I'm reading a book written by a marriage counselor . . . In it the counselor presents a few statements on men and respect. I wanted to get the guy's responses on how they feel about this topic / these views.
(Note: the book is written for married couples with issues, so I'm generalizing these statements to make them applicable to dating couples as well. Sometimes the author interrupts his sentences with parentheticals which I've removed from quote.)
In the book he contends that: "A [man] needs respect just as he needs air to breathe."
1) In support of his view, her explores this situation which was presented in a study done of over 400 men:
Q) If they were forced to choose one of the follow which would they prefer to endure:
A) to be left alone and unloved in the world.
B) To feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone.
2)
Another point made:
"Men don't know how to deal with the fact that they are aren't respected, and they can't put a voice to their feelings."
3)
Another point:
When the [female] flatly says her [male partner] will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves him in a lose-lose situation. Now he's responsible for both love and respect in the relationship.
4)
Lastly:
The way to fully love a [man] is to respect in him ways that are meaningful to him.
--- So to any of the above, how do you feel about it?
Do you think that our nation's over-emphasis on 'love' and under-emphasis on 'respect' has caused a lot of relationship issues AND both should be fostered for a healthier relationship between the two?
[Reference: Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson]