Run away....quickly.
Unless you are already into the dominant aggressive male role....you wont be able to pull it off to her preference. And you will hate yourself for trying.
This thread apparently won't die. :lol:
D/s is not always aggressive. Some Dom/mes never strike anyone. It depends on their style, and the sub they're with.
When it comes to male Doms, there is certainly some cultural training to get over, but that's true of both sexes of subs as well in a culture that tends to look at pleasing negatively.
For straight male Doms, there is of course years of voices in their heads saying, "Women are equals" and "Don't hit women," and initially, that is perceived as being at odds with being a Dom. It really isn't.
A sub is an equal. They are, in fact, defining most of the relationship with their limits and needs. They have a particular way they express desire or love, and they do so by being willing or desiring to please. A Dom is just a counterpart to that -- usually what they offer is care and very fine level attention. Just because they aren't expressing those things in exactly the same way doesn't make one above the other. It really isn't all that different from leaders or followers in any other aspect of life. And despite the way we tend to look down on followers, we really shouldn't. Followers are the ones who vet the leaders, and a good follower is essentially pruning society for ideas or visions that are worth following, and those that are not. That's incredibly important for directing society. A leader by themselves is just an idea without any wheels. And we need ideas, but they won't work without people to enact them.
The connotation of "Don't hit women" is "Don't abuse women." If a sub wants to be spanked or whatever, they want it because it does something enjoyable for them -- perhaps psychological, or perhaps actually physical. Some people have a lot of overlap between pleasure and pain. No one is being abused.
This is something that definitely takes a while for some men to get over, but there's no reason to hate yourself for it.
Yup, some people just aren't built for this kind of relationship at all. But I certainly don't think it's something someone should automatically run away from if they're curious. And even if it winds up not being for you, it can still teach you things about the way you look at people and relationships by putting yourself in what is really quite a subversive way of interacting with all the gender hang-ups we still have.