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Sex - and poor timing

Aunt Spiker

Aunt Spiker

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How often, do you suppose, you let sexual urges become the most important thing? Like - having sex and being late to class/work though otherwise nothing would have kept you from getting there on time. Or staying up too late and then having sex when you should be sleeping - thus waking up exhausted the next day.
 
Meh, being 5 minutes late is no big deal. :lol:
 
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How often, do you suppose, you let sexual urges become the most important thing? Like - having sex and being late to class/work though otherwise nothing would have kept you from getting there on time. Or staying up too late and then having sex when you should be sleeping - thus waking up exhausted the next day.
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Staying up too late? Maybe... once a week?
 
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How often, do you suppose, you let sexual urges become the most important thing? Like - having sex and being late to class/work though otherwise nothing would have kept you from getting there on time. Or staying up too late and then having sex when you should be sleeping - thus waking up exhausted the next day.
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The clock has no power over the ****
 
Should I assume here that you are talking about the me of 40 years ago and not the me of today?
 
When I am getting ready for work or an important appointment, that is where my focus is. Sex, at least for me, is more than a bodily response to an urge. Spontaneity is cool, but when the heart ain't in it, it ain't going. Who needs sleep? :lol:
 
Probably less so than I used to. There's a good bit riding on my shoulders on any given day and that requires attention. Lately I have been thinking about how weird sex is actually. The urge is there a lot, but even in those times where its a multi-hour (or multi-day sometimes) marathon of awesomeness, the physical urge never truly gets satisfied but for maybe a day or two. The urge itself is easy to live with, easier as I get older, but I dunno, there are so many ways to satisfy a soul other than sex. Too much sex and I miss out on other cool things like a good documentary, book, movie, cooking an awesome meal, hanging out with friends or family, exploring the city, finishing some personal project, being a good parent and helping the kids achieve something, or hell just relaxing in bed in warm blankets.

Sex is awesome, but so are many things in life. I spent years having sex virtually every day or every other day and I wasn't really any more satisfied with life than during the times where sex wasn't frequent. I still worried about money, the kids, etc. Other things do seem more satisfying, like a good hang out with the GF while making dinner or planning some project we want to do, or time with friends/family/other loved ones, or other forms of awesomeness that surround me and await my participation.

I have had vanilla missionary style sex. I have done other things that were not so vanilla. There was no real difference in my satisfaction level beyond the ego boost of doing some really kinky things and feeling awesome about that achievement. Doing creative things didn't make me a better or more awesome person though. What did satisfy me was passion and closeness but that seems to be more vanilla in the physical aspects, at least for me. I think the best is having sex between myself and a lady where we truly care about each other.

To each their own though.

I will say though that having sex come as a surprise while focused on another thing is a unique form of awesomeness as that tends to be very passionate, close, and often results in those moments where time is lost in some bubble where the rest of the world doesn't exist. That is the best sex and sometimes it means you end up late for something else, but yeah, I wouldn't fall into that mode if that something else I am late for was a big deal as I wouldn't be able to let go of myself due to worry I would be late, lol.
 
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It used to bother me that people behind us would honk and scream when the light turned green and they had to wait. Not so much anymore. I tune them out.
 
And, here I thought this was a thread about pulling out and counting days before and after menstruation.
 
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How often, do you suppose, you let sexual urges become the most important thing? Like - having sex and being late to class/work though otherwise nothing would have kept you from getting there on time. Or staying up too late and then having sex when you should be sleeping - thus waking up exhausted the next day.
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When my marriage was good, it was good, awesome, and I didn't give a **** about being late for work or class. I'll take the write up or whatever, my wife was more important.

The HR manager would hand me the form. A section read "reason for tardiness". I wrote "intimate relations with spouse". He tossed out the write up :)
 
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How often, do you suppose, you let sexual urges become the most important thing? Like - having sex and being late to class/work though otherwise nothing would have kept you from getting there on time. Or staying up too late and then having sex when you should be sleeping - thus waking up exhausted the next day.
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Stay up late? often but im not exhausted. When we are together and have to get up early typically we are in bed early too. I can squeak by with 4hrs (5 is what i get a lot) of sleep and not be exhausted. Typically we are in bed 8-10 hrs before its time to get up.

Late for work? not typically but it has happened on occasion, we just make it a quickie.
 
I don't punch a clock now so it doesn't really affect me. But back when my wife (then girlfriend) first started living with me I was in the Army and I would go home for a nooner almost every day. So I was always late getting back from lunch. Eventually my superior officer did call me out on the extended lunches and I had to put an end to the nooners. But I don't regret it.
 
So you'd prefer we'd be distracted with thoughts of sex all day at work, instead of being late and getting it out of our system...
 
It happens more now than it did before we had a baby. We have to take what time we can now, even if it's late and we're going to be tired the next day.
 
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