"Over 300 pounds?" No, not necessarily.
Substantially overweight and out of shape, on the other hand? Yes, it's quite common.
I mean... Have you
seen the
obesity rate lately?
Granted, the UK's not quite so bad in this regard as the US... but it's not a whole lot better either.
UK Obesity - Prevalency and Trends
I'm sorry, but the odds are - unless your guy's a twig or a fitness freak - he's eventually going to wind up with a "bear" body and a beer gut at least somewhat reminiscent of the man I pictured. It's pretty normal, in point of fact.
I think you might be spending too much time around young "starving artist" types. :lol:
Well... Again, I'm sorry, but the fact of the matter is that, for the vast majority of people, looks matter to sexual attraction.
Don't mistake me here. I'm not saying that they're a "deal breaker" in and of themselves, per se, in an otherwise loving relationship. However, they do matter, on at least some level.
You keep trying to claim that they don't for you. However, given that your responses to the issue so far have ranged between evasion, and denial (i.e. my guy would never get that fat!), I'm not entirely sure that you're being honest here... Either with me, or yourself.
I have answered your question perfectly. You just refuse to accept it unless the answer is, "Yes, Greg, I'm just as shallow as you." Sorry, that's not my answer.
Dude, that guy is over 300 pounds, and even most flabby middle aged guys are nowhere near that size. The fact that you think he is merely "overweight" is honestly a bit troubling, sociologically speaking. He is morbidly obese, not "overweight." Again, where do you live? What on earth are things like where you're from? I spent a total of about 22 years living in America, and that was never "normal." Anyway...
I didn't say he wouldn't. I said it's an absurd example, in the same way the guy covered in sores was an absurd example. Most people -- even most people who are out of shape -- don't weigh 300 pounds. If they do, they are in desperate need of medical help, and that is the aspect that would have me frazzled: his poor damn heart. I want him
alive, fit or not. As a very distant second to the first-place concern of him staying alive, I might be concerned he wouldn't be able to keep up with me at all. That would hurt our sex life obviously, but not because I wouldn't want sex.
What makes you think my guy's a twig? He's not much into fitness really. Is he in the best shape in the world? No. He's in good enough shape to do what he does on an average day (and this being London, that may be more than your average suburban American who basically never gets out of their car, but it isn't as though he runs marathons, and "London fit" is basically from the hips down). Between the two ridiculous extremes you posted, he's probably somewhere right in the middle -- like most human beings on earth.
You sure do make a lot of dumb assumptions about who I spend my time with.
Like I said, when I reflect on my history, I don't see this as meaningful to the quality of sex I have with a given partner, apart from the negative impact that being very out of shape has on stamina. And I've got a fairly good sampling of body types to work with.
In this particular relationship, I find it hard to envision a level of attraction higher than the one I currently have, despite the fact there he has room to be more fit than he is. Like, I cannot mathematically envision a way it could be improved, because all metrics through which I might measure that are already as full as they can be, if I were to give them a percentage.
I mean, if you must know. So I don't know how it could be improved from where it currently is. The answer to your question is no. There's nowhere to go from "every aspect of attraction I can think of is as good as it can possibly be." That can't be improved.
This OP is "does getting plastic surgery improve sex," and my answer is "not unless you partner is horribly shallow." Everyone here who has ever been in a real relationship agrees with me.
Your unwillingness to accept my answer does not mean it hasn't been given.
Also, you trying to tell people how they feel in their relationships, when you've never even had a real relationship, and everyone here who HAS disagrees with you, is a bit of a laugh. What on earth would you know about it? You seem to believe you only start loving someone after they've already married you, and even then only out of obligation. And that's one reason of a million you just can't get your head around this.