How long do you wait to have sex with someone?

americanwoman · 08-09-07, 09:29 AM

If you are dating someone or just hanging out with them, and are feeling them, how long would you wait to have sex with them?

americanwoman · 08-09-07, 09:33 AM

I would say a couple weeks. I'm not gonna give it up right away but I'm not going to wait long, especially if I like the person. Now that I'm married I don't have to worry about that stuff since I get it daily now.

WI Crippler · 08-09-07, 09:34 AM

I'd wait as long as it took the panties to hit the floor. Sometimes I may just let them get to the kness though, just depends I guess.....

rivrrat · 08-09-07, 09:37 AM

As long as it took to get somewhere where it wasn't illegal or we had a small likelihood of getting caught.

If I want to have sex with someone (and they feel the same), then I have sex with them. I cannot fathom a good reason to "wait" when the people involved are ready, willing, and able. Makes no sense.

americanwoman · 08-09-07, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by rivrrat

As long as it took to get somewhere where it wasn't illegal or we had a small likelihood of getting caught.

If I want to have sex with someone (and they feel the same), then I have sex with them. I cannot fathom a good reason to "wait" when the people involved are ready, willing, and able. Makes no sense.

I don't know, I just feel compelled not to just give it to it right away. I did that once and it was always a mistake. I guess I just want a little mystery and a little teasing before we jump into bed. Besides if you wait just a little bit, you have that much more pent up sexual tension to release.

rivrrat · 08-09-07, 11:01 AM

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I don't know, I just feel compelled not to just give it to it right away. I did that once and it was always a mistake. I guess I just want a little mystery and a little teasing before we jump into bed. Besides if you wait just a little bit, you have that much more pent up sexual tension to release.

You can build up more sexual tension for the next time, especially if the experience was actually good and you can't wait to do it again. You'd only know that if you'd actually done it. Prior to that, you just have a desire, but no knowledge of the person's skill. Yes... a little mysterious and new, and that feeling is certainly ... hmm... intoxicating. But, there's nothing like the pent up sexual tension that builds from already having had sex with someone and KNOWING how good it was and how good it will be again. THAT builds some wicked desire.

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Obviously if you don't *want* to have sex with someone, you shouldn't. But what I'm thinking of when you ask this question is that I DO want to have sex with them, but I'm just "holding out" for.... ??? For what, exactly? I want to have sex, I desire to have sex, they want and desire to have sex... the opportunity is there, all bases are covered... so what exactly is the purpose of waiting?

If I don't feel good about doing it, for *whatever* reason, obviously I'm not going to. But I'm not going to "hold out" just for the sake of holding out. I don't see how that does anyone any good at all.

Plus, I like my instant gratification. And I like to feel good, I enjoy pleasure and pleasurable activities. I just can't imagine myself putting off pleasure just for the sake of putting it off.

WI Crippler · 08-09-07, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by rivrrat

As long as it took to get somewhere where it wasn't illegal or we had a small likelihood of getting caught.

If I want to have sex with someone (and they feel the same), then I have sex with them. I cannot fathom a good reason to "wait" when the people involved are ready, willing, and able. Makes no sense.

Well I guess some mode of public transportation is lucky you and I have never run across each other (assuming a mutual attraction).....

BTW what is that in your profile pic.....

rivrrat · 08-09-07, 11:15 AM

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BTW what is that in your profile pic.....

A sorceress.

WI Crippler · 08-09-07, 11:20 AM

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A sorceress.

She's hot!!!

Seriously though, i've always had a thing for the goth chicks. I could never in a million years pull of a goth look and i don't think I'd want to, but I like the girls that can. Not the fat ugly ones, but as long as there is a bit of dark beauty there...........

niftydrifty · 08-09-07, 11:47 AM

well, I used to think that sex wasn't everything. I once dated a girl for a year and a half and we never had sex. and I never had sex with anyone else during that time. we talked about it, and she felt she wasn't ready, and I respected that. we were great friends, and I felt at the time that I may have even loved her. but in the end, it turned out that she had this deep-seated distrust of men due to an abusive father. she just couldn't overcome it. and then she left me for some chick, and became a lesbian and never looked back.

and neither did I. about three days after that I nailed this waitress I was working with. repeatedly. jeez was I an idiot to have cared so much about the first one. and I don't mean an idiot in any normal sense, I'm talking about being a monumental screw-up-your life kind of a dumbass.

chances are if someone wants to hold out on you for too long (a few months?), then they either have deep psychological issues, or you are just the wrong person for them, and you should move on. if they're skiddish about that, then they're not going to be able to go the distance with you in anything else, either.

i can understand wanting to hold out until you're not a teenager anymore, but if you're not married by the time you are, like, 20-21, you shouldn't be waiting for anything.