone who can admire quality products, and people paying good money to buy something that is of a nicer quality than the average is something I can fathom. But when I look at diamonds, I see nothing. At least when I look at this tiny little shiny rock I would say it would be worth maybe $10. But the price tag will say $1200. How in the hell are diamonds worth so much. Honestly they serve no purpose whatsoever.