If that is the case, they were able to fool me into believing they were women, but in any case I was not uncomfortable. But honestly, women (and I presume men) use public restrooms for many more purposes than just having to pee. Sometimes it is necessary to change clothes for whatever reason, or fix a broken bra strap, or any number of cases that expose you more than you would be comfortable with men looking on.
I just don't see why the feelings and preferences of the huge majority of women and men who prefer same sex public restrooms are less important that the opinions and feelings of the few who don't want to allow that. Or why adding a unisex restroom wouldn't solve the problem for everybody.
Trans women are not men. They are women.
Do you obsess over whether there might be lesbians looking on... somehow... from inside your stall? I doubt it.
I have never seen a woman change in the common area of a bathroom in my entire life, and I have been in many bathrooms over the years. You act as though women's bathrooms aren't composed pretty much entirely of stalls.
But honestly, in front of that group? I probably wouldn't have cared.
The people who scare me most, in the event of peakage, are the ones who view women as so alien that they feel we must be segregated from each other in order for society to work -- the ones who are moaning the loudest about trans people wanting to pee in peace. Those are the people who are likely to tout crap like "she was asking for it," because they don't believe that people who don't adhere to their rules are deserving of decency. Those are the people who assault trans folk.
But those are not the sort of people who support giving trans people the right to pee in peace. Those people give zero ****s. The folks at Pride yesterday? I'd feel perfectly safe in any state in that bathroom.
This is an attitude problem, not some sort of problem of nature. Places the world over -- including some of the West -- don't have these strict segregations, and they're not getting raped in bathrooms every day (or ever, at least by trans people -- there is not a single case of that ever happening).
With adding a third unisex bathroom, you would basically be forcing every business and public building to make an additional bathroom that their floorplan doesn't account for. I don't think America should spend millions of dollars on placating some people's transphobia and inability to even deal with being at the same sink as them, when it's much easier and cheaper for them to just grow up and leave trans people alone.
I also dislike the stench of "we're still denying that you are your gender" that goes with forcing them into a unisex bathroom, but no one else. These are people with some of the highest suicide risks in the country. Can we please just stop taking pot shots at them?
Ideally, I'd just neutralize everything. Then we can just end this whole silly debate. But I'd be fine with just keeping the tired old binary and letting trans people go where they feel they need to. And for people to be so frightened of them that they won't extend a basic courtesy to preserve the safety and the lives of one of the most discriminated against minorities in America in just beyond me.
We need to just get over this. This is not worth people suffering for. This is not worth 70% of trans people being assaulted and harassed in bathrooms.
When the completely arbitrary preferences of most Americans are causing a group of people to be assaulted every time they try to pee, I think they have to change. America is for everyone.
We have changed lots of times, when our arbitrary preferences where causing a group to suffer. And that is always the correct response.