How the hell are you "not compatible" in the first place? If the plug fits in the socket, then you're compatible. Not fully enjoying it is extremely shallow grounds for not having a relationship, by definition.
Holy crap :shock: Is that all you think good sex entails? Sticking a plug in a socket? Let me ask you something... you think you would enjoy it if that 'socket' just laid there and didn't move? Wasn't the slightest bit interested? If she just spread her legs and said, "Get it over with?"
On the flip side, most women aren't going to orgasm just by sticking plug in a socket. Additionally, there are multiples ways to do even THAT. Slow and easy, Slow and Deep, Slow and shallow, Fast and deep, fast and hard, fast and shallow, Fast and shallow, shallow, shallow then deep. So on and so forth. I've been with guys that moved with the speed of molasses, and that did NOTHING for me. I've been with guys that were a ****ing jackhammer, and that did nothing for me.
Don't you think kissing is part of sex? What about talking? What if your partner talks and talks and talks and all it does is distract you? But what if they NEED that in order to get off?
What if oral sex is the only way she can get off and you don't like doing that?
There are so many damn ways that a couple can be incompatible that it would be impossible for me to touch on them all.
But let me assure you: Sex is more than 'sticking a plug in a socket'. And if you think that's 'shallow', so be it. But all that tells me is that you have little, if any, experience with sex.
Why would you be celibate just because you don't enjoy sex with someone? That doesn't make any sense. It would be like starving because you're not fond of the only thing you're able to eat. It would be much more sensible to teach them how to do it better if you're a sexpert, or get counseling.
Teaching them how to do it better doesn't always work. First, they have to be willing. Second, doing it better for you also needs to work for them, sometimes it doesn't. And no amount of counseling is going to change what I need to orgasm.
I would want to remain celibate because why would I want to do something I don't enjoy and that in the end, is only going to frustrate the **** out of me. You can't equate it to eating, because eating satisfies a hunger regardless. Having sex does NOT satisfy a hunger regardless.
So why would I want to have sex with a man I no longer desire since we are completely incompatible? Why would I want to have sex with someone when I KNOW I'm not going to enjoy it? What would be the point?