So you are saying you are restrained since your partner explains they want a closed relationship and tell you what cheating is to them? So in other words you cant stay committed. If that is the case why get in a relationship?
No, my relationship is easy & comfortable - the way I believe it should be.
We have mutual core values, try to use respect, care, and consideration for each other, and try not to be containing or demanding of each other.
From the day I met her we had a great symbioses, even though we come from different cultures and races a half a globe apart. There was no 'work', 'rules' or 'demands' - we just 'fit'. We thought alike, even with a slight language difference.
So I married her (in 8 mos).
Whenever I start hearing about relationships requiring 'rules' or 'hard work', I shudder! I've had relationships like that, and they failed. This one has been fun, easy, and breezy, and I like it just that way!
She had to go back to Asia (without me) relatively early in our marriage to dispose of & liquidate her family's estate - it took 5 mos. We only got to talk once a week. During the entire time I never felt stressed or worried about her, our relationship, or how she was conducting herself; because her values & the way she conducts herself are shockingly similar to mine. And sure enough, when she got back & discussed the details of her trip, her actions & judgement were virtually how I would've handled every one of her situations.
We never much discussed the things on your list when dating prior to marriage, though they may have come up 'here & there' in conversation, but I do not recall them specifically. All we did was open-up our finances to make sure there were no surprises, and we assured ourselves there were no other kids or marriages in our pasts that could resurface (we were both married once before, each with children).
And that was that - nearly two decades ago, and nothing has changed since (except the kids got raised!).
[In full disclosure: We are both Roman Catholic, so perhaps that may explain the core values symmetry - I don't know]