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mikhail

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Firstly im being serious this time just so people know.



What i want to say despite all this pro-choice pro-life debate, i think people overlook the reason people have sex. In most cases its because its fun and satisfiying people seem to talk like sex is some kinda mature choice people make but no its not. Anyone with a bit of passion in their blood has had sex just out of pure lust.

It seems like some people think its as simple as "they should of dated for 2 years before they even thought of sex"

Sex and love are seperate to me though ideally you want both.
 
mikhail said:
Firstly im being serious this time just so people know.



What i want to say despite all this pro-choice pro-life debate, i think people overlook the reason people have sex. In most cases its because its fun and satisfiying people seem to talk like sex is some kinda mature choice people make but no its not. Anyone with a bit of passion in their blood has had sex just out of pure lust.

It seems like some people think its as simple as "they should of dated for 2 years before they even thought of sex"

Sex and love are seperate to me though ideally you want both.
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Let's not forget another aspect.
30Kcal's metabolised from climaxes as well as the ability to "train" muscles around the abdomen region that are otherwise never used.
One of the only work outs with "instant" gratification.
 
Most primates use sex for social bonding. Considering the number of sexual encounters versus the number of pregnancies... I'd say this is actually the primary purpose of primate sexual activity.

Humans are primates. Why are we so surprised when our behaviors are similar?
 
mikhail said:
Firstly im being serious this time just so people know.



What i want to say despite all this pro-choice pro-life debate, i think people overlook the reason people have sex. In most cases its because its fun and satisfiying people seem to talk like sex is some kinda mature choice people make but no its not. Anyone with a bit of passion in their blood has had sex just out of pure lust.

It seems like some people think its as simple as "they should of dated for 2 years before they even thought of sex"

Sex and love are seperate to me though ideally you want both.
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whether you are trying to have a kid or not, if the sex isnt fun then you arent doing it right.

sex has many functions beside procreation, and to restrict its use to procreation is absurd.
 
Sex for fun...with your spouse....Yay!

Not so much fun when you get stuck with child support :doh
 
Jerry said:
Sex for fun...with your spouse....Yay!

Not so much fun when you get stuck with child support :doh
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Just waiting for something like that! Thanks. Read my sig.
 
Not so much fun when you get stuck with child support
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That is why the tTojan was invented. Although in this case, it keeps the Greeks out rather than letting them in.
 
I don't have a problem with people having sex. I personally don't even understand why sex is considered an ugly thing in our culture. Granted, I myself wouldn't want to have sex with anyone but someone I know really well, but that's just my thing. You want to go screwing random people, great! More power to ya. Long as it's consensual, 'tis a victimless crime.

However, in doing so, you must accept all consequences surrounding it, even if you use protection. If a condom breaks and you end up with a kid, you knew that could happen, and by plunging yourself into that risk, you accepted it. It happened, and now you have to take care of the kid. I'm against the idea of abortion, and I think "child support" is more than just money: It's love an affection. It's being there for that child as he or she grows up, and its a responsibility both parents must keep. Abandoning a child as the father is in my mind, a form of abortion. If you, be you the man or the woman, aren't willing to accept the possibility of doing that, keep your pants on.
 
mikhail said:
Firstly im being serious this time just so people know.



What i want to say despite all this pro-choice pro-life debate, i think people overlook the reason people have sex. In most cases its because its fun and satisfiying people seem to talk like sex is some kinda mature choice people make but no its not. Anyone with a bit of passion in their blood has had sex just out of pure lust.

It seems like some people think its as simple as "they should of dated for 2 years before they even thought of sex"

Sex and love are seperate to me though ideally you want both.
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My belief, at the risk of sounding sexist, is that many males take a light-hearted, spontaneous approach to sex.
As well, I believe females frequently (and perhaps misguidedly) have sex for other reasons besides the socially sanctioned ones (socially sanctioned reasons would include being in love, wanting a mature, monogamous, life-long relationship, wanting to procreate, etc).
But I believe the reason females have sex is rarely pure and simple lust, or a lighthearted perception that sex is "fun".
The reasons females have sex are often more complex and convoluted, and generally more deliberate, even if their reasoning might be flawed.
They might, for instance, perceive sex as a means to an end (our culture certainly promotes such a perception, despite all of its abstinence rhetoric, when it portrays females to be valuable primarily as sex objects or mothers). They might use sex as a means to gain security or status, for instance, or as a way to affiliate themselves with a male who can benefit them in some way, who can offer them something they need either monetarily or emotionally.
That's the way it looks from my perspective, anyhow.
 
Hehehe.....

Sex for fun? Who the **** would want to have homosex for fun? Homosex is dangerous....you get poo and azz farts all over it....that's not fun!!

:rofl

Sorry, I couldn't resist.

He was quite a card.



.......10 posts........:2razz:
 
1069 said:
But I believe the reason females have sex is rarely pure and simple lust, or a lighthearted perception that sex is "fun".
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The only reason I have sex is for fun. If it wasn't fun I wouldn't be having it so I think you're a bit off. Possibly women are more "careful" because the consequences of pregnancy are very real for them. As our society has evolved and the majority of women are no longer relying on men to take care of them along with easy accessabiltiy to birth control the sexual behavior of women is quickly catching up with men. Whether that's good or bad for society as a whole I don't know. But the idea that women don't screw for fun certainly sounds outdated to me.
 
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Kamex said:
However, in doing so, you must accept all consequences surrounding it, even if you use protection. If a condom breaks and you end up with a kid, you knew that could happen, and by plunging yourself into that risk, you accepted it. It happened, and now you have to take care of the kid. I'm against the idea of abortion, and I think "child support" is more than just money: It's love an affection. It's being there for that child as he or she grows up, and its a responsibility both parents must keep. Abandoning a child as the father is in my mind, a form of abortion. If you, be you the man or the woman, aren't willing to accept the possibility of doing that, keep your pants on.
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Categorically wrong from the start. Consent to sex is in no way consent to pregnancy. Though one is dependent on the other, the two are mutually exclusive in terms of human sexual behavior.
 
The only reason I have sex is for fun. If it wasn't fun I wouldn't be having it so I think you're a bit off.
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Then again, perhaps you are. Who knows?
/shrugs.
I probably should've specified in my post, as well, that I was speaking more about the young. Minors. Teenagers and young adults.
My only personal experience with sleeping around was as a teenager, since adulthood I've been married (and divorced, and immediately remarried).
Possibly all adults run around having sex for no other reason than kicks and grins. I have no idea because I don't have sex with anyone other than my spouse of eleven years, and would never dream of doing so. Have no desire to do so.
 
1069 said:
Then again, perhaps you are. Who knows?
/shrugs.
I probably should've specified in my post, as well, that I was speaking more about the young. Minors. Teenagers and young adults.
My only personal experience with sleeping around was as a teenager, since adulthood I've been married (and divorced, and immediately remarried).
Possibly all adults run around having sex for no other reason than kicks and grins. I have no idea because I don't have sex with anyone other than my spouse of eleven years, and would never dream of doing so. Have no desire to do so.
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I don't have sex with anyone but my spouse as well. But it's always fun and as we are done having children we have sex just for fun, kicks, and grins. :mrgreen:
 
I don't have sex with anyone but my spouse as well. But it's always fun and as we are done having children we have sex just for fun, kicks, and grins.
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I'm not sure I or anyone else on the thread ever implied that it wasn't "fun".
My suggestion was that different people are sometimes motivated by different factors, and some view sex not merely as a recreational pastime but also as a vehicle to fulfilling a variety of needs- social, emotional, material, or whatever- that are not necessarily sexual in nature.
I think this- the fact that sometimes people, consciously or subconsciously, bring different hopes or expectations to this act- sometimes leads to disappointment and confusion, an aftermath which is unlikely to be "fun" for either party.
 
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addendum: I have no doubt you will respond with something to the effect of "Well, that's why people should remain abstinent until marriage."
However, this thread is not about whether married people, specifically, only have sex for fun.
It was about "people" in general.
Besides, even in a marriage, partners sometimes bring different expectations to bed. I don't think it is a foregone conclusion that all married people, on every occasion, have sex only for one of two reasons: fun or procreation.
There are a whole plethora of factors that motivate people to participate in any act, specifically this one.
This is in no way meant to reflect a disbelief in your assertion that you and your partner only ever have sex for fun.
But you are not everyone.
 
My wife and I have only had sex with each other. There's an element of specialty in that which is above the usual monogamy of non-virgin couples. I think allot of people miss out on that when they don't reserve themselves for their life partner.

It's like, which is better: Having a turn to drive a used car, or someone saving the car just for you to drive? IMO the latter is the better option.
 
Anything that feels good immediately must be good, right ?

Throwing all morality out of the issue, there are many harmful side effects of cavalier sexual contact that are real and present potential consequences of this action. Possibilities include significant psychological issues , for instance, shattered dreams, depression, self esteem issues, teen suicide, anger, rage, retaliation, ruined relationships, loss of trust, as well as pregnancy, std's, severe, even life threatening infections, infertility, abortion and subsequent long lasting psychological issues , risks of abortion procedures themselves including infertility,hemorrhage, sepsis, shock, death, and associated anesthetic risks.

The potential benefits of cavalier sexual contact are immediate gratification and pleasing physical sensations.

Pick your poison.
 
taxedout said:
Anything that feels good immediately must be good, right ?
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Most of the time.

Throwing all morality out of the issue, there are many harmful side effects of cavalier sexual contact that are real and present potential consequences of this action.
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Either that or there are a lot of small risks that you're going to inflate for your neo-puritian point.
Possibilities include significant psychological issues , for instance, shattered dreams, depression, self esteem issues, teen suicide, anger, rage, retaliation, ruined relationships, loss of trust,
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Wow that's quite a list there. All that's from the simple act of casual sex, is it? Or is it, as is more likley, the result of societal influences and condemnation on those who choose to engage in casual sex. I would also like to see some reliable sources that back up your rather outlandish claims.
as well as pregnancy,
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We got contraceptives. We got abortion clinics. We got adoption services (if you're that desperate). We don't have to worry about this no more, it just ain't something that matters to modern humans.
std's, severe, even life threatening infections,
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Protection, moderation, common sense.
infertility,
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Do you have a scientific study that links having sex with being infertile because that claim strikes me as dubious in the extreme.
abortion and subsequent long lasting psychological issues , risks of abortion procedures themselves including infertility,hemorrhage, sepsis, shock, death, and associated anesthetic risks.
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It is well known that the psycological "risks" of abrotion stem more from societal pressures on women than anything actually inherent in the procedure. The physical risks are also exaggerated and would be lessened even more if more research went into abortion methods and doctors were properly trained in delivering them.

The potential benefits of cavalier sexual contact are immediate gratification and pleasing physical sensations.
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That and the boost to your self esteem, the aerobic exercise, improving social relationships and something to do other than moralise about what people should or shouldn't do.
 
Jerry said:
My wife and I have only had sex with each other. There's an element of specialty in that which is above the usual monogamy of non-virgin couples. I think allot of people miss out on that when they don't reserve themselves for their life partner.
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Perhaps you're right, thats something we miss out on. However, if thats what I trade away for the many intimate relationships I've had, and the experience to perform well for that one special person, I pay it gladly.

Jerry said:
It's like, which is better: Having a turn to drive a used car, or someone saving the car just for you to drive? IMO the latter is the better option.
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I don't think thats a fair analogy. To be fair, it would be a choice between a car that has never been run or tested when compared to one that you have personally inspected as a mechanic. Why hold anything against the previous owner if they haven't left it any worse than they found it?
 
taxedout said:
Anything that feels good immediately must be good, right ?

Throwing all morality out of the issue, there are many harmful side effects of cavalier sexual contact that are real and present potential consequences of this action. Possibilities include significant psychological issues , for instance, shattered dreams, depression, self esteem issues, teen suicide, anger, rage, retaliation, ruined relationships, loss of trust, as well as pregnancy, std's, severe, even life threatening infections, infertility, abortion and subsequent long lasting psychological issues , risks of abortion procedures themselves including infertility,hemorrhage, sepsis, shock, death, and associated anesthetic risks.

The potential benefits of cavalier sexual contact are immediate gratification and pleasing physical sensations.

Pick your poison.
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Spoken like a man who couldn't get laid in a morgue.

:roll:
 
Jazzratt said:
That and the boost to your self esteem, the aerobic exercise, improving social relationships and something to do other than moralise about what people should or shouldn't do.
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Denial and rationalization are such curious human traits.


I don't care what you do.


Infertility as a result of complications of sexually transmitted infection and surgical procedures inside the uterus. Don't let you smugness get in the way of making sense.
 
1069 said:
Spoken like a man who couldn't get laid in a morgue.

:roll:
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Ouchy !
What's next, a crack about my mom ?
 
taxedout said:
Ouchy !
What's next, a crack about my mom ?
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I doubt you ever had one; rather, you probably hatched out of a buzzard egg.


Infertility as a result of complications of sexually transmitted infection and surgical procedures inside the uterus.
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I see. And impotence is a result of your penis atrophying from lack of use.

:roll:
 
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