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How important are looks to you?

They are somewhat important to me, but not very important.

What's more important to me is personality and comparability.

If I weren't celibate, well, i am open to many things, but i don't want to be in a one way relationship where i do all the work, i wouldn't want to be with someone who was abusive, bossy, or manipulative, or was always trying to change me for some reason or other.

What would like is someone who genuinely loved, admired, and respected me, and a companion that i can share things with and and do things with. Such as say play Minecraft all Sunday with me, or go for a walk, or go to a museum or something like that.

But that's just me.

So, I repeat the question. how important are looks to you?
 
Less and less with the passing of every day.
 
To me the face is the most important. And the eyes most important part of face.

But looks are not the most important thing to me. But then again eyes are window to soul they say.
 
Well, obviously, there's got to be enough physical "oomph" there to get excited over in the first place. Any kind of sexual relationship is really kind of a non-starter without it. :shrug:

What exactly that means in practical reality, however, can vary considerably. It can also be swung one way or the other by the effects of a good (or bad) personality.

Suffice to say, while I'm certainly looking for a "beautiful" woman to settle down with, my definition of that may not necessarily mesh with the conventional definition. She need merely be beautiful to me. As far as that's concerned, it's entirely possible for an outwardly beautiful woman to be made ugly through a bad personality, or an outwardly more average woman to be made beautiful through the effects of a good personality (within reasonable limits, anyway).

It's a "case-by-case" kind of thing.
 
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ecofarm said:
Well, I had competition. I forget the poster's name that posted his on occasion.

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Just trying to do my part to get you lots of traffic for your pics.
 
Gardener said:
Just trying to do my part to get you lots of traffic for your pics.
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I just want to make clear that I only took **** pics because I was provoked.
 
Gathomas88 said:
It can also be swung one way or the other
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Damn, man. You had me there for just a second.

I read through too fast and thought you said "I can swing one way or the other".
 
ecofarm said:
I just want to make clear that I only took **** pics because I was provoked.
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No prob.

The ones you texted me were much better, anyway.
 
Could we please have a serious discussion on this?
 
Very important in the beginning. Back in my single days I just wouldn't be motivated to ask out a woman I didn't find physically attractive. If they were hot I would ask them out. If I found out during the date they had an ugly personality then I would lose interest.

Now, there were occasions in which I got to know more plain looking women before I was ever interested in dating them. Perhaps they sat next to me in class, or were colleagues, or we were friends. Over time I might BECOME physically attracted to them because I liked their personality. But that takes time.

So initially it is important but the longer I get to know someone the less important it is.
 
BrewerBob said:
Very important in the beginning. Back in my single days I just wouldn't be motivated to ask out a woman I didn't find physically attractive. If they were hot I would ask them out. If I found out during the date they had an ugly personality then I would lose interest.

Now, there were occasions in which I got to know more plain looking women before I was ever interested in dating them. Perhaps they sat next to me in class, or were colleagues, or we were friends. Over time I might BECOME physically attracted to them because I liked their personality. But that takes time.

So initially it is important but the longer I get to know someone the less important it is.
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Exactly. Frankly, I think that's kind of the way it's supposed to work.

Physical attractiveness is, at the end of the day, basically a "quick scan" way of measuring both general genetic fitness, and genetic compatibility on a more personalized basis. Sex ultimately serves the ends of reproduction (whether we like it or not), so we're instinctually wired to place a certain amount of importance on such appraisals, in the interests of creating the best possible offspring.

While it's certainly possible for a person to come back from a less than stellar first appraisal, it's generally going to take a while for them to prove themselves (for lack of a better word) "worthy" of the consideration on those other grounds.
 
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Allow me to elucidate my point:

People that aren't good looking claiming that looks don't matter is self serving. It doesn't really mean anything. For the claim to have substance, it must be made by a good looking person. For example, an analogy: ask any small-penised guy if penis size matters and they will say no. Well, I have an experiment for those guys to conduct: keep it dark and wear a prosthetic. After, ask the woman if size matters and I bet you get a different response.
 
I'm a "package" guy, I'm looking at the whole package. But I don't think everybody sees things precisely the same; some like long faces, for example, some like more rounded faces, etc.
 
Looks are important, but I think their importance wanes with age and maturity. It's a trait, and one that you largely cannot control.
 
I feel like there's a huge amount of social pressure to say "Oh, looks don't matter, it's personality that counts!" It's rather similar to the social pressure to be "unselfish" or pretend that you don't have financial motivation, and it's just as stupid and bankrupt (heh). Everyone cares about looks, even if they don't know it. Animals choose their mates primarily based on looks, and while in some cases looks may not be our primary motivation - though often they are, despite our reluctance to admit it - they are the cause of our first attraction to someone and play an enormous role in shaping our perceptions of others.

So yeah, personally, looks are important to me. I know it would be very hard for me to be in a relationship with a guy I considered physically unattractive, and I'll readily admit it.
 
ecofarm said:
Mine or others'?

Mine are rather important to me. Others' not so much.
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Sorry, couldn't resist.
 
I do obsess a bit on my own looks. I admit it. I work out religiously, never eat too much, and still worry about everything.

I also couldn't be with anyone that I am not physically attracted to. Okay, never mind. The rest would probably be offensive to somebody.
 
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