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Moderation, yes. And I think people place far too little importance on propriety.
I'm much more sexual than people give me credit for, mostly because I don't discuss my sexual practices in exquisite detail with strangers or in public, and because I don't engage in blatant public displays of "affection". Nor do I avail myself of every opportunity just because I can.
It's one thing to be open and honest. It's another thing entirely to be indiscreet.
I agree. Although propriety can be measured subjectively. I like to think of it as 'knowing your audience.' I have friends that I know I can talk about sex with very frankly and graphically because we trust each other and are on the same page with our attitudes. Then there is everyone else where candor is doled out based on instincts and observation. I've had many internet arguments with young people about the merits of what they refer to as 'honesty' (ie, saying whatever is on their mind at any time regardless of how it affects the people around them). They see it as noble and truthful. I see it as crass and lazy. But I digress, I suppose...
I guess my point is, and I'm almost sure that you would agree with me, that there is a disappointing decline in the art of conversation - maintaining dignity, measuring one's words, playing to your audience. But then, maybe it's just that I am too old to understand these damn kids these days. They drive me insane. heh.