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How to Treat a Submissive Woman

Oh, I'm not into BDSM in any real form. I've been mistaken by some gals as a submissive type personality, but I can be very dominating when pushed.

My apologies if I insinuated that you were. Your post simply brought up the point and made me think to put that out there. Many people are surprised by how "dominant" some submissive can be as well. Many can't grasp the concept of the "Alpha Sub".
 
My apologies if I insinuated that you were. Your post simply brought up the point and made me think to put that out there. Many people are surprised by how "dominant" some submissive can be as well. Many can't grasp the concept of the "Alpha Sub".

No apologies necessary but thanks anyway. :mrgreen:

I often shock women and other men, when they see how assertive I can become in certain situations. Women actually like it for some odd reason.

One coworker, who was a very attractive female, starting raising her voice and scolding me on the job, I quietly leaned over and whispered in her ear "don't ever holler at me like that again, you understand?" She was noticeably frightened, though it wasn't threatening, just serious. She proceeded in the following months to flash me her boobs twice, but never chewed me out again...lol
 
Doing it right without broken bones and/or hearts requires lots of honest communication and negotiation. Read up on safety techniques also. A lot of things that beginners do seem harmless but can be dangerous. For example using scarves to tie someone up is not a good idea because they are hard to untie and can easily cut off circulation.

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I think these questions are quite common even for "naturals," most especially from dominant types. How does one go about a healthy and mutually respectful power exchange relationship? Our society offers no answers for that. We only have two standard models: egalitarian, and bigoted (in the case of ruling male and passive female, sexism).

So if you want to be dominant, how do you go about that if you aren't a sexist? No answers from society. And as I said, a lot of guys struggle with the way society might perceive them for being in this kind of relationship.

Think about this for a second. From a purely mechanical level, how would you go about dominating a woman for whom you have respect? You don't have to be kinky to consider this question. You just have to imagine what actions you could perform that would convey dominance in a meaningful way, without acting like a sexist asshole.

Sort of hard to answer, isn't it?

That's the problem new male Doms run into, whether they're "naturals" or "learners." It's not because there are no answers -- there's actually millions. But it's hard to answer because our social concept of it is so tainted.

In some respects, I think Dommes have it a little easier while learning -- they have less bad programming to overcome in order to answer that question.

Some people are under-thinking it, some people are over-thinking it. My answer to questions like that is that you figure it out by getting to know someone, talking to them about what they want when things get to that stage, and knowing what you yourself are comfortable with.

Personally, I try to meet people at the level where they're the most comfortable. I generally come off as a shameless troll (even moreso IRL than online, in fact), but what people actually get is carefully edited based on my consideration for my target audience.

What causes the most difficulty is trying to put what you're up to into the context of the world around you and the relationship models advertised by society. If you're not doing what everyone else is doing, you can't compare yourself to others. You have to make up your own rules, stick to them when they work, and adjust them when they don't. Seeing something everywhere you go (such as "traditional" marriage) does not mean you're the target audience.

"I am not the target audience" is something I find myself muttering pretty much every day. :)
 
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